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Any coming back from this ick? Really like the man

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Rainss2 · 07/06/2026 20:47

This is a terribly awkward one but I don’t think there’s any coming back from the ick I am currently experiencing! The man I’ve been dating for about 3 months and really like sent me a photo earlier, except it wasn’t intended for me. It was meant to be sent to some of his mates in a group chat they have. They share particularly disgusting, um, ‘doings’ from their bathroom trips. I replied with a hmm emoji and he then deleted it and was really apologetic, but I have the major ick now!

Is there any coming back?!

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Comeonelieen · 08/06/2026 10:46

Nope

BauhausOfEliott · 08/06/2026 10:07

I mean... it's gross and I'd never want to speak of it ever again, but it's also completely harmless and has slightly made me laugh. So I could probably get past it.

I have a friend who sends recordings of her loudest farts to her brother.

Ablondiebutagoody · 08/06/2026 09:18

Maybe he was testing the water. If you liked it, he could up the ante and leave something under your pillow.

Renamedefault · 08/06/2026 09:00

Fucking hell, just no. That is not normal male “bantz”. It’s just deeply weird.

Also, by “accident”. Yes, of course it was. He’s definitely not testing the water for some niche “fun”.

Each to their own I suppose.

Doingtheboxerbeat · 08/06/2026 08:23

The best man speech will 100% include this if you married him 🤭.
I honestly wouldn't give a 💩 , pun fully intended.

Gloriia · 08/06/2026 07:54

Mumtobabyhavoc · 08/06/2026 02:41

Your 35 (or so) year old boyfriend and his mates exchange poo pics?

🤮

It's grim isn't it. Just when you think you've read it all. A pp also sending her dp a shit pic. Wtaf.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 08/06/2026 02:41

Your 35 (or so) year old boyfriend and his mates exchange poo pics?

🤮

Kastri · 07/06/2026 23:00

Lavatory humour usually ends at primary school.
Date a man,not a boy (biological age irrelevant.)

AnonymityAnonymity · 07/06/2026 22:42

Well i would think that if this is the normal level of communication between him and his pals then it's not hard to imagine how they must talk about about other things on their lives. Their partners and girlfriends for example.
No I wouldnt want to know a guy who
thought this was a normal.way to behave.

Left · 07/06/2026 21:09

Oh lovely. Time for the Sunday night poo thread 🫤

Arlanymor · 07/06/2026 21:07

Rainss2 · 07/06/2026 20:49

Ha, no he’s in his 30’s.

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Oh dear! Unless he's some kind of faecal scientist it's a fair childish weird thing to do! I also wonder if he was testing out some kind of a kink...

Cleocaterpillar · 07/06/2026 21:02

Yeah right, it wasn't an accident! He was testing to see if you're into it.

Fatiguedwithlife · 07/06/2026 21:00

TheSlantedOwl · 07/06/2026 20:59

I would laugh probably. And never let him live it down!

Exactly that. There are worse things it could’ve been for sure!

KerryWeaversSpecs · 07/06/2026 20:59

Fatiguedwithlife · 07/06/2026 20:57

I wouldn’t send it to anyone else 🤣
can’t get worked up about it tbh. It’s not a kink or anything

Might not be for you. But there are people who kink that way. Maybe he was testing OP out...

TheSlantedOwl · 07/06/2026 20:59

I would laugh probably. And never let him live it down!

Jenniferrr · 07/06/2026 20:58

I mean I’d be reconsidering my 20-year marriage if DH sent me something like this… not a chance would I see the guy again if we were just casually dating 🤢

Fatiguedwithlife · 07/06/2026 20:57

I wouldn’t send it to anyone else 🤣
can’t get worked up about it tbh. It’s not a kink or anything

user1476613140 · 07/06/2026 20:57

Fatiguedwithlife · 07/06/2026 20:50

i sent a photo of a massive poo I did to DP the other day. Sorry

It's only for shits and giggles, don't worry 🤣

Gloriia · 07/06/2026 20:55

Fatiguedwithlife · 07/06/2026 20:53

Maybe because we both work in a field where weird gross things are normalised. It’s only a poo

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'Its only poo' 'weird gross things' . Make ya mind up.

No need to take a pic and share though fgs.

Plasticdreams · 07/06/2026 20:55

Shame he did that. I couldn’t fancy him after seeing that. If perhaps he had to take a photo for medical reasons, I would be more understanding but the fact him and his friends find it funny is the thing that would give me major ick.

Bertiebiscuit · 07/06/2026 20:55

Just be grateful you discovered what a juvenile idiot he is in good time, so you don't need to waste any more of your precious time on him

CamillaMcCauley · 07/06/2026 20:55

Couldn’t get past that myself, to be honest.

outerspacepotato · 07/06/2026 20:55

😶

People are weird as fuck.

Sorry. Ick. Ew.

KerryWeaversSpecs · 07/06/2026 20:54

Bleurgh. It would a be a no from me.

Fatiguedwithlife · 07/06/2026 20:53

Gloriia · 07/06/2026 20:52

Why?!

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Maybe because we both work in a field where weird gross things are normalised. It’s only a poo

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