AIBU to expect proper condom disposal and not being left inside me?

all this

Having a fuckton of cats would be a vast upgrade to your current situation. Don't leave your condom in me, leaving me open to pregnancy and STDs or dumping it in the bed like my home is your personal rubbish bin. is the most basic of standards

Only twice?! It shouldn't happen once! If the condom is inside you then it hasn't protected you against anything.

This is not ok at all.

Babe, I don't care if you're jabba the hut, you most definitely can do better than a man who treats your vagina as a bin.

I love this. Great affirmation! Thank you

When he leaves them in you he is literally treating you like a bin. Like a mere convenience. I’m with the others, OP - get rid.

You are NOT old fat and ugly. .
You can't be old if there a risk of pregnancy.
You have kids so clearly you have the body that creates kids. Like most of us I would hazard a guess this means you have an apron of jiggly fat and a body that has some stretch marks and lots of cellulite. Who cares? That body also gave you your children and just cos you're weathered and not a size whatever has no bearing at all on not being attractive.
ugly - in the eyes of the beholder. The ugliest people I know are deemed attractive by society. Plus lots of people think 'pretty' = skinny. Not the case - lots of skinny people don't have pretty faces.
This man does not deserve you. Do not accept shitty behaviour. You don't owe him anything - espiecially not sex.
Id bet anything he didn't make you orgasm three times and call you fucking gorgeous during sex. Don't accept anything less.

How on earth can he 'leave it inside you'?
That's not accidental - it is intentional ..... & it is abuse.
Get rid.

Sweetie, you shouldn't be having sex with someone you can't have this conversation with

Cats and wearing purple vs a gross fucker who leaves condoms for your kids to find or inside you when you’ve only slept together 4 times?

I choose cats and purple. I’d even rather a purple cat. I’d call her Purrrrple.

Anyway I don’t care if you look like how my great aunt Tabitha’s bedsores smelt, you can do fucking better than this.

Surely to goodness it didn't take Mumsnet to point out the high risk of pregnancy and STD?

Why on earth would him not using the bin be the most pressing issue here???

If you are not even able to have a conversation with him about this, why are you having sex with him?

Please put your new partner in the bin.

This term isn't a catch-all that absolves women of all agency and responsibility, adding to their disempowerment. It's apt for many circumstances, but here it feels like OP is better recognising that she's not some passive shag for this guy and can and must advocate for herself and not stand for any of this in future.

Do you honestly think that being shagged by grim bastards like this is better? You don't need to punch down to feel better either. Respect - and self-respect - is more important, and old, fat and ugly people are worthy of love and being treated decently, sometimes by other old fat and ugly people who are also worthy of love.

Having had this happen to me once I can assure you it's possible- in my case we were drunk and he (presumably) lost his erection so it slipped off inside and neither of us noticed. It fell out of me the following day (tmi sorry).

You can’t be that old if there’s a risk of pregnancy. And aside from that you need to value yourself so much more. You seriously believe you’re “ugly” and therefore the best you are worthy of is a horrible, lazy, dirty slob stealthing you, which is sexual assault? Please dump this idiot and seek some counselling and work on yourself.

Seriously OP, don't have sex with him again. I'd be worried sick if someone left a condom inside me. If he's going to take care and use one, then it's odd he's not ensuring he's taking it out with him.

Can’t we stop victim blaming the op now?!

Wtaf are you doing OP? Do you really value yourself so little?

Dump this disease of a man.

I don’t understand. Is it kind of bunched up inside you or hanging out a bit like a female condom would? Never heard of this happening unless it broke and it’s pieces inside

This!!!

I can't even imagine how that might happen.