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Livingingangstersparadise · 2026-06-06T10:00:26+00:00

How strict would you be on this? Dh just doing the front garden and came in with an empty drink carton saying ‘They’ve thrown this out of the window’ Dd, 7 and friend playing in her bedroom upstairs, I called up to ask her and she said her friend did it to be silly to our dog (he’s a lovely boy) I just said ok and not to throw rubbish again. Dh angry about it, is it really that bad? It’s not ideal at the end of the day, but they’re only 7

Pistachiocake · 07/06/2026 01:22

AgnesX · 06/06/2026 11:02

She shouldn't be chucking litter around anywhere. Is your DH annoyed as he's the one who had to pick it up.

I'd be irritated as she should know better but angry, not really.

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It's worse that she was trying to hurt the dog (depending on the type of container, he could get badly injured, especially if he tries to pick up a can etc). Trying to hurt or upset animals is worrying, even for those who don't care about animals, because a lot of those men/women who hurt people started by trying to wind up animals as kids.
Most parents wouldn't be happy with their kids throwing litter full stop, but some do encourage it, you sometimes see them getting their kids to throw fast food wrappers out the car windows, so maybe this girl's mum/dad does.

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Livingingangstersparadise · 07/06/2026 00:24

mathanxiety · 07/06/2026 00:22

What battles do you pick, exactly?

If shaking a chair around at a café is not cause for a 'battle', what is?

Are you in some way trying to set up your H to be the bad cop here? A child of seven should know better than to behave badly when out and about. You need to step up and start expecting better behaviour from your seven year old. Or will you be saying 'she's only eight/ nine/ ten...' next year, and on into the future?

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She was sat on a chair moving around, to me that isn’t doing anything bad or naughty for heavens sake

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mathanxiety · 07/06/2026 00:22

Livingingangstersparadise · 06/06/2026 11:13

To me, he seems over the top sometimes. For example yesterday out at a relaxed, outdoor cafe, no one sat near us and going on at her for shaking her chair around, I just pick my battles, think he forgets they’re kids.

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What battles do you pick, exactly?

If shaking a chair around at a café is not cause for a 'battle', what is?

Are you in some way trying to set up your H to be the bad cop here? A child of seven should know better than to behave badly when out and about. You need to step up and start expecting better behaviour from your seven year old. Or will you be saying 'she's only eight/ nine/ ten...' next year, and on into the future?

mathanxiety · 07/06/2026 00:13

Besidemyselfwithworry · 06/06/2026 23:17

I mean I only allow a water bottle in a bedroom no other drinks and certainly no food - just gross
always makes me wonder when people talk about teenagers and loads of pots in their bedrooms
my teen has never and would never do this I find it bizarre people live like this!

Same. Water only in bedrooms. We ate downstairs in the kitchen or dining room. We never had missing plates or mugs, etc.

mathanxiety · 07/06/2026 00:12

I'd have got her and the friend to come downstairs and pick up the litter that was thrown, and put it in the bin.

I'd also have told the pair of them off about whatever it was that they were trying to do to the dog.

When the friend goes home, I'd sit DD down and tell her if she cant be trusted to remind her friends of house rules and atick up for herself, she cant have friends over to play in unsupervised rooms.

I'm Team DH here.

helpfulperson · 06/06/2026 23:37

We still don't know the dogs role in this. Throwing something out of a window is silly, throwing something at a dog is horrendous and dangerous.

Besidemyselfwithworry · 06/06/2026 23:17

I mean I only allow a water bottle in a bedroom no other drinks and certainly no food - just gross
always makes me wonder when people talk about teenagers and loads of pots in their bedrooms
my teen has never and would never do this I find it bizarre people live like this!

Itiswhysofew · 06/06/2026 23:13

Livingingangstersparadise · 06/06/2026 18:17

The crow was drinking a carton?

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Maybe

Probably picked it up out of curiosity then tossed it realising it was a load of ole rubbish.

DiscoBeat · 06/06/2026 22:13

LadyLooo · 06/06/2026 11:22

I simply would've told her not to do it again, but made her go down and pick it up and put it in the bin.

