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wishiwasinbarbados · 07/06/2026 17:50

  • Or have my kids just been unlucky?
Both my kids have been let down/messed around by their jobs this year. Eldest secured a graduate job that should have started last Sept as he finished Uni, but during the summer, they Emailed him to say they'd pushed his start date back to Jan 26. No big deal we thought, but they then refused to give him a secure start date despite his best efforts in asking. He then got fed up and jumped ship and found himself another job to start this Sept. But he feels like he's wasted (he hasn't really) a year because of the first company.

Second child just finished Uni this summer and has been working part time for a company through her 3 years at Uni and was going to continue with them but full time for another year whilst she saved up to fund a Masters degree. However, a friend pointed out an advert published for her company with the pay significantly higher than what she is currently paid on a higher grade job! Kind of a worker role vs her team leader role.

Thinking about how many hoops the kids have to jump through to actually get a job these days, I think it's a pretty poor show to then treat people like this.
Me and Husband have always been self employed so don't know how common this sort of treatment is. Kids seem to think it's common to get pissed around. Is it?? Why can't people treat other people respectfully?

Sorry, long post. Thank you for reading!

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Teacaketravesty · 10/06/2026 21:32

Pluto46 · 10/06/2026 19:48

That is absolutely not correct. An apprentice's full time salary would be over £16k minimum - the government are not covering this !!

The government does not pay an apprentice's wages; that responsibility belongs to the employer. They pay towards the cost of apprentice training and assessments. And that is paid direct to the training provider (ie the College get paid for their one day a week day-release) but the employer still has to pay the apprentice even when they are at college for that day!

Thanks. How strange. I hope my son’s friend’s place stays open when his boss finds this out!

Pluto46 · 10/06/2026 19:48

Teacaketravesty · 10/06/2026 15:21

Is it hard? A friend of my son’s has an apprenticeship and his employer, who I know slightly, says he’s delighted as the govt cover most of his salary. He isn’t a grad, he’s 18.

That is absolutely not correct. An apprentice's full time salary would be over £16k minimum - the government are not covering this !!

The government does not pay an apprentice's wages; that responsibility belongs to the employer. They pay towards the cost of apprentice training and assessments. And that is paid direct to the training provider (ie the College get paid for their one day a week day-release) but the employer still has to pay the apprentice even when they are at college for that day!

Badbadbunny · 10/06/2026 19:04

IDontHateRainbows · 10/06/2026 16:05

Absolutely we will end up with people freelancing/self employed to get work which would have previously been paid employment, with even less rights - another own goal to Labour!

Yup, Labour seem unable to accept the entirely foreseeable "unforeseen" consequences of their actions and it's nothing new, Gordon Brown made some howlers back in his day with regards to fake self employment, IR35, tax incentives for limited companies that weren't offered to sole traders, causing the stampede of window cleaners etc to convert to limited companies. They never learn and don't understand the human behavioural aspects of their policies.

mindutopia · 10/06/2026 16:17

It took Dh 15 months to get a graduate job (earning £18k, which at the time was £2k more a year than all the other employees in the same role who had been there 10 years! He was astonished they were putting up with that crap for 10 years on £16k a year 🤣). This was in 2011. I don’t think this is new really. It’s certainly not because of bloody Labour. It’s not like graduates were whizzing into jobs two years ago. I know because I work in HE.

Dh spent that year in between delivering pizzas for Dominoes, picking lettuce on a farm and working at a pre-fab builder putting together A frame roofs of houses. 15 years later, he’s the director of a company with a monthly turnover of about £60k now. Everyone starts somewhere.

IDontHateRainbows · 10/06/2026 16:05

Badbadbunny · 10/06/2026 15:22

There's got to be a compromise central position between not having a rights at all and where we're heading which is too many rights that puts employers off hiring.

Also, the cost/hassle/risk of "genuine" employment continues to fuel the ever increasing rise in "fake" self employment, such as delivery drivers, contractors, sales "agents", etc. that successive governments have struggled with for 30 years now!

Absolutely we will end up with people freelancing/self employed to get work which would have previously been paid employment, with even less rights - another own goal to Labour!

