Four Weddings and a Funeral

Met in 1992, engaged in 1994 and married in 1995.
celebrating 31 years of marriage next month.

Agree with PP who said once you decided to marry you just got
on with the planning.

He later starred with Jeanne Tripplehorn in Mickey Blue Eyes. It was shite if memory serves

She was the big name though - she’s billed top of all the cast. The whole movie was made for something like a million quid.

I watched this with DD13 recently and she loved it (it’s my favourite movie) but this time I noticed exactly the same thing, particularly with Charles and Duckface. Appreciate they were on again off again but to have a wedding on that scale mere weeks after Carrie and Hamish’s wedding seemed ambitious!

I was married in the early 90s after 8 years together, & having lived together for about 3 years. Everyone I knew lived together before they got married, I can't think of a single pair who didn't.

I agree it’s still the norm in middle class families to marry first. I feel like I read something about there being a very obvious class divide in this regard but I would need to look it up again.

Certainly there would have been some raised eyebrows in my family if any of my cousins or siblings had children without getting married. The “correct” order is dating, rent together for a year or two, buy a house, get engaged, marry within 2 years, then children.

It still is more normal for professional couples to marry before having children, judging by my workplace. Maybe because the women are aware of the the financial risks of unmarried pregnancy and childcare.

Interestingly, a few of them have opted for civil partnerships instead and deferred the marriage party for a few years down the line post child.

Just looked it up and Jeanne Tripplehorn was originally cast as Carrie but had to drop out due to her mother’s sudden death. So A M was then cast.

People obviously did and it was more accepted but it certainly wasn’t the norm like it is now

A bit of both I think. Although people did cohabit in the 90s it certainly wasn’t as common now where it is a normal relationship step and people think you are crazy if you marry without doing so. My own parents married in 1987 after 2.5 years of dating which still seems soon by today’s standards.

So yes people did on the whole get married quicker but largely it was just a plot device.

This at Charles Wedding Angus' twins are 9 months ish so this would fit with it being 2 years since the first wedding

Lol at the idea people didn’t live together in the 1990s. I started living with DP in the 1990s and we STILL haven’t got married.

Groundhog Day!
I knew there was something she was good in!

Maybe she was told to play cold and aloof in FW and she just wasn't good at that - that scene in the rain near the end was truly shockingly bad.

The rest of the film is great fun though.

Anyway, Liz Hurley in THAT dress.
If you know what I mean, you're now officially past it. 😁

4 weddings is one of my favorite films. I got married in 1994, not long after its release. I listened to the soundtrack while I was getting ready the morning of my wedding and I wore a wreath thing on my head like Henrietta instead of a veil.
We got married 4 months after our first date so perhaps things did happen more quickly in the 90s.

I really liked her in Groundhog Day but that was a much better film all round imo. She also played a very likeable character in that

My all time favourite.
My boyfriend at the time introduced me to it back in '94.
He later upset me very much when we split.
That film, though, is one of the few things I do not associate with him from our time together.
Like all great films, it took on a life of its own.

It's a plot device - but remember they're all posh people who wouldn't have to save long and hard to afford a nice wedding. I think very long engagements are more a working class thing.

I could never work out if Andie M was a terrible actress, or whether it was the script which was terrible.
I think I heard it mentioned that another actor had accepted the role but for some reason Andie M was shoehorned it at the last minute.

Yes this was to get married in a church ( or my local church at least)
The vicar refused to christen my friend’s baby because she was not married.
Times were very different.
Absolutely none of this business of dictating what guests wore either.

I went with my mum to see it at our local cinema, I think on the opening night. It was a sell out and the tickets were being sold as in a theatre, where you had to choose your seats. I know that's how they're sold now anyway, but back then it was very unusual - normally you would just buy a ticket for a film and sit anywhere vacant.

DH and I married in the 90s after being together for three years. No "exclusivity talk" back then as it was taken for granted when you started dating that you had each chosen be solely with each other. Messing about with someone else = cheating sleazeball.

Weddings could be extravagant, modest, or anything in between, be it 90s, 80s, 70s or earlier, or later. That's always been a matter of choice, budget etc. regardless of when a wedding took place.

We knew each other for 3 - 4 years before we got married in 1990.

Lydia was pregnant so shotgun wedding and Hamish was old so time was of the essence.

DH and I got married in the 1990s (born mid 1960s) and we had been together for 4 years. I knew very few people who got married within a few months.

Maybe it depends on your social circle, upbringing, and level of education. The girls I knew from school who left with little or no qualifications and went straight into a factory, got engaged at 18-19 and were married within a year. The girls/women who were more career driven, had better education, and had been to college (who usually ended up in a professional or well paid career) didn't get married quickly, (often 3-5 years after meeting their partner,) and they didn't get married until their late 20s/early 30s.

So no, in my world it was not normal to get married within a few months of meeting someone. Never has been. Still isn't.