DH and I have had an argument tonight. For context, last year he and my eldest DD went camping with friends and he had sent me pictures of them paddle boarding. My DD wasn’t wearing a life jacket. This obviously sparked a conversation, he explained that they didn’t have one to use and because of that, they just stayed in the shallows and didn’t stand up and DD was sitting in front of him the whole time. Obviously I highlighted how a whole host of things could have happened out with his control and doesn’t matter whether he could see the bottom or not.
Fast forward to now, he suggests we look at getting paddle boards which I’m up for but mentioned this incident last year and that I would need to trust if he ever used them with both DDs, he would take their safety really seriously. He said he obviously would however didn’t acknowledge that there was a lapse in judgment previously. I wasn’t looking to rehash old issues but just hear him accept maybe his decision to do that last year, wasn’t the most responsible but he doesn’t agree. This concerns me that he won’t accept any fault in his decision making. He has said though if we got paddle boards he would of course use the appropriate safety measures. I think I’m just irritated by his arrogance here. Am I being unreasonable to be annoyed?
He is a wonderful, loving and hands on Dad for the record. I just think his ‘I know best’ complex doesn’t allow him to see risks. That worrries me.