AIBU to ask family to keep vegan takeaway dishes separate?

Next time you pay OP, only order vegan food. They don’t deserve to have their preferences respected.

Yes or cat or rat or horse

I'd be fine with separate utensils, but I can imagine certain people in my family would make a fuss (my dad and younger brother wouldn't let it pass). I'd forget about it, you made your point, some people are more understanding than others.

Would it be taking the fun out of the occasion if someone asked you to take your shoes off when you visited? Serious question

To help people understand - imagine you are in China and sharing dishes and some of them contain dog. Are you ok with the same spoons being used across the dishes so you might be eating a bit of dog meat or juices?

(I know some people wouldn’t care about this either but it might help a few people understand how a veggie/vegan feels about utensil sharing)

I've noticed that one of my family, who is a vegetarian, puts most of her food on her plate, then says, does anyone want to try this last bit before I take it? So she never risks a fork with meat going in.

Way to suck the fun out of an occasion. You were being pointlessly awkward. "Look at me. I'm a vegan". Nobody gives a shit.

That's bad manners/gross even without the veggie/vegan issue.

Don't share dishes with these people.

Better still, meet in a restaurant (not tapas!).

Their behaviour was appalling

You were being completely reasonable and the fact they were using forks that they’d been eating off to help themselves to your food is doubly disgusting. It’s not difficult to use a separate spoon for each dish.

The way round this is to put the entire contents of the vegetarian dish that you choose onto your plate from the takeaway container as soon as it arrives. That way nobody has the chance to try to get near it with their meaty cutlery.

They see the issue in the same way as if you only dislike their food, or perhaps you have a food intolerance to something.

They don't understand it is an ethical issue, so they think you are making a fuss about nothing.

The answer is to eat all your food, and not offer them any, or serve it to them yourself.

Yeah definitely just keep your food separate next time and say sorry but I'm not being involved in the sharing as I can't share any of the other dishes. Then if they whinge - I made a simple polite request last time and you were very rude about it, I didn't want to argue again about that, and I certainly don't want to argue about what I do with my own food. As PPs have said using people's own forks is disgusting behaviour anyway meat or not. But certainly when you have a vegetarian/vegan involved.

Really, you think not wanting meaty sauce/fat in your vegan food is a bit OTT? What about forks/spoons folks have had in their mouths, would you be ok with that in your meal? I wouldn't.

Just use a clean spoon, how hard is that.

@HedgehogsOnTheWallwell you wouldn’t be able to eyeroll in this house shared utensils (well actually food at all) don’t happen because you could land 2 of us In A&E at best. We have one sulfite allergy, one vegan and one vegetarian plus DH who eats anything. We also don’t do buffets, hotel breakfasts or even restaurants because people can’t be trusted to understand basic principles of hygiene and cross contamination. I once almost died because the “vegan” soup at a work event on the mainland (the only vegetarian option all day) had been made with chicken stock but she thought it would be fine and nobody would know.
It doesn’t matter why someone is vegan, vegetarian or chooses to identify as a pink elephant if they ask for something to be done there’s no reason to be snarky. Op my Dd1 is vegan and I have noticed that people bend over backwards to sympathise with Dd2 having a sulfite allergy, they think I have made up my condition which has led to me being a strict vegetarian (and other foods) and avoiding even skin contact with many animal products. Mention Dd2 is vegan and people become almost aggressive about her choice and try to shove meat and dairy consumption in her face, the word vegan seems to trigger folk.

Oh my god. If there was human flesh in it would you eat it? Would you want your spoon in it? No.

im trying to help you understand how gross it is to eat flesh when you haven’t forever

Hopefully they will be paying for the next takeaway?

Each dish has it’s own serving spoon surely? You don’t want people using the fork they’ve put in their mouth in the dish, and even between dishes that are both meat there are different sauces. It’s really not hard to keep things separate.

I'm veggie and I don't share unless I've finished. Then its fair game.

But presumably you don't want to eat meat for moral reasons. Well there's no extra meat involved so it's no different to share the spoon. Morally you've done nothing wrong in using a spoon having meat traces on it and neither have they.

OMG you PAID for the takeaway and they treat you like this?
I would sequester all vegan food and only give it to them on request!
Ignorant people!

It’s manky to cross contaminate utensils between different dishes regardless of dietary preferences! I’m guess they’re the sort who don’t believe in food allergies either?

Yeah any normal person would be fine with that OP

How annoying having people at the table asking to eat some of your dinner! Vegan or not!! YANBU tell them next time to back the F off with your food!!