AIBU to expect proper condom disposal and not being left inside me?

That's so disgusting and disrespectful.

A dating group for single parents is screaming red flags. Lots of men target single mothers for bad reasons.
Some think the women are desperate and shit men will be in with a chance, some will prey on them to gain access to their children. Some will think the woman will be keen to move him in and provide accommodation, sex and food for him.

The happiest section of society by far, from several studies, are childfree, single women. Enjoy the utter bliss of being rid of males. It's the best thing you can do for yourself.

I've never in my life had a sexual partner who hasn't disposed of the condom once done. Urgh. That would be one and done for me!

I am old, love my cat and wear purple. Also have a partner that treats me with love and respect.

Can't work out if you are being facetious Op or truly believe some of the stuff you are writing about yourself.

I can’t work out the logistics here. I used condoms for years and years but I’d feel it inside of me? And surely any man would feel it come off? Anyway, super gross and confusing and you obviously need to be done with this.

Gosh you're getting a hard time on here. I'd bin him off tbh because I'd see it as he thinks it's below him to dispose of a condom. Either by leaving it in your bed or inside you. A gross misogyny.

You could talk to him but if he's got to his age and thinks its acceptable I wouldn't hold out much hope tbh.

I didn't say that.
My judgement is levelled at him the rapist not you his victim.
Please speak to someone about what HE has done to you, this is not your fault

..,,something is feeling a bit “off”

He's treating you, your vagina and your bed like a wastebin.

Which is, objectively, much worse than cats and purple.

What? 🤢

I think that PP was saying HE was doing it purposefully, not that you were allowing it.

Preferable, imo.

So out of the 3 or 4 times you've had sex with this man hes left a condom inside of you twice. Thats not an accident thats a purposeful act (unless he has a micro penis that is too small to keep them on).

But the purple wearing lady in the poem was planning on having a rare old time. Nothing to fear in her imagined future 😉🧓

he's repellent. dump dump dump dump dump.

And it's happened twice

That's an odd reasoning,

but as most men are not complete freak, why not upping your standards and only have relationships with decent ones 😂

How do you even mistakenly leave a condom inside someone? Multiple times? It’s the equivalent of throwing litter on the floor and saying you didn’t realise.

It’s either on purpose either for sinister reasons or he has so little respect he thinks he can literally dispose of his used condom in you. And disrespecting your home to leave a slimy condom lying in your bed. Who tf does that

Men shag dead people and animals, you can raise your standards, you'll still be fuckable

Cats are infinitely preferable to this man. He is utterly grim.

I’m hearing tough love. Being a cat lady beats this.

When you say leaving them inside you.. are they full? Are they still in the same position? Or bunched up as if he's taken them off, left them in and kept going?

It sounds like your self esteem is quite low, @Slv199 and it’s hard to make good decisions when that is the case.

Obviously pregnancy test and std clinic are the priority here, but is there something you could do just for yourself?

When I was low, a very kind mnetter explained to me that building boundaries (what I had asked about) starts with finding moments to be kind to myself. I’ve forgotten her username, but I have often thought of her because it was exactly what I needed to hear to turn my life around, starting with a cup of tea. Once I got used to being treated well by myself, I developed quite the intolerance of other people trying to treat me badly.