Four Weddings and a Funeral

"Are you telling me I don't know my own brother?"

We met in January, engaged May, wedding booked for June following year. Not unusual in our circle. Late 90’s. Been married almost 30 years.

Couldn’t stand AMD in it. Why you’d turn KST down for that??? Awful character. Just didn’t work. Zero chemistry. Brought nothing to the role.

“And that’s not including the so-called fruit teas” cracks me up. I still can’t look at a box of Twinings without hearing it in my head 🤣

The table of ex girlfriends is one of the best in the film!
Edited to say "one of the best scenes"... looking back he was a big drip, albeit a very good looking one!

Bit of both. I think the briefness of the "courtship" is a plot device but certainly many people didnt plan their actual weddings 2 or 3 years in advance like nowadays.
We got engaged in October and married the following July

Carrie was supposed to be played by Jeanne Tripplehorn but her mother died just before shooting and she pulled out.
I think she would have been much better.

She's very attractive but it's a lot more than just looks

Hugh Grant's character must have been blindsided, poor love, at all these women throwing themselves at him 🤣

Whoops - voted the wrong way! I think usually a couple of years between dating and marriage was average. Definitely just to move the plot along. I think people possibly got married younger on average though.

Another who thinks that Kristin Scott Thomas is stunning and who would turn her down?

Yeah, my teen watched it with me recently and in the first scene where we see Hamish and Gareth together in their flat she said 'are they together?' I think it's cleverly done because they are hidden in plain sight. Of course, we then get 'bury your gays' trope but that was probably necessary for the US market.

No, he only meets Hamish at the second wedding, when Carrie introduces him as her fiancé, to Charles’ horror. In the script there’s a reference to Carrie inviting all of Charles’ friends round for dinner after she’s seated with them at Bernard and Lydia’s wedding (when Charles is at a separate table with all his exes) because she and the gang all get on so well. It’s still pretty implausible, of course, but this is Richard Curtis.

In the script, another difference is that Gareth’s funeral is in the Lake District, and Fiona only tells Charles she loves him after the funeral, not at Carrie and Hamish’s wedding.

no one wants to watch a film where a couple meet, date for 6 months, have sex, date for a year, move in, live together for 5 years, get engaged, stay engaged for 2 years and then get married unless there's massive time hop.

having said that DH and I met July 2011 and married Feb 2013.

Traitors within our midst 😁

@Dontlletmedownbruce Exactly the same with me! I think it was when Tom says the bit about two of them being essentially married all along that the penny finally dropped. If my ten year old watched it now she’d suss out their relationship in the opening credits 🤣

I met and married my wife 6 weeks after going out with her. First year was hellish because we didn't know each other. 47 years married this June.
We were very young and I totally understand why couples marry later now. We had £5 to buy crockery.
Get house , jobs and money sorted first.

Even when Matthew (Scottish one) says to a woman who describes Charles' brother as a bit of a dish, "well I've always thought so". He also describes the man who wrote the poem he read at his bf's funeral, WH Auden, as another splendid bugger.

If anyone hasn't seen the IT crowd, there's a funeral scene and the son of the deceased goes up to do the eulogy. He introduces Auden's poem as 'here's a poem I heard on Four weddings and a funeral', or something to that effect. Makes me laugh every time I think of it

I saw this movie when I was about 16. I didn't realise the Scottish guy was in a relationship with the older man. Even at the funeral I was thinking they must be best friends. There was a reference towards the end I believe, where the partner mentions loving the deceased. That's when the penny dropped. Thinking back now it seems quite shocking that I had never seen a story line about a gay person. I had never met or known any and there were none in my town (openly).

I thought that Charles was friends of a friend of Carrie’s husband , so invited along by default. As he helped her to find a wedding dress, maybe she invited him too ? It seemed the sort of thing she would do ‘ oh, you know some of the others ‘ kind of thing.

And weren't all the gang there too?

I always wondered why Charles was at Carrie’s wedding ? He had only met her once or twice

Yes, and he only has about one line in P and P, but is perfectly cast!

I found it dreadful.

Plot device. They were very much my generation of getting married and all my friends and family got married on very similar timescales to today.

He's one of my favourite characters. Just the ultimate pompous arse and even worse for being full of booze. Goes looking for, can't remember the name he calls her but he gets it wrong, and describes her as a fine filly. "I think I'm in there." He's got some great lines and HG's reaction to him and wondering how he is going to get away makes me laugh and squirm at the same time. (I think, writing from memory.)

I’m sure posh twit says something like “hope my sister turns up, can’t have a wedding without a bride” just before he asks about the stag do. Charles seems more familiar with him than hotel bore which makes sense if he’d dated his sister.

I do love the fact that the red faced hotel bore basically plays the same part in P&P 🤣