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Livingingangstersparadise · 2026-06-06T10:00:26+00:00

How strict would you be on this? Dh just doing the front garden and came in with an empty drink carton saying ‘They’ve thrown this out of the window’ Dd, 7 and friend playing in her bedroom upstairs, I called up to ask her and she said her friend did it to be silly to our dog (he’s a lovely boy) I just said ok and not to throw rubbish again. Dh angry about it, is it really that bad? It’s not ideal at the end of the day, but they’re only 7

Skybluepinky · 06/06/2026 13:33

Of course she should know better, no wonder he was annoyed, 7 is old enough to know right from wrong.

LadyLooo · 06/06/2026 12:48

Floppyearedlab · 06/06/2026 11:22

well he is the plonker then. He should have called them downstairs to have them there.

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Oh don't be silly.

I know this is Mumsnet and therefore the man is likely always to blame, but he simply gave a 7 year old a drink.

He wasn't to know he was going to fling the carton out the bloody window! 🙄

Bitzee · 06/06/2026 12:40

Such a non event. Kids were being silly. Get them down to pick up the rubbish and/or new rule that food and drinks stay downstairs from now on. End of.

DH has a point about shaking the chair in the cafe though. Firstly it’s easier to have a blanket we don’t do that policy then a maybe but only if the next table is vacant, secondly she could damage the chair which doesn’t belong to her, thirdly she could hurt herself if the chair broke or she fell.

helpfulperson · 06/06/2026 12:35

Livingingangstersparadise · 06/06/2026 11:13

To me, he seems over the top sometimes. For example yesterday out at a relaxed, outdoor cafe, no one sat near us and going on at her for shaking her chair around, I just pick my battles, think he forgets they’re kids.

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I would have told her to stop because that damages someone elses property.

BillieWiper · 06/06/2026 12:32

Livingingangstersparadise · 06/06/2026 11:30

It was definitely him, she wouldn’t say that and in front of him like this, he’d strongly contest it and say it wasn’t him

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Ah ok fair enough. Yeah that's true. Then you'd be faced with them both screaming that it wasn't either of them, haha! I guess that's good as it means your kid already knows not to do it. I guess ideally he should've been made to pick it up and put it in recycling but the time has passed.

wawawan · 06/06/2026 12:29

Laiste · 06/06/2026 11:51

Less fucked off if the garden was empty. I'd wait till the friend had left and then calmly tell DD to make sure her friends don't throw anything out of windows again please.

How is 7 year old DD going to stop a friend throwing something out of the window though?
I remember a few occasions as a child when a friend or cousin did something they shouldn't and my mother bollocked me afterwards even though she knew full well who did it and told me I was responsible and should stop them. One time a cousin threw a drinks' can into the neighbour's garden; another time a friend crawled through the hedge into another neighbour's garden and despite shouting at her to come back she wouldn't, neighbour went ballistic and I got the blame and another time a friend wouldn't stop banging on the keyboard full blast, got blamed for that as well.

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Livingingangstersparadise · 06/06/2026 12:20

DysmalRadius · 06/06/2026 12:12

Whereas I'd say that if you're on your kid's case about every tiny thing, they end up feeling like they might as well do the really fun really bad things because they will get a bollocking anyway.

(But, just to be clear, it absolutely wasn't me that did any of it...😁)

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Yep 😂

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DysmalRadius · 06/06/2026 12:12

Laiste · 06/06/2026 11:52

I dunno. If you don't keep on top of the little things you tend to find you suddenly have big things with kids .....

Whereas I'd say that if you're on your kid's case about every tiny thing, they end up feeling like they might as well do the really fun really bad things because they will get a bollocking anyway.

(But, just to be clear, it absolutely wasn't me that did any of it...😁)

Monty36 · 06/06/2026 12:09

ilovemybluesharpie · 06/06/2026 11:54

DH shouldn't have picked it up, he should have called DD and her friend down to pick it up and put it in the bin, and told them why they should not be throwing things out of windows.

