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Consultation on unmarried couples sharing assets when they break up

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CruCru · 05/06/2026 21:03

There’s a thing in the Times today which says that there is a consultation on unmarried couples sharing assets after a break up. Pretty much, if they separate they could be entitled to a share of a house sale and maintenance. They could also be given automatic inheritance rights if their partner dies without leaving a Will.

The proposal is that people who live together for three years or who have a child together would have these rights.

AIBU to be a bit conflicted on this? On the one hand, I really wish schools covered marriage and the rights and responsibilities it gives you. I’ve talked to women (who live with their partners) who were really taken aback to find out that they didn’t automatically get the same rights as married couples. On the other hand, when I was young (late teens / early twenties), I lived with a boyfriend who was a bit of a sponger - I’d have been really annoyed to find out that he was entitled to any of my money when we split up.

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SilenceInside · 05/06/2026 21:10

I am not comfortable with this idea at all, three years is no time at all really. Having children together is possibly more reasonable as it should represent a long term commitment but in many cases it actually isn’t evidence of any long term intentions at all, sadly. I think that it shouldn’t be automatic, that both parties should be required to acknowledge the legal shift and actively agree to it.

I am speaking as someone who is not married and have been living with my partner for over 25 years and have children with him. I am not at all ignorant of the differences between being married and not being married and am happy with my personal choice, at this point in time.

Kingdomofsleep · 05/06/2026 21:10

I think a much better solution to this perceived problem is to promote the idea to society of marriage being a legal contract rather than an expensive party.

If you want a share of the assets, you sign the contract.

ErrolTheDragon · 05/06/2026 21:08

How on earth would it be proved that you’ve lived together as a couple rather than just flatmates if there are no kids?

If there are kids then the division of assets etc should prioritise their needs.