Badbadbunny · 10/06/2026 15:22

There's got to be a compromise central position between not having a rights at all and where we're heading which is too many rights that puts employers off hiring.

Also, the cost/hassle/risk of "genuine" employment continues to fuel the ever increasing rise in "fake" self employment, such as delivery drivers, contractors, sales "agents", etc. that successive governments have struggled with for 30 years now!

Teacaketravesty · 10/06/2026 15:21

TheWytch · 07/06/2026 21:55

This - I'm at that awkward stage where I really need an extra pair of hands to take on all the work I'm offered but the risk is just too high.

I am outsourcing what I can but it's not an ideal solution. I really do need a trainee/apprentice

Is it hard? A friend of my son’s has an apprenticeship and his employer, who I know slightly, says he’s delighted as the govt cover most of his salary. He isn’t a grad, he’s 18.

IDontHateRainbows · 10/06/2026 15:00

I mean, in america they have no workers rights and their economy is a lot more productive than ours. Since the financial crash they have recovered and we haven't, so a nurse in america can be on double (in real, purchasing power terms) what a nurse here is, it's not just the gazillionaires at the top who have benefitted. Having said that I'd hate to work in a 'fire at will' employment world, it leads to abuse by unscrupulous bosses, and other nasties.

So the question is is it better to have more chance of having any job at all, but less rights or for there to be better rights but half the population can't get a job because that my friends is the choice these days.

Snakebite61 · 10/06/2026 13:01

wishiwasinbarbados · 07/06/2026 17:50

  • Or have my kids just been unlucky?
Both my kids have been let down/messed around by their jobs this year. Eldest secured a graduate job that should have started last Sept as he finished Uni, but during the summer, they Emailed him to say they'd pushed his start date back to Jan 26. No big deal we thought, but they then refused to give him a secure start date despite his best efforts in asking. He then got fed up and jumped ship and found himself another job to start this Sept. But he feels like he's wasted (he hasn't really) a year because of the first company.

Second child just finished Uni this summer and has been working part time for a company through her 3 years at Uni and was going to continue with them but full time for another year whilst she saved up to fund a Masters degree. However, a friend pointed out an advert published for her company with the pay significantly higher than what she is currently paid on a higher grade job! Kind of a worker role vs her team leader role.

Thinking about how many hoops the kids have to jump through to actually get a job these days, I think it's a pretty poor show to then treat people like this.
Me and Husband have always been self employed so don't know how common this sort of treatment is. Kids seem to think it's common to get pissed around. Is it?? Why can't people treat other people respectfully?

Sorry, long post. Thank you for reading!

If reform get in they will get rid of ALL workers rights. This is just the tip of the iceberg.

IDontHateRainbows · 08/06/2026 07:49

Pluto46 · 08/06/2026 07:22

Just wait until Rayner's Workers Rights Bill kicks in, in full force. Employers will be so worried about getting stuck with an unsuitable employee it will become even more of a shit show

Not only that but anyone who takes a while to find their feet in a new job, who could be suitable with a bit of extra training will be shown the door - already where I work they are putting in 3 month reviews for new starters so that anyone not suitable is shown the door well before the 6 month deadline.
And who do we think may need a bit of training/extra time to show their capabilities? That's right, young people who are being royally shafted.

EasternStandard · 08/06/2026 07:47

Pluto46 · 08/06/2026 07:22

Just wait until Rayner's Workers Rights Bill kicks in, in full force. Employers will be so worried about getting stuck with an unsuitable employee it will become even more of a shit show

Yes and the rest of the policies already impacting youth unemployment.

Pluto46 · 08/06/2026 07:22

Just wait until Rayner's Workers Rights Bill kicks in, in full force. Employers will be so worried about getting stuck with an unsuitable employee it will become even more of a shit show

DeftGoldHedgehog · 08/06/2026 06:37

Plus even the Conservatives raised the minimum wage from £5.51 an hour to £11.44 an hour while they were in office so clearly they also thought it was worthwhile, even with their determination to force austerity on the nation and decimate public services.

DeftGoldHedgehog · 08/06/2026 06:25

KateSixer · 07/06/2026 17:56

It does sound poor about the first company. With the second I find it a bit hard to believe that if you did some further digging that you would not find out that the roles and responsibilities were not exactly comparable which might explain things.

