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AIBU to over think boyfriends ex??

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rachel55488 · 07/06/2026 12:14

Hey guys so just came here cause as usual my head over thinks everything 🤣 so basically me and partner have been together 6 months. And 2 months in he called me his ex girlfriend’s name 🤣 and I literally was so angry I messaged his ex girlfriend.. and asked her is there anything going on. And she messaged me back and was really nice and said they haven’t seen each other in about 9 months and he’s a nice guy but they just didn’t work out and there was nothing going on but she told me they had a phone call around Christmas time but there was nothing in it.. but this is when me and him started talking so I was a bit annoyed but we weren’t anything serious at this point. But then i got him to block her on Facebook and she was angry and messaged me and him and asked why she was blocked. He has since showed me that she’s still blocked etc. but my question is how did the girl notice she was blocked and why did she care so much to message him and ask why she was blocked?

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somanychristmaslights · 08/06/2026 07:30

Oh god, just dump him now before he dumps you anyway. You’re sounding like a bunny boiler. We’re all telling you the same, so hopefully you take on board this feedback!!!!

Stressmummy12 · 08/06/2026 07:28

rachel55488 · 08/06/2026 07:11

But he told me around October time she reached out and messaged him askin for a walk on the beach but he never replied, does it not sound like there’s always been unfinished business with them? The phone call, her askin to go a walk, when they’ve been split up? Or maybe just meetin up for sex because why would you not just block an ex and why would a girl want to meet up with her ex again? If they broke up

So she messaged him before you got together asking for a walk on the beach- no mention of sex no mention of a relationship no nothing but your putting two and two together and getting 100. Just leave it they are in the past. You’ve stopped them being friends so move on and stop thinking about her. I could understand if there was overwhelming evidence of an affair or what not but there isn’t. You need to let go and move on. If you don’t I assume you’ll piss your partner off

Stressmummy12 · 08/06/2026 07:25

rachel55488 · 08/06/2026 07:11

But he told me around October time she reached out and messaged him askin for a walk on the beach but he never replied, does it not sound like there’s always been unfinished business with them? The phone call, her askin to go a walk, when they’ve been split up? Or maybe just meetin up for sex because why would you not just block an ex and why would a girl want to meet up with her ex again? If they broke up

you need to go back to bed and wake up. They aren’t doing anything they aren’t meeting up. We are allowed to be fully grown adults in this world and behave like them with our ex partners. You are the problem here not them two

ExtraOnions · 08/06/2026 07:25

You are a walking Red Flag (or maybe a wind-up merchant)

Your BF needs to leave you

TreeDudette · 08/06/2026 07:21

Wow you are bonkers! My poor husband gets called all sorts of names.. most often my nephews name as they sound alike. He has been called my exes name before though.. my brain is just rubbish with names. You need to get a grub on this before you start boiling bunnies!!

thecuree · 08/06/2026 07:18

God I thought I was paranoid

rachel55488 · 08/06/2026 07:11

But he told me around October time she reached out and messaged him askin for a walk on the beach but he never replied, does it not sound like there’s always been unfinished business with them? The phone call, her askin to go a walk, when they’ve been split up? Or maybe just meetin up for sex because why would you not just block an ex and why would a girl want to meet up with her ex again? If they broke up

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MyArtfulGreySloth · 07/06/2026 16:00

Only old people use Facebook.

InterestedDad37 · 07/06/2026 15:59

In addition to the points already made, you can't police the friendships that another person has or makes. You can choose to react to them in your own way, but don't tell anyone who they can or can't be friends with. 🤷

FeliciaFancybottom · 07/06/2026 15:58

and this is why 14 year olds shouldn't date...

ohyesido · 07/06/2026 15:52

You messaged her? How is it her fault that your boyfriend called you her name?

this isn’t overthinking it’s petty playground behaviour

VimesandhisCardboardBoots · 07/06/2026 15:47

Fucking hell, you sound like a nightmare. He should have split up with you the moment you contacted his ex.

EnoughRain · 07/06/2026 15:17

You sound incredibly immature and insecure. Perhaps a relationship is not for you at the moment. Give it a few years.

Stressmummy12 · 07/06/2026 15:07

I absolutely think you should grow up. How would she know? You know when someone’s blocked you by the way messenger comes up etc etc. They have nothing going on and she made the clear. I’d end the relationship and work on yourself that’s clearly what you need

BudgetBuster · 07/06/2026 14:55

@rachel55488 I think you need some help.
You post a new thread about you boyfriend every week or two and basically how jealous you are of his ex(es).

Everyone here blatantly thought you were a teen the way you are carrying on but you've mentioned previously that he has 2 teen kids so you must be well advanced 🙄

Just a bit needy are you?

raisinglittlepeople12 · 07/06/2026 14:42

You all sound very immature

Roomonthe3rdfloor · 07/06/2026 14:41

Sigh

Shocked Oh No GIF by CBC
Tryagain26 · 07/06/2026 14:38

You are much too needy and suspicious. I don't know how old you are but your post reads like a 14 year old.

looselegs · 07/06/2026 14:35

Been with my husband for 30 years and he still sometimes calls me his first wife's name!
You are wayyyyyyy overthinking this!

x2boys · 07/06/2026 14:32

Random321 · 07/06/2026 12:20

Please let us you are no older than 14 because your behaviour and post suggest it.

Yes my thought they were all around 15.

Hadenough32 · 07/06/2026 14:30

Yep you've either lost it or never had it. Crazy.

Cherry8809 · 07/06/2026 14:27

🥳🥳🎉🎉CONGRATULATIONS!!!🎉🎉🥳🥳

You’ve now made yourself look insane 👏🏼👏🏼

JollyGreenWatermelon · 07/06/2026 14:21

I literally was so angry I messaged his ex girlfriend.

don't do that. Seriously just don't. You are beyond ridiculous.
If my BF was behaving like you, I would dump him fast frankly.

Floatingdownriver · 07/06/2026 14:10

This is not rational, not okay and not healthy. Get some help before he runs for the hills. If her my son/brother/pal I’d be telling him to do just that.

Ohwhatfuckeryitistoride · 07/06/2026 14:00

He's your bf. You're too immature for a partner. And we aren't (all) guys.