Same here. Non issue!

Isittimeformynapyet · 06/06/2026 22:00

Imthefunfriend · 06/06/2026 21:19

It was a joke! Sorry obviously didn't land (pun intended) 😆 should have thrown an emoji in!

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Impeccable. Good work 👏🏻

BatFinkk · 06/06/2026 21:29

What a big old fuss over nothing. But I suspect the issue here is your husband and that he’s often over the top with discipline

Imthefunfriend · 06/06/2026 21:19

Isittimeformynapyet · 06/06/2026 18:34

Good grief 🫣!

Struggling to expand on that tbh, so I'll leave it there 😄😂

eta Just clocked your username. I doubt that very much. Unless you were being deadpan.

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It was a joke! Sorry obviously didn't land (pun intended) 😆 should have thrown an emoji in!

Isittimeformynapyet · 06/06/2026 18:34

Imthefunfriend · 06/06/2026 18:10

Sounds very dangerous that the children can easily access a window that’s open enough to lob a cartoon out.

Good grief 🫣!

Struggling to expand on that tbh, so I'll leave it there 😄😂

eta Just clocked your username. I doubt that very much. Unless you were being deadpan.

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Livingingangstersparadise · 06/06/2026 18:18

Imthefunfriend · 06/06/2026 18:10

Sounds very dangerous that the children can easily access a window that’s open enough to lob a cartoon out.

Are you actually serious?

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Livingingangstersparadise · 06/06/2026 18:17

Itiswhysofew · 06/06/2026 18:07

Funnily enough, a drink carton landed in front of me the other day, but it was from a crow

I think that telling them not to do it is enough.

The crow was drinking a carton?

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Livingingangstersparadise · 06/06/2026 18:16

PrueRamsay · 06/06/2026 17:42

Is DH her dad?

Yes why?

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Imthefunfriend · 06/06/2026 18:10

Sounds very dangerous that the children can easily access a window that’s open enough to lob a cartoon out.

Itiswhysofew · 06/06/2026 18:07

Funnily enough, a drink carton landed in front of me the other day, but it was from a crow

I think that telling them not to do it is enough.

5128gap · 06/06/2026 17:51

Its not fair to hold your DD responsible for this boys behaviour just because it happened in your house. A seven year old can't be expected to police the behaviour of another child. I'd have given them both the lecture and told him he mustn't do anything like it again, or they wouldn't be allowed to play out of sight of an adult again if they couldn't be trusted to be sensible.

liamharha · 06/06/2026 17:46

FFS they're 7 ,,it's just a bit of silly behaviour thats been dealt with.

PrueRamsay · 06/06/2026 17:42

Is DH her dad?

KrazyKatty · 06/06/2026 17:40

Waitingfordoggo · 06/06/2026 14:25

You’re ’team DH’ but he was the one that gave them drinks to take upstairs! (Which you don’t allow).

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We don’t know that. We’re just told that he gave them drinks. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Magsbd · 06/06/2026 14:33

Sounds like your husband is making much ado about nothing. The 7 year old friend shouldn’t have done that but no harm was done. And your 7 year old daughter is not responsible for what her friend did. Both children have been told that it was wrong. I would say it’s time to move on.

CaptainMyCaptain · 06/06/2026 14:31

helpfulperson · 06/06/2026 11:03

I'd be somewhere between the two of you. It's not the end of the world but it needs to be made very clear that throwing things at the dog and throwing rubbish into the garden are both unacceptable.

This.

Waitingfordoggo · 06/06/2026 14:25

KrazyKatty · 06/06/2026 11:45

I have never allowed DC to have food and drink upstairs. A recipe for disaster! In fact, all meals or snacks have to be eaten at the dining or kitchen tables when playing indoors.

You sound far too indulgent/lazy parenting. I’m team DH.

In this case, I’d be having firm words with the visitor about the rules in this house include not littering and not trying to annoy the dog etc. All Kids need to know what the boundaries are in your home.

What will you do if this child hurts your DC or the dog when they’re ‘only playing’ ?

You’re ’team DH’ but he was the one that gave them drinks to take upstairs! (Which you don’t allow).