AIBU to expect proper condom disposal and not being left inside me?

I agree. I really don't understand this attitude some women have where they must have a partner, and anyone will do rather than no-one at all because they can't possibly not have one.

You are also responsible for your own sexual health alongside what everyone else has said against him on this thread. I don't know how you're finding condoms inside you. That isn't normal.

Lolz, Facebook shaggleplace 😆

Well this thread went nasty quite quickly. No one knows this ladies circumstances, people need to see she came here for advice not judgement.
He sounds like an absolute wanker if I’m honest with you, I am sure you can do better.
Seeing the responses where you put yourself down upset me because I can relate. I say I’m old, fat and ugly too but the people I’m around put me in my place and tell me not to be so silly, it’s hard not to be hard on oneself when they have had a lifetime of others putting me down so I know how you feel.
Do you have friends? I ask because I don’t but I think it would help. Don’t be hard on yourself I am sure you are an amazing person, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Dump this guy and find one that you can be friends with first. I wish I could offer more advice but I’m not so great at this stuff either x

You have my sympathy OP, not just for the unfortunate events with this appalling specimen, but also for the hammering you’ve taken from some deeply unpleasant and judgemental types on here.
Pit of vipers indeed.

Christ alive

@Slv199 I’m so pleased to hear you’ve decided not to sleep with this man again.

But I wanted to say that you’re absolutely not the only person this has happened to. When I was much younger a new partner left a condom inside me. I didn’t even notice, and travelled away for work the next day. Where my story differs from yours though, is that thankfully he realised what might have happened and asked, so I found it. He was suitably mortified, and (after a negative pregnancy test) the relationship carried on for a good while longer.

Please don’t resign yourself to a lifetime of purple cats.. just set your bar a little higher than it was for this one x

Yuck. At worst he’s gross and has absolutely no respect for you. At worst he’s abusing you. How can you have this man around your children?

Dump him and get a tested.

That's most unpleasant.

I, myself, remove my member gently and take off the soiled condom, with a swift knotting action (taught to me by a sailor) I twirl it about my head and let it go - and one hopes it deposits itself (and contents) in Slough.

Regrettably to date I have only managed to achieve Staines.

OP and PP, as Ross discovered on Friends - even used correctly (ie not left inside the vagina!) condoms are far from 100% effective against pregnancy. About 80%.

Cats, purple, wine, cheese and books. Don't threaten me with a good time indeed!

What is the difference between 3/4 times and 3/4 occasions?

The advice about peeing after sex is correct OP. Nobody's partner is putting his penis into their urinary tract, but generally if you're having vaginal sex the man's penis will rub up against your urethral opening, so bacteria can enter it and ascend the (relatively short) distance to the bladder, where they multiply and give you a UTI. If you pee after sex, then any bacteria that are lurking at the entrance to your urethra will get washed away by your urine - which until it leaves your body is sterile, so perfectly equipped for the job.
I won't weigh in on your chap as you've had plenty of input on him.

Might be worth having a read up on this OP.

it’s very good advice especially as you have a daughter.

common for UTIs to be triggered/caused by sex.

Top answer DairyDebris😆

OP please don’t be so down on yourself

Wtf! How is ‘leaving inside’ even possible?? Ick x 1m

You said you’ve only slept with him 3 or 4 times. He’s left a condom in you twice and the other once or twice he’s left it in the bed. I’m now confused after reading your posts how do you not know if it’s 3/4 times?

Good idea re music festivals.

I love cats and purple. Don't threaten me with a good time.

OP, you can't be that old if pregnancy is still a possibility so I'm going to take a punt that you're not hideous either. And even if you are in fact 500 years old and incredibly fat and ugly, you still don't deserve to be treated like this. Some men really are completely disgusting.

Surely you'd be changing the bedsheets before your 12 year daughter slept in the bed anyway...