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AIBU to over think boyfriends ex??

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rachel55488 · 07/06/2026 12:14

Hey guys so just came here cause as usual my head over thinks everything 🤣 so basically me and partner have been together 6 months. And 2 months in he called me his ex girlfriend’s name 🤣 and I literally was so angry I messaged his ex girlfriend.. and asked her is there anything going on. And she messaged me back and was really nice and said they haven’t seen each other in about 9 months and he’s a nice guy but they just didn’t work out and there was nothing going on but she told me they had a phone call around Christmas time but there was nothing in it.. but this is when me and him started talking so I was a bit annoyed but we weren’t anything serious at this point. But then i got him to block her on Facebook and she was angry and messaged me and him and asked why she was blocked. He has since showed me that she’s still blocked etc. but my question is how did the girl notice she was blocked and why did she care so much to message him and ask why she was blocked?

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BudgetBuster · 07/06/2026 13:49

I pity your boyfriend. Hopefully he'll see the red flags you are having and save himself the grief

crazeekat · 07/06/2026 12:23

Ur way too much. She should block u. U need to sort out ur issues. Not nice to call u her name but fk sake, not the girls fault. Ur really insecure and needy, total turn off and also major red flag.

Lavender14 · 07/06/2026 12:23

I think op you are being very unreasonable and it's not healthy. Either you trust him or you don't. If you don't trust him you end the relationship and look elsewhere, what you don't do is continue the relationship while controlling who he can see or speak to. If you do trust him then you've no reason to dictate who he sees and speaks to or to contact his ex.

I can't believe you contacted his ex over that... I'm sorry but that's really ott behaviour on your part. And I say that having been cheated on. Your issues are not his problem to take on op, you are accountable for yourself in any relationship. And that includes how you respond to what he's doing.

GreyCarpet · 07/06/2026 12:22

You're being a bit ridiculous.

I call my partner by my ex husband's name at times. I can't stand the man! The first time I did it, he just laughed and said, "I'm glad you did that first!"

They had a phone call at Christmas, which was when you and he had just started talking. So what? God, I went out for dinner and to the cinema with an ex the same week my partner and I started going out as we'd had it arranged for a few weeks. I haven't seen him alone since. There was nothing untoward about it.

I think you've massively over reacted here and caused drama where there actually wasn't any.

Simbaonedaythiswillallbeyours · 07/06/2026 12:20

Are you 12?

Random321 · 07/06/2026 12:20

Please let us you are no older than 14 because your behaviour and post suggest it.

Snorlaxo · 07/06/2026 12:19

If you hadn’t mentioned Facebook, I would have assumed that you were 14 because you are jumping to extreme conclusions and acting impulsively. Eg calling her after he called you by her name.

Tiptow · 07/06/2026 12:18

Oh dear. Really?

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