To be sick of threads being removed ‘at the request of the author’

That's a very strong, disproportionate and honestly a revealing reaction.

I am now a "viper" because I used the words "overinvested" and "unhealthy attachment to drama". Neither an insult.... merely an observation based on your exact stated words in your OP, which you subsequently retracted.

I seem to have touched a nerve. You could always get this thread deleted if you're upset though.

have a lovely day @Lilaleily.

I agree to an extent. Some clearly need zapping because they’ve become a cesspit, but others are very much because the OP is in fact being unreasonable but doesn’t want to hear it.

Meanwhile years ago I asked for a thread to be removed because 2 people in real life had recognised me (it was a fairly benign situation that evolved into an identifying one. A general chat about a particularly wild storm that ended in my home being badly damaged. I didnt really want anyone else to recognise me and link it back to other threads) and I was refused

You don’t have any entitlement over threads you’ve posted on. What a weird perspective.

I’ve had several threads removed over the years. Usually because it’s turned into one of those threads where posters demanded more and more info from me which I gave to try and justify myself and not be accused of ‘drip feeding’ to the point where it was potentially identifying.

Your exact words were "bloody annoyed" in your OP, check your wording.

And "sick" of it in your thread title.

based on that wording, overinvested and unhealthy attachment to drama seems like a fair assessment....

But now it's 'mildly annoyed' now I pointed it out?

Eh. It happens. Flouncers often throw their toys out of the pram when things don’t go their way. What can MNHQ do but delete the post/thread?

Fair enough-

I consider myself well and truly told-

I withdraw my complaint!!

You don’t believe that people on Mumsnet were doing something mockingly?? Plenty of people on mumsnet seem to do everything they possibly can to mock other posters and be nasty. Usually the first twenty or so posters on a big thread are just there to peck at the OP. So I can easily see how Mumsnet decided to remove it, even though I miss it. And I can easily understand why posters might want threads removed. It’s not the end of the world, there are many others.

It’s a chat forum, not there to make people’s lives harder. It’s no one’s job to give advice time or energy and if you do. It’s not something you should do aiming to have your words there for ever.

i think it’s fine to remove a thread if the author is uncomfortable, it makes no difference, and as said, why make someone’s life harder, or behave in a punitive manner,

I feel like you're overinvested in threads to be 'bloody annoyed' when they get pulled. This level of attachment to other people's dramas or issues isn't healthy.

I feel so are the people who pile on to relentlessly attack an OP.
Mumsnet is really a viper pit. Horrible place at times.

This is a social media site, not a library archive or a news website.

There are other hobbies …

plus, no one should be using mumsnet as a substitute for proper medical advice

You sound ridiculous.

That’s your weakest argument yet. No one should be on MN looking for life saving advice.

Create your own narrative.

I can understand why some posters want their posts removing. Your enjoyment of a conversation shouldn’t come at the expense of the OPs mental wellebing or a breach of their confidentiality. Kindly, get over yourself

Not enough attention in real life

I think it's fine to ask for a thread to be removed.It's just the internet. Maybe don't get so invested in threads if it pisses you off when they get deleted.

I think YABU. If you are after drama and closure there is plenty on Netflix. And there is nothing stopping you posting a new thread if there is a topic you are interested in.

No one owes you anything

I had a thread removed as it was a sensitive subject involving DC and even though l had done it anonymously someone identified me and my DC . I do think however the level of abuse on here towards posters can sometimes go far far beyond debate or advice, and even though l think we all expect a bit of pushback on our subjects it can be really quite distressing . Everyone’s always banging on about mental health but the vicious keyboard bullies couldn’t care less if their comments push someone to the edge . Allow people to take their posts down . No one is really harmed if they do are they ?

I was on the same thread as you, and I spent time responding. I think a lot of the info given to that poster was really helpful for others, even if she wasn’t able to receive the info. It’s a shame it was deleted and that info lost

can concur. was definitely being used to troll.

Someone claimed posters were using it mockingly.

Even though no one else could see it.

Mumsnet could see it, people complained, they investigated and found it was being used in bad faith by certain posters.