But one background fact that is often overlooked is that the government have made it a lot more expensive to employ people increasing the minimum wage by more than inflation and increasing the tax employers pay on their employees can sound popular but the reality is that it deters employers from employing more people and the costs just get passed on to consumers through higher prices!

And five minutes later there will be a thread about how so many working people being on Universal Credit while working as wages have not kept up with the cost of living. Any attempt to raise salaries and employers are fucking howling.

IDontHateRainbows · 08/06/2026 06:25

KateSixer · 07/06/2026 17:56

It does sound poor about the first company. With the second I find it a bit hard to believe that if you did some further digging that you would not find out that the roles and responsibilities were not exactly comparable which might explain things.

But one background fact that is often overlooked is that the government have made it a lot more expensive to employ people increasing the minimum wage by more than inflation and increasing the tax employers pay on their employees can sound popular but the reality is that it deters employers from employing more people and the costs just get passed on to consumers through higher prices!

Not to mention any surplus tax would soon be swallowed up by increased benefits bill to the unemployed..

Moonnstarz · 08/06/2026 06:20

I think the issue is that companies are making a lot more cuts and evaluating roles, which explains the first example. Maybe the job was seen as a viable offer when first made, but then got pushed back purely as the company became uncertain whether they could actually offer the position anymore.

The second example is rubbish, and you mention it being childcare. I'm a TA and one of my colleagues only found out when a job advert went out that she was being paid at the lower MTA rate for all her hours as a TA when she moved into that role, rather than the TA band. She had asked at the time of being given the TA role if the pay band was the same and had been told yes! On seeing the advert she went straight to complain and did manage to get out onto the correct band and got some back pay (but once taxed lost out and didn't apply it right from the start of her contract either!).
I think so many places want to cut costs they will do anything they can now.

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 08/06/2026 05:49

I find everyone says tailor your CV, but no one shows or tells you how. I showed a bunch of social work graduates how to tailor one of their cvs to a role that was advertised and they all sat there in stunned silence.

HelenaWilson · 07/06/2026 22:11

In today's bbc story, 'Tailor your CV to the job description' was one top tip. Talk about stating the bleedin' obvious. Do graduates with masters; degrees, as this young woman is, really not know that? I was applying for hundreds of jobs - this tip helped me get one - BBC News

Also today:
Marks and Spencer is launching a new training scheme for young people trying to get on the career ladder in a bid to tackle what it called the "growing youth unemployment challenge". Aimed at 16 to 24-year olds, it will create 1,000 training places in the UK and Ireland over the next 18 months. M&S launches new traineeship for 1,000 young people - BBC News

Theresa a 24-year-old woman taking a selfie with a neutral expression

I was applying for hundreds of jobs - this tip helped me get one

Four people who weren't hearing back from job applications shared what they did differently to secure their first role.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cd7pqwr5lqxo

TheWytch · 07/06/2026 21:55

Badbadbunny · 07/06/2026 19:41

It would all be a lot better if the Government made it easier for small firms to employ youngsters, reduced the cost of employing them, set up a grant/support scheme that was easy to use, reduce a lot of the burden of dealing with the apprentice scheme and/or colleges etc. I'd say we should introduce a modern version of the YTS,JTS and ETS schemes of the 1980s where small firms could easily take on a young or unemployed member of staff paid for initially by the Government for x number of months. Small firms employ more than any other sector, yet they're the ones who've typically stopped recruiting. Bigger firms are better able to cope with the admin and bureaucracy of the apprenticeships and other support schemes that are "bureaucracy" heavy.

I'm a small business accountant, and literally none of my current small business clients (100 or so) either employ a youngster/trainee nor have any plans to do so. It's never been so bad. Back in the 80s when I started, it was typical for small firms to have a trainee/youngster, even sole traders/self employed often had one, who they'd train up, but back then it was simpler, less bureaucratic, less expensive etc., and of course, there wasn't the risk of being sued for compensation for some kind of "ism" if they were let go!

This - I'm at that awkward stage where I really need an extra pair of hands to take on all the work I'm offered but the risk is just too high.

