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Throwing drink cartons out of bedroom window

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Livingingangstersparadise · 06/06/2026 11:00

How strict would you be on this?

Dh just doing the front garden and came in with an empty drink carton saying ‘They’ve thrown this out of the window’
Dd, 7 and friend playing in her bedroom upstairs, I called up to ask her and she said her friend did it to be silly to our dog (he’s a lovely boy) I just said ok and not to throw rubbish again.
Dh angry about it, is it really that bad? It’s not ideal at the end of the day, but they’re only 7

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LadyLooo · 06/06/2026 11:22

I simply would've told her not to do it again, but made her go down and pick it up and put it in the bin.

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Livingingangstersparadise · 06/06/2026 11:21

Floppyearedlab · 06/06/2026 11:20

They have been told, it's dealt with. If they were to carry on doing it, that would be another thing.

Personally we don't allow food and drinks in the bedroom due to mess but not as punishment.

Edited

That’s true, it was Dh who gave them the drinks and snacks 😅

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Floppyearedlab · 06/06/2026 11:20

They have been told, it's dealt with. If they were to carry on doing it, that would be another thing.

Personally we don't allow food and drinks in the bedroom due to mess but not as punishment.

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Livingingangstersparadise · 06/06/2026 11:16

sittingonabeach · 06/06/2026 11:16

They threw something at the dog?

No, she said he was playing and pretending

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sittingonabeach · 06/06/2026 11:16

They threw something at the dog?

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Livingingangstersparadise · 06/06/2026 11:13

SerendipityCat · 06/06/2026 11:10

It’s nothing to be angry about. Your DD has explained that it was a brief moment of silliness, you’ve asked her not to do it again, end of story. I can understand a flash of annoyance from your DH, but being angry - or worse, remaining angry - is a little over the top.

I’ll ask the usual Mumsnet question before anyone else does, OP - is your DH usually quick to anger over trivial incidents?

To me, he seems over the top sometimes. For example yesterday out at a relaxed, outdoor cafe, no one sat near us and going on at her for shaking her chair around, I just pick my battles, think he forgets they’re kids.

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SerendipityCat · 06/06/2026 11:10

It’s nothing to be angry about. Your DD has explained that it was a brief moment of silliness, you’ve asked her not to do it again, end of story. I can understand a flash of annoyance from your DH, but being angry - or worse, remaining angry - is a little over the top.

I’ll ask the usual Mumsnet question before anyone else does, OP - is your DH usually quick to anger over trivial incidents?

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Livingingangstersparadise · 06/06/2026 11:08

DelurkingAJ · 06/06/2026 11:05

Natural consequence is that drinks no longer go into bedrooms until they’re grown up enough not to be so silly. But I would treat as silliness rather than a great offence.

Is it really worth going that far though? They knew from me calling up and mentioning it they shouldn’t do it and friend who did it is likely embarrassed

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DelurkingAJ · 06/06/2026 11:05

Natural consequence is that drinks no longer go into bedrooms until they’re grown up enough not to be so silly. But I would treat as silliness rather than a great offence.

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Livingingangstersparadise · 06/06/2026 11:04

AgnesX · 06/06/2026 11:02

She shouldn't be chucking litter around anywhere. Is your DH annoyed as he's the one who had to pick it up.

I'd be irritated as she should know better but angry, not really.

Edited

Her friend did it, not her, but normally a great boy, no trouble. No i’m usually the one doing most tidying, he just saw it as was doing the garden

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helpfulperson · 06/06/2026 11:03

I'd be somewhere between the two of you. It's not the end of the world but it needs to be made very clear that throwing things at the dog and throwing rubbish into the garden are both unacceptable.

AgnesX · 06/06/2026 11:02

She shouldn't be chucking litter around anywhere. Is your DH annoyed as he's the one who had to pick it up.

I'd be irritated as she should know better but angry, not really.