Throwing drink cartons out of bedroom window

They need to learn and when they have you can allow drinks in the bedroom again.

One of mine did this once when they had a friend round at a similar age i think I got more mad that they where pissing about near an open upstairs window.

Well surely it is a bit of a big thing. You've put it on MN!

Hopefully the friend is so suitably embarrassed that she's now learnt that it is not the thing to do. 😇

If hate to be a kid in some your houses ,,would be less rules at colditz ,lighten up They're 7 its perfectly normal silly 7yr olds egging each other on . They've been told and hopefully calmed down the high jinks..Never seen anything like it ops child's friend is a potential serial killer who like to harm dogs and ops child is on fast track to juvey according to someone ppl on this thread . Makes me wonder if someone of you live in a alternative reality .

You have dealt with it reasonably for a first instance. I would, however, be watching the friend for more “silliness” directed towards the dog

If you told her not to and she does it again then it's fair enough to be angry but you handled it fine

The OP has been asked multiple times to clarify this and hasn't done so. Interesting.

At seven your child should know to ALWAYS use a bin, to set an example to shitty kids that throw litter on the ground, no exceptions, no excuses. Teach your child how to conduct herself.

Nice twist, but big fail as people can actually see I was replying to...

It's worse that she was trying to hurt the dog (depending on the type of container, he could get badly injured, especially if he tries to pick up a can etc).

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So it's OK to throw things at animals if it isn't big enough to hurt them?

I can't think of a single empty drink carton in the world that's going to hurt a dog when thrown from a window.

I mean, they're made of cardboard 😳

But the most important thing here would've been to make the child go downstairs, pick the carton up and put it in the bin.

And then let that be the end of it after telling him not to do it again.

We have, but you still haven't explained what exactly they were doing with regard to the dog. That is the key to how serious this is.

Id have told them not to throw things out of the window and it's not safe to throw things at the dog and asked them to pop it in the bin and bring down the rest of the rubbish but that's enough I'd think, I don't see it as a huge issue just excited kids being a little bit silly.

Just say "You know that is wrong. Please go and pick it up and put it in the bin." And leave it at that. It is a one-off piece of childish silliness, not a way of life!

I’m definitely not a lazy parent, I just don’t feel the need to constantly get at her about small things.

But you are OP. You couldn't be bothered to go upstairs and tell both kids that littering is not ok and it's not acceptable to tease/annoy/scare the dog in any way whatsoever. If this boy is a visitor in your home then he should know what your house rules are and your daughter should know that rules set out by adults apply at all times, that parents aren't going to let things slide simply because friends are visiting.

I just pick my battles, think he forgets they’re kids.

Stop blaming your dh, when exactly do you think it's an acceptable age for a child to learn how to behave - at home and in public? "only 7" - how long are you going to use her age as an excuse for poor behaviour? Do you think she'll wake up some day and magically know how to behave? She'll never know unless you teach her by setting out clear rules and being consistent in enforcing them.

Your husband knows that kids need parents to teach them how to behave appropriately, you don't.

As a one off I'd say don't do it again & let it go.

We have a strict rule about no food or drink in bedrooms or the formal lounge, which are all carpeted. My DC will definitely (accidentally) spill things or leave crumbs for vermin. I've noticed some of their friends are less careful, so I just remove the cause.

You said shaking the chair and now it's 'sat on the chair moving around'.

Which one was it?

If rocking on the chair, that's something you should have stopped. If swiveling around on the seat, ditto. If tipping back in the chair, same.

She risked knocking the chair over or falling off.

You can put your foot down to curb unruly behaviour, and you should. You're her parent, not her best pal.

Sorry but both of those are really poor behaviour. Throwing rubbish out of windows is completely unacceptable. Any child caught doing that in my home would be told off, made to retire the item and their window would be locked on the vent position going forwards.
I would also come down hard on behaviour at a cafe. Very few children seem to have any understanding of how to behave whilst eating out.

You say you pick your battles but you don’t seem to be picking any battles and your child’s behaviour shows it!

@Imthefunfriend

I've just read your post saying it was a joke. You definitely needed a laughing face. Too many nuts posters these days who would not be joking.

@Livingingangstersparadise

there are some nuts posts on your thread, & your DH overreacted. I'd have just told them both not to be so silly. 💁🏻‍♀️

Has your husband proposed some additional course of action to deal with the thrown container? If he wants to have a further conversation about it with your daughter, I'd encourage that. If he wants to give way the dog, ban the friend and all liquids from the house, and lock your daughter in her room until she's 18 then that's unreasonable.

I'd think additional discussion may be useful to make sure she understands the issues. It sounds like they threw it onto your property and where there was no risk of hitting anyone, but why did they leave it there instead of immediately going down and getting it and throwing it away? Also, the location of the dog is important - if the dog was in the garden and it was thrown close enough to get his interest but not close enough to scare or hurt him that might be "silly", if they threw it AT the dog in the garden, or even worse threw it out of the window while the dog was in the room with them, that's going to require more of a conversation to make sure she understands why this was dangerous and cruel.

If you're the fun friend...