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Baby's first birthday party- would the parents expext a full meal

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Oneanddonemum2025 · 07/06/2026 02:48

For my son's first birthday, I am booking a play session at a local play cafe for him and 4 other babies/kids plus parents (mass booking). The owner agreed that I could bring in a cake and some decorations (football themed so just a tablecloth, some bunting, small banner and baby is wearing a football jersey). Of course i agreed we would buy food but would i be expected to buy a full meal for each parent. Not about money, just interested in what the social norm is as its the first time i am hosting a kids party.

I had a 100 day party for him (chinese cultural tradition) and all the guests had a filling mral . That was very different as we held it at a local members club (had a great cheap bar with unbeatable prices for London where guests bought their beers), ordered a fancy cake and my husband made all the food (sandwiches and i ordered some bits like matcha cake and hummus with veggies, crisps and fruit ) plus dyed red eggs. The decorations were a bit sad as i wasnt able to do much with a 3 month old. Still the venue was ok looking (looks like a lovely old pub) and i think everyone had a good time.

The venue was a bit big for the number of guests plus the food prep was a bit stressful for dh (who made tons of sandwiches with different fillings) so i wanted a simpler option this time.

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amylou8 · 08/06/2026 12:19

I'd buy a meal for the children. Nuggets and chips being customary. Then the adults can order and pay for their own off the menu if they're hungry (disclaimer my kids are in their 20s so it probably not nuggets and chips anymore).

JanieOdell · 08/06/2026 12:10

If it is around a meal time, I would put out enough that adults are not left hovering and hungry, but I do not think a first birthday means everyone expects a full plated meal.

A shared platter, cake, drinks and a few easy bits for the children is usually enough, especially if people know it is a play session rather than a sit-down party. At one, most people are there to celebrate you all getting through the first year, not to be formally hosted.

If you want one thing that makes it feel special without adding loads of faff, I would do one tiny keepable thing rather than more food or decor: a card or notebook where people write one line to your child, plus one dated note from you about what they are like right now. That tends to be the bit you actually value later.

Oneanddonemum2025 · 07/06/2026 03:01

Allogy · 07/06/2026 02:57

You said "of course" you would buy food but I've never actually come across this set up. My advice is book it in the middle of the afternoon and get some bowls of nachos or chips to share, that kind of thing. Get them drinks too. Some places will sell thermos jugs of filter coffee and tea for parties.

Generally feeding parents varies by area, but 1st birthdays are a bit different anyway as the parents are more involved than the babies really. You wouldn't want 8 adults all politely sitting round through a mealtime getting hungry, but equally they are probably not expecting all to be fed burger and chips.

Oh the promise to buy food was part of my negotiation with the owner to allow me to opt for her play session rather than her party package as i dont have many kids and babies get sick really easily so its very easy for my meagre numbers to drop. Buying a platter to share is very different from everyone getting a burger!

Thanks for the advice, its good to know.

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Eenameenadeeka · 07/06/2026 02:59

It depends what time of day it as as to what amount of food generally- if it's a t lunchtime might need more food, but I don't think you usually need to provide a whole meal for adults at a first birthday.

Allogy · 07/06/2026 02:57

You said "of course" you would buy food but I've never actually come across this set up. My advice is book it in the middle of the afternoon and get some bowls of nachos or chips to share, that kind of thing. Get them drinks too. Some places will sell thermos jugs of filter coffee and tea for parties.

Generally feeding parents varies by area, but 1st birthdays are a bit different anyway as the parents are more involved than the babies really. You wouldn't want 8 adults all politely sitting round through a mealtime getting hungry, but equally they are probably not expecting all to be fed burger and chips.

Oneanddonemum2025 · 07/06/2026 02:54

For context we live in zone 3 nw london

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