To be so pissed off I can’t sleep.

Make today you end it with him. Make that commitment to yourself - if only to the extent he never ever benefits from the contents of your wallet, your income, your credit cards etc.

Today’s rage will dull somewhat with time, but the promise/commitment made to never again give or spend on this arrogant, greedy, no conscience creton hopefully takes root. Take your financial power back and never let anyone use or take advantage of you again. Stay strong, remember this rage and say NO and repeat.

You don’t need to make up for a shit father , just continue being a good mum (which you are)
do better for all of you and get rid of this 🐓 of a man 😃

You don’t need mental health support because you are angry about this. You do need it because of your actions that have led up to this. You have enabled a situation that you are now angry about, and it’s not rational that you have acted as you have to get to this point. The other aspect is that this is terrible role modelling for your child. There is no shame in professional assistance in such a situation.

Why are you giving him finanical help and going to a movie and refueling his car like you are his wealthy mother?
Well time to put a stop to paying his way.
It maybe best to get a lawyer and sort out some child custody arrangements.
Do you really want to co parent as well as pay his way?
That income could be going on a holiday for you and your child while stepping out of parenting the dad.
You can not be angry as you are choosing to pay.
Or stay in the rut...is the holiday he is on with a woman...probably!
We all have issues but in comes boundries to protect ourselves.

Part of growing up is realising your parents are fallible and imperfect and accepting that and moving on.
Minimise contact and compartmentalise, grey rock people inc the ex if you feel they drag you down. This is your life now so take control, you set the boundaries.

You must let go of the anger, bitterness, resentment because you owe it to your child to be better for her. Move forward positively and make your own little family. Go on outings, just the two of you.

Treat every day like a school day and learn something new. Teach your daughter joy and positivity.

Try not to let your low mood reflect onto her because she will remember.💐

Wtf is wrong with you? This guy has USER tattooed right across his face and you can’t see it? STOP! Step back. Stop paying for anything.

You sound emotionally very young, OP, which makes sense if you have autism.

Stop giving this man any money, sort out access to your shared child through official channels, and spend some time establishing a comfortable, happy, complete life for yourself and your daughter without a man's involvement, as it doesn't sound like you're currently capable of establishing healthy relationship dynamics.

I'd work on that before thinking about dating. Being able to have strong boundaries, not needing a partner to give you validation, and having a good sense of self-worth, are all very important to avoid getting into toxic or unhealthy relationships. Your daughter needs you to be happy, healthy, and confident, and relationship drama doesn't help you to be those things.

Don't.

Your are not his mother.

See to your kid's needs and not his.

Putting your child in the middle of this weird "coparenting" setup was wholly unhealthy. So he was a shit dad and a shit relationship, he moves out and ye go on weird dates eith your kid around again? That's unhealthy... draw a line. He sees his kid via an access order, away from you.

I think the previous poster probably meant you could use some therapy to help get you to realise your self worth and prevent you from entering these type of relationships where you are completely used.

Great! That is your first step taken. Onwards and upwards.

Coparenting doesn't mean the lazy f er never has his child alone, it means you both share the parenting time.

He's taking advantage of you and your generosity. Stop paying for things for him and get the proper amount of maintenance you're entitled to

Dump him for your daughter's sake. He's using you. You dont want her life to be ruined by a father who lets people down. Nip it in the bud before it's too late. Why be nice to someone who isnt nice to you and shows you no respect. Just think about it. It doesnt make sense.

Why are you entertaining him? Are you hoping to get back together? If so, why?

I know, me too. It’s disgusting how these sorts of men use us.

there is hope, I’ve been with an ok one for 20years now. Still annoying at times but nothing like the rest. To find him we were friends for years first and he’s absolutely nothing like any of the others. I wasn’t being lined up to be used and abused this time.

just think about you and your DD for the next few years. That’s what I did with my DC. You focus on them, build yourself up and then the awful men look for a victim elsewhere.

You need to stop having anything to do with this horrible man.

anything you pay for is for you and your daughter, you do not pay for him.

I know it is hard, I have realised as an adult that I’m autistic too and have had a rubbish childhood. So you and I have a lot in common apart from I’m older. It makes it very hard to have a decent relationship as we don’t know what one is. In the past I have dated the scum of the earth who have all used and abused me. There are decent men out there who won’t use us because we have vulnerabilities x

So good I posted twice!

How on earth is any of this healthy for your child you need serious mental health help so maybe go to you gp

Resolve to break this ridiculous cycle of behaviour. He is taking you for a fool because you are behaving like a fool. Stop it now, this moment, for ever. Keep everything to a minimum with contact- why would you allow a man like this in yours and your child’s lives?
All of tonight’s anger and sleeplessness will be worth it if you hold your resolve. You can’t do anything about what’s happened in the past, but you can do something about how you allow yourself to be treated in the future

Resolve to break this ridiculous cycle of behaviour. He is taking you for a fool because you are behaving like a fool. Stop it now, this moment, for ever. Keep everything to a minimum with contact- why would you allow a man like this in yours and your child’s lives?
All of tonight’s anger and sleeplessness will be worth it if you hold your resolve. You can’t do anything about what’s happened in the past, but you can do something about how you allow yourself to be treated in the future