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To wonder why anyone would want to live in America?

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allergon842 · 07/06/2026 17:06

I follow a woman on Instagram who moved from England to the States and someone commented "America is only great if you're white, rich, and healthy".

Putting aside Trump/politics, I've always found it weird why anyone would want/would have wanted to live there. I understand if you're from a developing country, but I don't see the appeal for anyone who comes from Europe. The lower taxes and opportunities are enticing, but if you can't make it, you can fall very easy with the lack of a safety net. It seems to be only decent if you're a top earner ($100,000+).

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Squirrelsnut · 07/06/2026 17:18

Christ, I wouldn't move there now if you paid me handsomely. I think it's on the brink of something very bad.

Swissmeringue · 07/06/2026 17:16

Honestly I spent my childhood split roughly equally between the UK and the States and preferred the states in almost every conceivable way. We had more disposable income, better healthcare, infinitely superior dental care, big long summer holidays, loads of opportunities pursue outdoor sports, swimming, hiking, mountain biking, kayaking, skiing etc etc that we didn't really have access to in the same way in the UK. I also felt there was more sense of community, lots of parades, community events, civic pride that we aren't particularly good at here.

But, what I didn't realise at the time was that this was because we were, in fact, rich and white, living somewhere full of rich, white people.

DH would earn substantially more in the states, we were in California with the kids over Easter and we did talk about it, but politics and the great orange buffoon aside (which is a huge contributing factor). We decided we don't want our kids growing up somewhere that bulletproof backpacks for preschoolers are a thing.

ChangeyNameyforthis · 07/06/2026 17:15

If I was younger I’d move to the US over the UK. I’d live in California.

I have relatives who live there and they’d never move back here.

FKAT · 07/06/2026 17:15

Career opportunities, high standard of living (compared to UK) and housing, outside space, weather, landscape, ambition and optimism, entertainment, sports, lifestyle. Lots of reasons.

And salary - $100k isn't a top earner in the US. I was looking at moving to LA a decade ago for $150k and that was a bog standard middle management salary. Salaries are much higher, even accounting for health insurance premiums.

MyLimeGuide · 07/06/2026 17:11

Bigger homes, more space! Ive sorted of always wanted to live in America, not sure why, I just think its cooler than UK!

Jc2001 · 07/06/2026 17:10

It's not somewhere I'd chose to live but plenty of people seem to get on ok there. USA seems to come on for some criticism but countries like Japan seem to be equally unrelenting as a place to live and work.

It does seem to be fashionable to criticise the USA.