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Move to forever home but leaving amazing community

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Roulett · 07/06/2026 13:42

We live in a 3 bed semi in a cul de sac. My daughter’s best friends live here and we have an idyllic life they play out every day. We have two children and the house is a bit cramped now - the third bedroom is very small, no space for wardrobes, not much room for toys. It’s defining to not unmanageable but it’s a squeeze.

we have come into some money and can afford our dream home in the town 3 miles away. Would be a lot more convenient for trains/ schools etc but leaving behind our lifestyle breaks my heart and I know our eldest won’t want to go. She wouldn’t need to move school or anything but she would lose her daily playing out with friends and I’d miss it too. Having said that I think long term she and her sister would benefit from more space and a town location. Where we are is semi rural and not great for teens. We have no family nearby and our neighbours have become our support network we are with them daily and in and out of each others houses I know some would hate it but we love it. I’m torn WWYD

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AmazingGreatAunt · 07/06/2026 13:46

Communities change. I grew up in a cul-de-sac of 10 houses. Over the years we went from being young families to older and the very diverse, but it has gone back to younger people now.
Could you extend your house to solve the space issue?

Roulett · 07/06/2026 13:46

There’s no urgency, no. House feels cramped that’s all but no desperate urgency. Plot isn’t large enough for extension and it’s a new build with bedrooms in the “loft” so no opportunity to extend upwards.

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Zov · 07/06/2026 13:45

What's the rush to leave now? If nothing will change re: schools, and workplace etc, then stay put for now. Your money you have come into isn't going anywhere is it?

Don't stay just because you like your neighbours, and your children enjoy playing with neighbours children. There's no guarantee that they won't just up and leave at the drop of a hat if they want to/an opportunity arises.

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ithappenstootherfamilies · 07/06/2026 13:45

Can you extend?

Save the money for a few year then move?

closureatlast · 07/06/2026 13:44

I'd go

parakeet · 07/06/2026 13:43

I would stay. Friends are more important than a bigger house. Can you do a loft or side extension?

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