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Would you take a speaker on a solo holiday?

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itssoeasy · 07/06/2026 18:18

To use in your Airbnb and on the beach?

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Legoninjago1 · 07/06/2026 19:04

Headphones.

GasperyJacquesRoberts · 07/06/2026 19:04

itssoeasy · 07/06/2026 18:54

Where did I say that? 🤣🤣🤣🤣

I have a plan for one night - to sit at the beach, eating a pizza with a cocktail at sunset. Hardly sitting in the dark on the beach every night

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Which beach? I have a plan to learn to play the bagpipes at sunset by the sea. We can make an evening of it!

pavillion1 · 07/06/2026 19:03

itssoeasy · 07/06/2026 18:24

I feel like the beach would be fine? It’s an open area, not like a train…

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Namingbaba · 07/06/2026 19:02

Children can be noisy. It’s hard to keep them quiet. They’re part of society. Most people understand that. You’re choosing to play music when you don’t have to or you can use headphones.

MrsBroccolini · 07/06/2026 19:02

OP you’re defending your position - but the fact you have to defend your position against so many people shows that your idea of what’s acceptable at the beach is not shared by many. Speaker at the beach / park just is a bit obnoxious. If not overcrowded it’s not the most egregious offence, but come on. Just don’t do it.

Imaginingdragonsagain · 07/06/2026 19:01

I think you should wear headphones with music on the beach. Doesn’t sound like you’re really interested in opinions that diverge from yours though.

Gastongaston · 07/06/2026 19:01

In accommodation yes, on the beach, no. Honestly op, if everyone thought like you, can you imagine how many different speakers would be playing different music, all at the same time? I have had that happen actually and it’s just shite. 4 or 5 different speakers all around me, all playing different music, it’s awful. Don’t be a dick.

Roomonthe3rdfloor · 07/06/2026 19:00

I personally don’t mind people playing music on the beach, I have found it gets drowned out, those little bluetooth speakers aren’t that loud. If you’re away from everyone else then I don’t see a problem. In the air bnb not a problem at all

FarmGirl78 · 07/06/2026 19:00

itssoeasy · 07/06/2026 18:37

I’m putting my side across, I am allowed to do that?

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She said you weren't listening, not that you're not allowed an opinion.

Everyone is telling you that a playing music through a speaker on a beach is arsehole behaviour. Just because you think it's ok doesn't mean folk will agree with you. You've said you're not bothered. So be it. You're happy with pissing people off so why bother asking if you're being unreasonable?

Leopardspota · 07/06/2026 19:00

itssoeasy · 07/06/2026 18:32

Because I feel like it’s dangerous to always have headphones on, especially when you’re alone on the beach in the evening.

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Just wear one then.

Callmeback · 07/06/2026 18:59

itssoeasy · 07/06/2026 18:58

I hear the waves everyday

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Others might not. It's not all about you.

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itssoeasy · 07/06/2026 18:58

Callmeback · 07/06/2026 18:55

So use headphones!!! Or, and here's a novel thought, listen to the waves and enjoy some peace, quiet and nature.

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I hear the waves everyday

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BelleEpoque27 · 07/06/2026 18:57

Can you not just exist in silence for a bit? Why the desperate need for music? Listen to the waves and the seagulls, FFS.

Callmeback · 07/06/2026 18:57

MrsOni · 07/06/2026 18:49

Honestly, in a public place I don't mind people playing music.

It's unrealistic to expect perfect silence in a public place. If not music, then people talking, kids playing etc....

Big difference between music on a speaker and silence. There's the space in between the two which is where everyone can enjoy their surroundings.

HaveYouFedTheFish · 07/06/2026 18:56

babasaclover · 07/06/2026 18:51

@itssoeasyplease not for the beach no one wants to hear it no matter how great YOU think your choice of music is. Beach should be peaceful.

do you really need one even for air B&B? Surely your phone on loud speaker is enough

One for the BnB does make sense - phone speakers are generally tinny, so either headphones or speakers are better - one person alone would generally use headphones/ one ear bud, but if she likes to have music playing while cooking, or in the living room in the evening or whatever then one for the BnB is fine.

Bringing it to the beach is antisocial and intrusive into other people's experience though.

Callmeback · 07/06/2026 18:55

itssoeasy · 07/06/2026 18:54

Where did I say that? 🤣🤣🤣🤣

I have a plan for one night - to sit at the beach, eating a pizza with a cocktail at sunset. Hardly sitting in the dark on the beach every night

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So use headphones!!! Or, and here's a novel thought, listen to the waves and enjoy some peace, quiet and nature.

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itssoeasy · 07/06/2026 18:55

ErrolTheDragon · 07/06/2026 18:48

Antisocial, for sure. Playing your music on a speaker in a public place is rude and unecessary.

Use headphones, or if you want to be more aware of your surroundings just put one bud in. Or, revolutionary idea, listen to the waves, birds etc. No one needs constant music.

In your airb&b, obviously fine so long as it won’t disturb anyone else.

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I do hope everyone saying no doesn’t take their children to the beach, for them to be screaming and crying all over the place!

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Jc2001 · 07/06/2026 18:55

itssoeasy · 07/06/2026 18:37

I’m putting my side across, I am allowed to do that?

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OP: AIBU?
Everyone: yes
OP: no I'm not.

What's the point in asking? Just do what you want and don't ask.

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itssoeasy · 07/06/2026 18:54

SleepingStandingUp · 07/06/2026 18:52

so you're planning on sitting on the beach alone in the dark listening to music every night? I'd genuinely be worried about my friends state of mind if this was their plan for their solo holiday

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Where did I say that? 🤣🤣🤣🤣

I have a plan for one night - to sit at the beach, eating a pizza with a cocktail at sunset. Hardly sitting in the dark on the beach every night

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LittleBearPad · 07/06/2026 18:54

itssoeasy · 07/06/2026 18:24

I feel like the beach would be fine? It’s an open area, not like a train…

No it wouldn’t. Other people don’t want to hear your music

culty · 07/06/2026 18:53

Actually I think the beach depends - if it's typically pretty isolated I don't see a problem with it

EnoughRain · 07/06/2026 18:53

MrsOni · 07/06/2026 18:49

Honestly, in a public place I don't mind people playing music.

It's unrealistic to expect perfect silence in a public place. If not music, then people talking, kids playing etc....

Who said silence? Playing music out loud on a beach or a in park is obnoxious. Only stupid people do it.

SleepingStandingUp · 07/06/2026 18:52

itssoeasy · 07/06/2026 18:32

Because I feel like it’s dangerous to always have headphones on, especially when you’re alone on the beach in the evening.

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so you're planning on sitting on the beach alone in the dark listening to music every night? I'd genuinely be worried about my friends state of mind if this was their plan for their solo holiday

HaveYouFedTheFish · 07/06/2026 18:52

EnoughRain · 07/06/2026 18:49

Common being the operative word.

You're clearly on the wind-up.

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It must be a wind up because otherwise she'd listen to the answers. This was phrased as a naive, artless if socially awkward question, but the OP has decided to double down on the reason she's going to do the opposite of the answers she's received.

babasaclover · 07/06/2026 18:51

@itssoeasyplease not for the beach no one wants to hear it no matter how great YOU think your choice of music is. Beach should be peaceful.

do you really need one even for air B&B? Surely your phone on loud speaker is enough