To be so pissed off I can’t sleep.

Well done OP. Be proud of yourself. But now is an absolutely crucial time. He will be home, broke and want nursing care and will be like the biggest bloodsucking leech ever who realises his usual endless bank card of cash, care and support has been cut off. He will fight to the death to restore the status quo. He will tell you everything you've ever wanted to hear. DO NOT LISTEN! Block. Do not let him wind you up. Be calm. You have seen the light and simply moved on. He will whine and say you are bitter and trying to punish him. Do not even engage. Let him wail whinge, and he will then move to threats probably. Don't forget if he thinks he can't get you (and not actually you but your cash, comfort and anything else he can simply use you for) back he will be very quickly move on to whatever fanny he can latch onto. Cash and low self esteem is what he wants. UUUGHHH. You are worth so much more. Your daughter deserves so much more. Together you can have your adventures without him x

You’ve realised you’ve been a mug and twat and doormat so good for being angry - now make a change. Stop doing all this stuff. Now.

Sorry, you asked about how you can enforce a boundary.

You enforce it by not giving in. So you hang up on calls, you block texts, you don't open the door. If they repeatedly come to your door then tell them once if they keep coming back you will call the police (harassment/stalking) and actually do it. You keep saying no.

Toddlers keep throwing tantrums if they know you will give in and abusive men use the same tactics. Both require ignoring. Also learn the art of grey rocking so he doesn't use DD to suck you back in - which means only talk about pick up/drop off times. Nothing else, not even if he asks for money so he can feed DD. If he can't feed her then he can't have her and he can explain to a judge/court why he can't. He. Is. No. Longer. Your. Problem. He is a judge's problem.

Good luck OP, you are starting off strong

I’m so proud of you! Xx

The more he speaks, the more he sounds like a massive cock.

He's now trying to make you feel sorry for him because he's got a hurty leg?

His piss up trip was a trial for a holiday for you and his DD?

What a joker, and what a massive bellend.

Ignore, ignore, ignore

xxx

OP you are smashing this huge change - I just love how you’ve embraced “stick a fork in me - I am done” and have run with it.
You will be 1 million times better off without this sponging dick wad in your life financially and emotionally 💪🏻
Go you 🙌🏻

‘You are welcome to take dd on holiday, after you’ve done regular overnights. If you want to request more contact like that do it on the app. All communication is to be about dd or your child support, and via the app.’

end.
have an awesome trip to Berlin! There must be a good book you can read about the best victory is a life well lived that can help you feel you’re getting your justice by blocking him and moving the fuck on because he is an irrelevant gnat on a horse’s arse.

Good for you OP!

Notice he's doing the whole "I've got something wrong with me waaaaahhh" crap to get your sympathy? Sod him.

Well done on telling him to sod off. If you ever feel yourself weakening, come straight here!

Yes a holiday he will expect you to pay for!
Don't be fooled!

You’re being so forgiving and kind and generous over and over because you hope it will make him love you, and you lovable.
It won’t. He isn’t capable of love - even for his daughter.
AND YOU ARE LOVABLE you don’t need to pay for being loved!!
let you anger look after you. It’s arrived to protect you. Let it.

🥳 well done, keep it up. You & DD deserve so much more.

So you should be proud of yourself!! Finally fighting back. Bet he is not only in pain but also in shock. 😁

Fantastic work!

Well done OP. Keep up the good work.

Bloody well done! 👏
He is spouting utter nonsense. The focus is all me me me.
Hold strong. You are a queen x

Good for you op bit late for regrets from him he’s a snake.

Well done! Not your problem!

It's hard but you just need to ignore and not respond to ANYTHING that doesn't concern your daughter. And even then it's should only be relevant communication.

Next time he asks to see her, ideally you should give him a list of days / times that he gets her. Exchange in a neutral location (shop carpark or library etc) with CCTV.

If he contacts you about anything other than DD, literally ignore. My DH found email much easier to communicate because for some reason it seems not as reactive as a text. So his ex who always caused issues, would be less problematic if she had to respond via email... which was ultimately court ordered anyway due to her constantly bombarding the phone.

Re CMS, if he doesn't pay it, chase CMS straight away. Did he make any comments about you going down this route?

Hi op you just need to be strong send him a message say I’m not doing this I’m done with you I hope your holiday was worth it. stop sending me stupid messages I mean it this time so go fuck yourself and only have contact for dd. He’s taking advantage as he sees you as easy to manipulate. Only you can stop him. Good luck. He’s a cunt and a tight arse as well.