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Would you do this so your child could have private education?

41 replies

Thenea14 · 07/06/2026 16:32

Got 400k equity. We live in Derbyshire so there’s some expensive areas but some reasonable too. I’m on my own with dc but ex pays maintenance. He’s agreed to go halves on education. I can technically pay my share from income but it feel very stressful. If I move then obviously it makes it very manageable.

But… I’d be going from a large ish village house with big drive and garden (worth around 580k), spare bedrooms etc to basically a three or four bed that’s very basic and in a more built up area. Originally I was was sure about it and even went to look at places but the reality is now making me second guess. Is this a stupid thing to do?! What would you do? State Schools round here are not terrible but certainly not good either.

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Thenea14 · 07/06/2026 16:39

@plims that wouldn’t be ideal and I would have to start using savings I suppose. He’s pushed for this though.

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Byron1990 · 07/06/2026 16:38

Second @Glittertwins though the fees will only rise

Thenea14 · 07/06/2026 16:38

@wafflesmgee thanks so much for your insight. Would you say also beneficial for primary?

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plims · 07/06/2026 16:38

What happens if your ex stops paying maintenance or his share of the fees?

Byron1990 · 07/06/2026 16:38

The pastoral care and opportunities at Repton are fantastic. We are not at that stage yet but would definitely consider it. Could you compromise on the house and go for a lovely two bed cottage with character

Thenea14 · 07/06/2026 16:37

@Glittertwins day! I’d miss them too much!

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Thenea14 · 07/06/2026 16:37

@Overthebow only have one. Have got fund for house deposit although it’s not huge and will probably be more like a contribution than the full amount!

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ShetlandishMum · 07/06/2026 16:37

No.

Glittertwins · 07/06/2026 16:37

Boarding or day pupil? Sports bursary? Lovely school but very expensive and fees will only go up.

wafflesmgee · 07/06/2026 16:37

I would do it, speaking as a primary school teacher who is married to a secondary teacher. Some, not all, state schools are really dire now.

We avoided private by moving to a location with outstanding state schools instead. You could do that if you prefer?

Thenea14 · 07/06/2026 16:36

@Byron1990 also looked at Denstone but not sure it has the same reputation?

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Mistymaglets · 07/06/2026 16:36

Would I move myself and my DC from a house I loved with space and a garden to a smaller unit in a built up area so that I could afford private education?

No.

Byron1990 · 07/06/2026 16:36

Then yes for Repton I would. For many it’s not worthwhile but it’s an excellent school

Overthebow · 07/06/2026 16:35

How many DCs do you have and what ages? I personally wouldn’t unless I had money to give house deposits and help at uni as well.

Thenea14 · 07/06/2026 16:35

@Byron1990 as in which private school? If you meant that then it’s Repton (this is probably outing now 😅)

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Byron1990 · 07/06/2026 16:33

Which school were you thinking and which areas?