I am outsourcing what I can but it's not an ideal solution. I really do need a trainee/apprentice

wishiwasinbarbados · 07/06/2026 21:29

@Magicalgqueen That's awful. This is why I think companies should step up and treat people with a bit of dignity and respect.

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Magicalgqueen · 07/06/2026 20:55

If you are receiving UC you are expected to spend 30 odd hours a week looking for work. Also apply for numerous jobs a week. So sounds just like what people on UC are expected to do, it’s shit.
Also my DD did numerous hour and hours of unpaid work trails. Then they still couldn’t be arsed to say you didn’t get job or even give feedback!

JohnnyAndTheTaxDemand · 07/06/2026 19:58

Badbadbunny · 07/06/2026 19:35

My DS spent dozens if not hundreds of hours when he started his final year at Uni and started applying for graduate scheme jobs. They were mostly so long drawn out and convoluted that he set up his own home-made database to track applications, stages, completion deadlines for each stage, etc. otherwise he was afraid he'd miss a deadline for some online quiz or task or pre-recorded interview, or pre-recorded presentation. It became an all-encompassing job in itself. Trouble is the bigger firms use recruitment consultancies - he did notice that sometimes different employers were using the same tests/quizzes etc the only difference being the background colours and logos were using the employer's marketing as the only tangible difference - obviously using the same recruitment agency. Some of the online tasks were utterly ludicrous and clearly designed just to test resilience, i.e. record how long and how many times they tried to do a task which turned out was impossible to gauge whether they were the kind to give up easily or doggedly carry on. He utterly hated it all, until he started getting to the final stages where the system transferred him to the respective firm's own HR/recruitment depts which was when he finally got real person-to-person contact in real time online interviews. They just use it all as a way of "weeding out" to get the best candidates and don't waste time on the others. He got so demoralised by the whole thing, I'm surprised he didn't give it up. But when he did short listed at the final stages, he actually really enjoyed proper live online meetings with the HR dept staff and managers etc. I actually wonder if those firms realised just how bad were the recruitment firms procedures? It does seem to be more a test of resilience and stamina rather than their qualifications, experience, personality, aptitude etc.

I'm not unsympathetic - for any individual it is a rotten process - but the combination of many applicants using AI themselves and the sheer number of applicants due to the dire jobs market that it is genuinely hard to know the right way to sift through and find who is really suited.

I recently advertised an early career position. It got over 200 applicants within a week, around 80% of whom met the basic essential requirements. Because I think our applicants deserve the courtesy of a human assessing their application, I have gone through them all myself, on top of my existing full time workload. I stuck to my principle, but honestly there were points I wished I had just used an agency and/or AI screening! I can see why companies do it, which isn't something I expected to say - after all, resilience and determination are important qualities in themselves.

wishiwasinbarbados · 07/06/2026 19:51

Yes, DS said applying for Graduate jobs was like a full-time job, whilst studying for your final year at uni at the same time.

Yes, his first job was in consultancy (Engineering). It sounds like the over recruiting thing happened then.

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igelkott2026 · 07/06/2026 19:49

KateSixer · 07/06/2026 17:56

It does sound poor about the first company. With the second I find it a bit hard to believe that if you did some further digging that you would not find out that the roles and responsibilities were not exactly comparable which might explain things.

But one background fact that is often overlooked is that the government have made it a lot more expensive to employ people increasing the minimum wage by more than inflation and increasing the tax employers pay on their employees can sound popular but the reality is that it deters employers from employing more people and the costs just get passed on to consumers through higher prices!

Your second paragraph is a disingenuous excuse, given that salaries have dropped massively in real terms since 2008. Yes the minimum wage has gone up but they are paying much less generally.

Salaries in the UK average £8000 a year less than German salaries after tax,

UK employers are greedy (and too lazy to train people).

NotEnoughRoom · 07/06/2026 19:48

In terms of graduate starts, they may have “over-recruited” expecting that one or more might drop out, and then when they didn’t happen, deferred the start of your DC to Jan hoping someone else will have left/they could afford the extra role. It’s a shitty practice, but in the past probably worked out quite well - now with so many looking for jobs, the turnover is more static.