Agree with this. Make them clear it up.

whippersnapper55 · 06/06/2026 11:57

I wouldn't be angry, it's silly behaviour and deserves a firm telling off then move on.

pimplebum · 06/06/2026 11:56

If my kid was generally goid id leave it at a cross face snd don't do that !

id have a word before friend comes over again not ok to torment dog!

ilovemybluesharpie · 06/06/2026 11:54

DH shouldn't have picked it up, he should have called DD and her friend down to pick it up and put it in the bin, and told them why they should not be throwing things out of windows.

Laiste · 06/06/2026 11:52

I dunno. If you don't keep on top of the little things you tend to find you suddenly have big things with kids .....

Laiste · 06/06/2026 11:51

Less fucked off if the garden was empty. I'd wait till the friend had left and then calmly tell DD to make sure her friends don't throw anything out of windows again please.

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Livingingangstersparadise · 06/06/2026 11:50

KrazyKatty · 06/06/2026 11:45

I have never allowed DC to have food and drink upstairs. A recipe for disaster! In fact, all meals or snacks have to be eaten at the dining or kitchen tables when playing indoors.

You sound far too indulgent/lazy parenting. I’m team DH.

In this case, I’d be having firm words with the visitor about the rules in this house include not littering and not trying to annoy the dog etc. All Kids need to know what the boundaries are in your home.

What will you do if this child hurts your DC or the dog when they’re ‘only playing’ ?

He’s nothing like that, both good kids
I’m definitely not a lazy parent, I just don’t feel the need to constantly get at her about small things.

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Laiste · 06/06/2026 11:49

helpfulperson · 06/06/2026 11:33

Sorry, I don't understand what you mean by this. Where was the dog - in the garden? What was he pretending?

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Same.
The dog was in the garden?

Id be mighty fucked off if a kid threw a drinks carton in the garden while the dog was there.

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Livingingangstersparadise · 06/06/2026 11:48

Monty36 · 06/06/2026 11:32

And at aged 7 is when they should learn if they have not by now that you don’t throw rubbish around. Nor do you do things to be silly to an animal.

They know not to, well Dd does at least

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KrazyKatty · 06/06/2026 11:45

I have never allowed DC to have food and drink upstairs. A recipe for disaster! In fact, all meals or snacks have to be eaten at the dining or kitchen tables when playing indoors.

You sound far too indulgent/lazy parenting. I’m team DH.

In this case, I’d be having firm words with the visitor about the rules in this house include not littering and not trying to annoy the dog etc. All Kids need to know what the boundaries are in your home.

What will you do if this child hurts your DC or the dog when they’re ‘only playing’ ?

helpfulperson · 06/06/2026 11:33

Livingingangstersparadise · 06/06/2026 11:16

No, she said he was playing and pretending

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Sorry, I don't understand what you mean by this. Where was the dog - in the garden? What was he pretending?

Monty36 · 06/06/2026 11:32

And at aged 7 is when they should learn if they have not by now that you don’t throw rubbish around. Nor do you do things to be silly to an animal.

Flamingojune · 06/06/2026 11:31

Teach them to recycle

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Livingingangstersparadise · 06/06/2026 11:30

BillieWiper · 06/06/2026 11:26

I wouldn't believe her when she said her friend did it. At that age they know when someone's done something wrong and they don't want it to be them getting told off so they blame the other person. So she already knows it was the wrong thing to do.

But anyway hopefully it won't happen again. I wouldn't dwell on it personally.

It was definitely him, she wouldn’t say that and in front of him like this, he’d strongly contest it and say it wasn’t him

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FluffMagnet · 06/06/2026 11:29

I would have told them off, rather than asking they didn't do it again. My 7 yr old has had it drummed into them at both nursery and school not to litter (and is incredibly preachy about it!). I also wouldn't allow bad table manners, either at home or at a café, no matter how relaxed it was. Yes they may need reminding, but it shouldn't be tolerated otherwise you have to undo bad habits later on.

BillieWiper · 06/06/2026 11:26

I wouldn't believe her when she said her friend did it. At that age they know when someone's done something wrong and they don't want it to be them getting told off so they blame the other person. So she already knows it was the wrong thing to do.

But anyway hopefully it won't happen again. I wouldn't dwell on it personally.

Floppyearedlab · 06/06/2026 11:22

Livingingangstersparadise · 06/06/2026 11:21

That’s true, it was Dh who gave them the drinks and snacks 😅

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well he is the plonker then. He should have called them downstairs to have them there.