AIBU by finally telling someone they are behaving in a toxic and unpleasant way?
Basically without too much detail, a relative lost a child. Since that they've been very very very angry. With everyone and everything - flies off the handle VERY fast over trivial things. (8 years ago since losing the baby)
Its getting worse not better - they have got themselves banned from a local supermarket recently because they were abusive to staff
When you talk to them you can be having a normal conversation and all of a sudden something (like someone's NAME) will trigger them and you can literally hear the anger rising as they talk! Over something like someone's name! Or it could be where someone lives. Or something that happened 6 years ago......
The way they talk about people is vile, calls people bi*es, idiots, c*ts, morons, f-ing this that and the other.......etc etc
Their bitterness and victim mentality is exhausting. The bitterness is on another level with everything
I've stopped talking on the phone because of the constant negative tone they use.
Its draining me so i have stopped enabling it and sent a long message to said and said they need to stop being a victim and start being proactive to change things.
They need conselling and anger management and support so urgently!
I don't want comments about their words etc as i am aware its absolutely vile and uncalled for and THAT is why I wanna get them some help urgently. I just want them to have a better, happier life with positivity and kindness as opposed to bitterness and nastiness.
** they cannot afford private counselling so please dont suggest this
**their doctors are "wank" so i doubt they would approach them
** I've suggested talking therapy and im pretty sure they never looked into it
Help!