Four Weddings and a Funeral

1000? Are you a vicar?!

Anyway. DH and I got engaged after a month and were married six months later. Late 90s.

I first watched the film on a plane. Instead of all the fucks at the begunnibf when they overslept, they dubbed it with variants of "bugger" which I still think was funnier and I'm no prude. I cried so hard during the funeral scene, the flight attendant asked if I was okay. It obviously hit a nerve.

And Fiona makes it look sexy, in an old-school Hollywood glamour kind of way.

Thanks, I was completely unaware of that 🙄

Well they would. It was made 13 years before the smoking ban.

They all smoke in it too. Indoors😱

Not the point of this thread but agree with some others, on a rewatch Carrie was awful and I really didn't want Charles to end with her, I was rooting for Kristin Scott Thomas's character (that woman is stunning)

I also always feel sad when I watch that Charlotte Coleman died so young...Marmalade atkins was one of my fave characters as as child! She was such a charismatic and interesting actress.

I got married in 1993. We had known each other for 14 years, going out for 10 and living together for 8. And are still going strong 33 years later. So if it was a "thing" we certainly bucked the trend

I think Angus and Laura turn up either at Gareth’s funeral or Charles’ wedding, possibly both, and I think they might have baby twins. Lydia’s family look like they’re absolutely minted so a lavish wedding could probably happen quite quickly, maybe not in three months though!

It was a plot device.

Still love that film.

I got married in the mid 90's and in my social group three years seemed to be the average time between meeting and marrying.

I have friends who married within a year of meeting and that was considered unusual. Their marriage lasted 24 years before he had an affair and they divorced.

7 couples in our close friendship group married between 1995 and 1996 - it felt like we were at weddings all the time. We were all in our mid 20s. Three of those couples are now divorced but did have long marriages.

It’s just so we don’t have to have TWO YEARS LATER in between each wedding, like, as pps said, the vague handwaving that allows Charles and his group of friends to go to all the weddings, though Carrie has only met some of them once and is supposedly a glamorous Vogue journalist who comes and goes between the US and UK and is unlikely to lack friends in either place ‘to make up for the gruesome stiffs Hamish knows’.

Or even minor stuff like Tom not having invited everyone to stay in his nearby giant stately home long before the first wedding, rather than only mentioning it as everyone’s leaving. Again just necessary to separate Charles from his friends so he can ‘skulk’ with Carrie, but a bit implausible. Or why would nice Bernard and Lydia have made a seating plan to separate Charles from all his friends and sits him at a table consisting entirely of ex-girlfriends. Again, just to show us Charles is a serial monogamist, but it suggests a desire to make him miserable for no reason!

The thing that grated on me last time I saw it is that Charles’ deaf brother David, who only really has one plot role, halting Charles’ wedding to Duckface, is an asshole, using BSL to perv over Carrie’s breasts in front of her and asking Charles if he’s slept with her because she doesn’t understand sign. Ew. Again, I get it. Comedy. But there’s something unpleasantly arf arf about it, especially as it’s happening as Charles is plucking up his courage to declare his love to Carrie while having a blokey ‘nice tits’ conversation with his brother.

@itslikecakesbutitsnotcakes I went to plenty of lavish weddings planned over a three month window in the 90s.

I think engagements were much shorter in the 90s as weddings were less expensive and fancy. Having decided to marry you just got on with it.

Plot device. But so much of this film doesn’t make sense!
Yes why was Charles best man for Angus when that couple didn’t seem to be part of the group? They vanish. They aren’t even at Lydia and Bernard’s wedding but Lydia was bridesmaid for them!
Lydia and Bernard had a lavish wedding which cannot be planned in 3 months
Why did the whole friendship group of 6 get invited to Hamish and Carries wedding when Carrie has barely spoken to them?
What the hell did Charles see in Carrie anyway?! Rude, self obsessed and pushed him away. Out of the time, married someone else then crashed his wedding to declare her love for him. She’s awful! The wedding dress shopping is fucking ridiculously manipulative. Who does she even know at these weddings anyway?

We were married in 1991 and we had been together for two years and three months. Our engagement was six months. Most friends were similar but there were some shorter engagements of about three months. We also knew some people who seemed to get married very quickly after becoming a couple, but as a previous poster said, they had known each other due to moving in the same circles, for years. 4 weddings and a funeral always brings it all back for me. I don't think there was the need for such long savings periods: the well heeled had the cash and usually had a tent in the garden and the wedding industry hadn't taken off and wants were simpler with the reception in a church hall with a buffet or a meal at a local hotel.

I think very short engagements were an earlier thing. My parents knew each other for a very short time, before having a very short engagement but mother wore an empire line dress and had a large bouquet. It was quite common then.

In the 60s my parents got engaged seven months after meeting (my dad originally proposed after six weeks but she kept him waiting as not sure) and married about sieves months after the engagement.

obviously a plot device.

In the 90s most people I know were engaged for at least a year as it took that long to plan the wedding. It was unusual to get engaged unless you had been in a relationship for at least a year before that. Obviously some variation upwards.

My parents married in 1950, just 17 months after they met. They were married for 64 years. We were married after 23 months in 2000, still going strong.

Plot device.

I'm not sure I think tbe film is set a few years earlier eg: around 1990 I do know of a few people who " married in haste" around that time Boris Johnson had a short 1st marriage as did one of my cousins of a similar age and 2 of my DH's ex bosses ( all born early late '50s, early '60s). I think maybe it was a bit of thing.

I have never seen this film. Hopefully will get a chance to during the week. Sounds like I have missed out!

She is joking!

Does Carrie not assume they’re engaged after they sleep together on the first night?

Plot device. I got together with DH in 1997 and we got married in 2003. That was on the slow side tbh, but all of our friends were at least 3 years together before getting married.