To be annoyed that he didn’t respond or contact me after my message?

Hes working manuel labor then dinner then pub seeing friends, maybe he hasnt had time or space, and yes you are being needy, no one likes ill people and theres nothing he can do, its not sexy to be ill,

Leave him alone. I'd find that level of needless suffocating. Honestly not trying to be mean OP. Just try to self soothe and don't test him x

If my husband of 14 years was a bit poorly and kept messaging me whilst I was away with friends I'd ignore him too.

Also has no one been out with friends and time get away from them? Maybe his phone died? Maybe there was no signal where they were? Maybe they knew OP was sick and didn’t want to message them or call in case they woke them up…. Completely reasonable to not respond to someone immediately.

Wow. Your feelings are valid because you want to be speak to someone you care about when feeling ill but he is spending time with his friends. Chill a bit. He is your boyfriend not your emotional support puppy and he sounds like he does care for you, has been responsive to you being poorly and overall lovely to you. He has not done anything wrong by not texting you back for a while!

You seem a bit needy and demanding. I'd find it a bit suffocating in a new relationship.

"Morning babe hope you're feeling a bit better, busy day ahead over here! X"

Took me 20 secs, tops

Absolutely agreed! It seems weird to me that some posters are saying she shouldn’t message her boyfriend to tell him she’s ill and that expecting kindness and thought back is needy. It’s not a major ask. It’s not a brand new boyfriend, they’ve been together six months, she should be able to message and share her vulnerability. But she’s being shouted down over a basic ask for a need to be met.

I actually agree with you op - I’d be pretty disappointed - I don’t think it takes long to send a message - check in - especially if your normally in daily contact . Do you know or know of the friends he’s with ? Hope your feeling a bit brighter today xx

Why wouldn't he want to call his girlfriend though? They've only been together six months. It's not being a loser to check in with someone while you're away, especially if they are ill.
I'm not suggesting he has to be available at all times instantly, but a call arranged for later in the day/next day isn't unreasonable.

Your illness is a red herring here.

he is doing manual labour with friends. I’d guess that makes checking phones regularly pretty rude and virtually impossible

the fact you’re ill means he thinks your in bed sleeping and not really fussed about chatting.

This constant need to be in touch I don’t think is good for relationships because as soon their is a change it raises questions

he is just busy and enjoying himself there is no more to it than that

He probably thinks you want to be left in peace to sleep it off. That's all I want to do when I have flu type illnesses.

Yes. This exactly.

Why did you voicenote to say you were unwell? There was absolutely no need to tell him this, you have a chest infection, you're not dying! To me, if I got that voice note from a new boyfriend when I was away with friends I'd think it a bit manipulative and an attempt to put a dampener on my weekend. He doesn't need to know that right now, just let him enjoy his weekend with his friends. FWIW Im the same age as you and I wouldn't expect texts whilst a new bf was on holiday and neither would I text them if it was the other way round. You sound very insecure. It sounds like he has made a lot of effort so far and things are going well. Don't drive him away.

Cmon you can’t really think thar, that he has no agency in his life and simply always has to be available to call whenever she wishes.

i don’t know about you, but the kind of loser who would do thar is not a man I’d want to be with,

How were you in your previous relationships OP? It seems to me from the very title of your thread that you have certain expectations which you think are not being met and this is annoying you. Do you have issues with abandonment perhaps? I imagine you want to feel nurtured. It’s only been six months with this man. If you’ve got a chest infection, see your gp and get some antibiotics. I’d probably get under a blanket with some broth and watch Friends.

Fair enough you are not generally needy but in this situation you are being needy. You have had multiple posters tell you that is is behaving overly needy here.

It is too early in the relationship to push your needs onto him, it will put him off. Adults are expected to manage our own needs and have relationships that balance needs. This is too new a relationship to have reached that point.

If he's your boyfriend he should call you whenever you want, within reason. Voice notes are just as time-consuming as a quick call surely.

I wouldn’t be fussing over someone who said they had a bit of a cold. So I think his reaction is reasonable- it’s just one of those things.

I’d not read anything into this. He is busy doing manual work with friends. He’s just busy.

I think you’re being needy op sorry. It’s rough when you’re home alone and bored but you he’s done nothing wrong and if you get shitty with him over this you’re going to make yourself look quite unreasonable I think.

I think he’s probably just busy doing the manual labour and spending time with his friend, and you’re feeling a bit miserable because you’re sick. I’d try and get some rest.

if you have very specific needs/expectations about communication then talk to him about this when you’re next together, and see if it’s something you can reach a landing on.