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Consultation on unmarried couples sharing assets when they break up

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CruCru · 05/06/2026 21:03

There’s a thing in the Times today which says that there is a consultation on unmarried couples sharing assets after a break up. Pretty much, if they separate they could be entitled to a share of a house sale and maintenance. They could also be given automatic inheritance rights if their partner dies without leaving a Will.

The proposal is that people who live together for three years or who have a child together would have these rights.

AIBU to be a bit conflicted on this? On the one hand, I really wish schools covered marriage and the rights and responsibilities it gives you. I’ve talked to women (who live with their partners) who were really taken aback to find out that they didn’t automatically get the same rights as married couples. On the other hand, when I was young (late teens / early twenties), I lived with a boyfriend who was a bit of a sponger - I’d have been really annoyed to find out that he was entitled to any of my money when we split up.

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Iamstardust · 16/08/2026 12:41

Roomgigi · 16/08/2026 12:24

Improvements to the Child Maintenance Service would be a better place to start
Reforming the Child Maintenance Service: Lords Public Services Committee report - House of Lords Library

I agree but that would involve mostly holding men accountable, I'd say that's less popular because it's more difficult to do.
Furthermore, in large part the rules are made by men and men don't want to make life harder for other men or restrict the freedom of other men. Or at the very least they are more comfortable with restricting and punishing women.

Roomgigi · 16/08/2026 12:24

Improvements to the Child Maintenance Service would be a better place to start
Reforming the Child Maintenance Service: Lords Public Services Committee report - House of Lords Library

Sunshineandgrapefruit · 16/08/2026 11:06

And we already have something for that.... What's it called again? Oh! Marriage!

Sunshineandgrapefruit · 16/08/2026 11:05

It can't be opt out. It must be opt in. All parties must decide and agree when the clock starts on any sort of asset sharing. It's really not ok otherwise.

Ineffable23 · 14/08/2026 22:23

I filled in the consultation. I can see the arguments in case of people with under 18 children together. But I don't think the intestacy changes make any sense at all. I wonder if a semi acceptable solution would be to allow unilateral opt out but require that opt out to be formally served to the other party in the relationship so they knew their circumstances.

I do really feel for women who have children without getting married and then get stuck at a later date. But I think there are much less intrusive solutions to that than overreaching and auto opting people in to a contract they didn't consent to.

BigThelma · 14/08/2026 20:49

And if anyone misses the consultation deadline today, please email your MP and ask them to pass on your views directly to the Justice Secretary (currently Alex Norris).

Iamstardust · 14/08/2026 20:42

I can only think that this has been designed to create more blillable hours for lawyers😡

PaleBlueMoonlight · 14/08/2026 15:00

There are so many problems with it I hardly knew where to begin. I gave myself a set length of time in which to write in order not to make my response too long. I hope what I wrote was coherent.

BigThelma · 14/08/2026 12:38

NeverDropYourMooncup · 14/08/2026 09:01

Damn, that's a sneakily worded 'consultation'.

Classic Lammy. We pesky women been hoarding our assets again.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 14/08/2026 09:01

Damn, that's a sneakily worded 'consultation'.

BigThelma · 14/08/2026 07:29

QuintadosMalvados · 14/08/2026 07:17

I have responded.

Baroness Deech has been against this for decades. I think she will really fight against it.

I am hopeful with the change of PM this won't go ahead.

Also the passage of time, making me look at it a bit more objectively has made me think it can't happen - too much uncertainty about when cohabitation started properly.

I hope I am right.

Thanks - there do seem to be a lot of unknowns in these proposals, along with assumptions and stereotyping.

QuintadosMalvados · 14/08/2026 07:17

PaleBlueMoonlight · 13/08/2026 22:10

One more call for consultation responses. Either fill in the survey (you don't have to answer all the questions) or send an email:

https://consult.justice.gov.uk/digital-communications/a-fairer-end-to-relationships-consultation/

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I have responded.

Baroness Deech has been against this for decades. I think she will really fight against it.

I am hopeful with the change of PM this won't go ahead.

Also the passage of time, making me look at it a bit more objectively has made me think it can't happen - too much uncertainty about when cohabitation started properly.

I hope I am right.

BigThelma · 13/08/2026 23:07

Yes, even just an email tomorrow saying ‘woah!’ or ‘AGAINST’ would be good.

This country should not sneak in a state-sanctioned marriage by default that disadvantages women who have survived divorce. It’s hard enough as it is to put a roof over your children’s heads post-divorce, without having it put at risk by the state for the act of having a sexual partner.

BigThelma · 13/08/2026 16:22

I've just sent my consultation response.

I did make lots of the points made on this thread and also mentioned the Mumsnet discussions that have taken place.

Started by Lammy, hopefully ended by Norris.

BigThelma · 13/08/2026 13:38

Even if you just send a quick email, it’s better than nowt.

Contact details/How to respond
You can respond online to the consultation.
Alternatively, please send your response by 14 August 2026 to:
Family Justice Policy Team Ministry of Justice
102 Petty France
London SW1H 9AJ
Email: [email protected]

A fairer end to relationships consultation - Ministry of Justice - Citizen Space

Find and participate in consultations relating to the duties of the Ministry of Justice.

https://consult.justice.gov.uk/digital-communications/a-fairer-end-to-relationships-consultation/

PaleBlueMoonlight · 13/08/2026 12:48

Just to highlight that the deadline for consultation responses is tomorrow (Friday 14th August)

Winter2020 · 25/06/2026 18:09

Cherriesandapples1 · 17/06/2026 12:25

I assume they could choose not to, like in a divorce you could choose to let the other partner keep all their assets if they chose to do so
But it leaves the door open to the partner with all the assets in the cohabiting couple on edge for the next couple of years, just in case the other person changes their mind and comes after the assets a year later. I assume you'd need to get a solicitor to draw up a contract to say they're relinquishing their rights to claim going forward, but if they don't sign that then the person with the assets could be waiting for the clock to tick down before those rights are timed out. It's be ridiculous

It's possible that you wouldn't be allowed not to claim but then claim state benefits within a certain time period - in a deprivation of assets type way.

Sunshineandgrapefruit · 24/06/2026 17:49

May be worth flagging to local MPs if policies are up for discussion

QuintadosMalvados · 24/06/2026 08:23

As nothing exists in a vacuum, given that there is a lot of instability in government at the moment am I incorrect in thinking that these proposals may not even be discussed?

Genuine question.

I think that because this is outrageous to some here, myself included, perhaps we're forgetting if there's bigger things going on it may not even be discussed?

Interested in any input from those that know more than I do about this.

SweetnsourNZ · 20/06/2026 05:44

mydogisthebest · 07/06/2026 17:00

Surely the most sensible thing would be to have to opt in? What if one wants to opt out and the other doesn't?

My son's friend had this recently. He had a house, she had nothing. His parents (he is only in early 20s so still a bit naive) suggested he get her to sign an opt out agreement to protect his asset, she broke up with him.

Thisistyresome · 19/06/2026 11:40

Worth noting that that divorce lawyers representatives have advocated for a system that allows people to get dragged into legal disputes after a break up of unmarried people for years.

A generous interpretation is if all you have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail.

The less generous interpretation is they are dragging everyone one in to endless legal paperwork.

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