AIBU to expect proper condom disposal and not being left inside me?

He must be using the wrong size condoms if they're coming off and being left up inside you?! That's not normal at all. And leaving it in the bed is rank?! I've never ever met any man, including teen boys who would do that.

At worst it might just get tied up and thrown on the floor, then retrieved the next morning. But only if it was in his own house. Even that is not what I'd expect from a middle aged man!

I'm not sure why he's doing this? Unless he's just clueless about condom use due to having not used one for decades? It seems odd and I'd be really turned off.

That's no reason to have sex with men who act like this and you can't even say the basics to pull them up on it. I know you say you've not much experience, but you're a long way into adulthood and I'm shocked that you've let this get so far. Ditch this guy, don't shag anyone who you can't classify as nice no matter where they live, and get over not talking about condom etiquette. It's way too important.

I think you should make an appointment for a full screen at the GUM clinic.

Dump the bloke, he either is thick as fuck or he's doing it deliberately.

No reason just to choose any old scum bag just to have a boyfriend. Make your standards higher.

Sorry OP, I think you already know that that is completely gross and unacceptable. And probably illustrative of a man who is inconsiderate in other areas of life.

You don't deserve this.

Jeez, that's grim! Nothing can excuse that behaviour from him, I'm afraid, and you don't have to accept it, nor get into the situation where you might have to deal with it.

Not remotely normal. You need a pregnancy test, STI test and a much nicer new boyfriend OP.

WTF inside you - whats wrong with him!

Disgusting lazy piece of trash. Yuck. Ditch him.

Sorry but how does this happen (repeatedly) without you knowing??

I had this happen once with someone I was sleeping with but we were both so drunk I put it down to that. I would definitely realise generally!

As others have said, get rid of this one. He is at best disgusting and at worse abusive.

Indeed. How can you have sex with someone but not be able to talk about it? Something sounds very wrong with your relationship.

He is wearing the wrong size and you are not protected. He is putting his ego above your safety. Get an STD and pregnancy test and dump the bastard.

You need sexual health screening and a pregnancy test. Oh, and dump your boyfriend, he's not a good man.

Inside you?? More than once?? And his response wasn’t “oh fuck the condoms come off”?

I wouldn’t ever be having sex with him again.

In writing this post @Slv199 im assuming you’ve got the terminal ICK for this guy?

if not, why the fuck not?

HE IS REVOLTING 🤢

That’s disgusting. Get rid of him.

I don’t understand how he could leave it inside you? Isn’t the point of a condom that it stays on the whole time so should come out when his penis comes out?

In the bed is also gross and totally unnecessary because presumably he goes and cleans off afterwards so why not take it with him?!

He sounds dirty and vile honestly. Have you been to his place? Does he do the same there? Does he have a messy house generally?

As others have said, the fact you can’t address this with him means he is not the man for you.

The fact he is doing this at all means he’s not the man for anyone, btw. It’s so far outside the realms of normal behaviour it’s completely impossible he’s unaware.

He’s doing it out of disrespect (best case scenario) or for an actively manipulative reason such as to try and get you pregnant or harm your relationship with your kids (worst case scenario).

Leaving it inside is delibrate, otherwise there would be a convo of "I think its slipped off" dump him and go get a full screening

This is disgusting op 😡 he belongs in the bin, what a horrible thing to happen Jesus.

Gross