AIBU to ask family to keep vegan takeaway dishes separate?

It’s the smugness for me.

I wouldn’t sit and lecture a vegan about my choice to eat meat. So why does a vegan get to lecture me?

Again with the insults without articulating an actual argument.

DD is vegetarian and we would never use the same utensils for her food as for meat dishes
Your family are being arseholes

It’s like talking to a bowl of porridge.

It’s the smugness for me.

I wouldn’t sit and lecture a vegan about my choice to eat meat. So why does a vegan get to lecture me?

Veganism and vegetarianism can be dietary preferences for health or weight-loss reasons. However, most vegans adopt a vegan diet for ethical reasons and should be respected not mocked.

If the majority of people adopted a vegan diet, experts estimate it could reduce food-related greenhouse gas emissions by roughly 70% and free up about 75% of current agricultural land, allowing forests to regenerate and helping to restore biodiversity.

A widespread transition to veganism offers clear advantages for the environment. Most people, including myself, are too selfish to do this but I greatly respect the people who do, like OP.

I would have thought it was OTT and a teeny bit precious but I would have done it without making a fuss.

I have the maturity to understand that veganism is a dietary preference, and that it's simply not that serious.
There's a lot more important things happening in the world than, "Oh dear, Helen might be upset because Jane accidentally used the wrong tongs to touch her salad leaf!"
If ever there was a first world problem, that would be it.

I have the maturity to understand that veganism is a dietary preference, and that it's simply not that serious.
There's a lot more important things happening in the world than, "Oh dear, Helen might be upset because Jane accidentally used the wrong tongs to touch her salad leaf!"
If ever there was a first world problem, that would be it.

Last weekend we got an Indian takeaway with family who were visiting. Everyone chose their food and I ordered it.

Some people decided they wanted to try others food, everyone was ok with that but I asked that people didn’t use the same utensils for the vegan dishes and meat dishes because I’m vegan and didn’t want meat in my food.

I thought this was a normal, fair and easy request but a couple of my family members started saying I was being over the top and asking what I thought would happen if some meat got in my food. I said I didn’t want to eat meat or animal products, even tiny amount, not that I thought anything would happen. They accused me of ruining the evening. I didn’t. I asked them, they caused a fuss, I explained my reasons and then carried on with the night. Everyone else got on with the night but these 2 spent the evening making sarcastic comments towards me and ignoring me at times.

Would you have had an issue with using separate utensils to put some of the vegan food on your plate, would you have seen it as ‘over the top’ or just been courteous and used different utensils with no fuss?

We are seeing this family member again next month. Lucky us. We will likely get a takeaway again and I’m thinking of just saying hands off and no one can try mine. 😬

I have the maturity to understand that veganism is a dietary preference, and that it's simply not that serious.
There's a lot more important things happening in the world than, "Oh dear, Helen might be upset because Jane accidentally used the wrong tongs to touch her salad leaf!"
If ever there was a first world problem, that would be it.

I have the maturity to understand that veganism is a dietary preference, and that it's simply not that serious.
There's a lot more important things happening in the world than, "Oh dear, Helen might be upset because Jane accidentally used the wrong tongs to touch her salad leaf!"
If ever there was a first world problem, that would be it.

I'm not the one suggesting the discussion is tiresome on here. I'm happy to defend what I've said.

I am still unsure what you are referring to when you claim I have denied something I've said. You seemed to be referring to it in your 18:30 post, when you quoted me saying I haven't said I would double dip if I wasn't explicitly asked not to. but then you quoted me talking about the cost OP was putting on her guests (her guests, not me) and nothing to do with me saying that I would have to be asked. I assumed you got yourself confused.

If it's something else, please do enlighten me.

The whole argument about double dipping is a bit off topic, though, since OP, according to her post, didn't object to the double dipping as such, only the potential contamination of vegan food from utensil's that had been in meat dishes. If the spoons used to serve were swapped around there wouldn't be any double dipping and OP would still be upset. (And before you try to claim otherwise - no I wouldn't contaminate the vegan food with food from meat dishes if I realised it was an issue, even without being explicitly asked).

So long as you're not helping yourself to any of their food "just to try" aswell, I think it's absolutely fine to keep yours separate.

I doubt very much that you have any kind of maturity 🤷‍♀️

@zingally it is perfectly safe for you to ingest cat food, in the small quantities that might cling to a utensil. By your own rationale you would be perfectly ok with your host scraping out the contents of a packet of whiskas and then using that spoon to serve your beef Bourguignon onto your plate.

After all there are a lot more important things happening in the world.

I’m vegetarian (mostly vegan at this stage) for over 30 years and I am so sick of this crap. I feel for you OP. Those people are likely people who hate vegans and are always complaining about them.

Is it too much to ask to not have some comment/dig when eating a meal. I just want to eat my meals in peace - I never comment on other people’s food - it’s highly disrespectful.

i wouldn’t share. You can’t eat anyone else’s food, so you will be left with the smallest portion if anyone takes a bit of yours. I wouldn’t care if people thought I was being anti-social. So so tired of it all.

I have the maturity to understand that veganism is a dietary preference, and that it's simply not that serious.
There's a lot more important things happening in the world than, "Oh dear, Helen might be upset because Jane accidentally used the wrong tongs to touch her salad leaf!"
If ever there was a first world problem, that would be it.