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AIBU to think old bangers and student dumps were character building?

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Renamedefault · 08/06/2026 00:30

My first car was a total shitheap. Clapped out. But I loved it, it gave me lots of anecdotes (like not being able to use the radio if the lights were on), and I genuinely appreciated working up to what I currently have.

Similarly, my first experience of living independently was at University, when me and three friends trawled the student area to rent a four bedroom dump, with a hole in one ceiling, a damp bathroom, and dubious furnishings, from someone who can only be described as a slum-lord.

We had some great times.

Nowadays new drivers tend to get something far more serviceable, even new, and a lot of students have modern, clean, well maintained accommodation.

Objectively I know nowadays is better but AIBU to think there was something about having a shitheap of a car and living in a dump that was sort of a rite of passage, something character building. Or am I just a nostalgic old git?

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AnythingFromAnyone · 08/06/2026 02:41

Definitely not. It was miserable and I’m glad my children have nice cars and lovely homes and did even as students.

Two of my friends actually died in one of their shitheap cars that was basically badly welded together and shouldn’t have been on the road, so I can’t see it through rose tinted glasses at all.

I am actually a landlord now and have a couple of homes that I rent to students, bought originally for my own children to live in at uni with their friends to avoid shit landlords. No mold, everything working and safe, as it should be.

I can’t get nostalgic for shit things! 😬

Secretseverywhere · 08/06/2026 02:39

I’m also a nostalgic old git. I do think you tend to kill your first car so best to do that in a banger but the living independently in the cheapest accommodation possible was character building.

Living off 10p noodles and cheap drinks from the student Union. I did quite a lot of solo backpacking after that and I think it really helped round me off as a person.