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Would you move? Or not? I’m so torn need to decide asap

34 replies

princesspeppax · 06/06/2026 13:56

posting aibu for traffic …

Currently live in the house I grew up in, with my own family. A much loved and cherished home which holds lovely memories of growing up and my own DC growing so this is making the decision much harder, would love outside opinions.

We are both early 30s, working with 3 kids 11 and under for reference. We would be paying similar price monthly for all bills it would only be moving costs that we need to finance.

Pro’s for moving -
Bigger property - DC would all have own rooms
Driveway (current house can be difficult to get a space as small car park for many houses)
Larger back garden which is more private
one car is hybrid so could charge on driveaway which we cant currently do

Con’s of moving -
Expense and hassle of moving - flooring, blinds, removal van etc
new house has a much smaller kitchen but rest of house is larger
kids have friends in neighbourhood (but new house is same town so would remain in same school) and hopefully make friends
i’m emotionally attached to this house and would miss it
our current neighbours are lovely no idea about new ones

I dont know if its just because i’ve grew up in this house or not but would love honest opinions …

OP posts:
princesspeppax · 06/06/2026 14:17

Should have added, no scope for extension in current house from front or back unfortunately. Loft to low to make a bedroom also

OP posts:
Octavia64 · 06/06/2026 14:14

are dc wanting a room each?
how crowded are they?

teens do like space but they also spend a lot of time outside the house

ShodAndShadySenators · 06/06/2026 14:12

It's always a wrench to leave a house where you've been happy, but the cold facts are that it's not quite meeting your requirements now, and definitely won't when your children are bigger. It's six years until your eldest can have driving lessons, less than that when puberty and hormones strike, which can be awkward in shared rooms with no private space to retreat to. Your current house doesn't suit your car situation now, that won't get better...

It's often very hard to move especially the into the unknown such as the neighbours. But your current neighbours could change too, you wouldn't be able to do anything about that. If it was me, I would move, especially if the bills were about the same.

Swiftie1878 · 06/06/2026 14:06

Are you talking about moving between rentals?

OnceYoureToastYouCanNeverBeBread · 06/06/2026 14:05

I would always choose a house with its own driveway. The hassle I see on streets near us with no driveways looks like a nightmare. I couldn’t cope with the panic of driving home and struggling to park each day. There are also huge benefits to DC having their own rooms, especially as they get older. What happens if they still need to live with you as young adults?

24Dogcuddler · 06/06/2026 14:04

Moving is always emotional. As your children become teenagers it would be good to have their own space and privacy.
A drive and larger garden sound lovely too.
If you can afford it I would. You can get another property how you want it over time.
Are the rest of the family as emotionally attached as you?

Nofeckingway · 06/06/2026 14:04

Wouldn't it be cheaper to extend for extra bedroom and it's pretty easy to widen drive even if extra for dropped kerb .

concertinacornflake · 06/06/2026 14:03

I wouldn't give up happy memories, great neighbours and friends in the neighbourhood for a driveway and more rooms. I'd stay put.

Edited to add: the pros you list for your current house are priceless.

Cheesecakeismeesecake · 06/06/2026 14:00

Mightn't it be more economical and less emotionally draining to consider pricing up to extend op?

If I'm reading right there's not a massive pull to move but I could be wrong