AIBU to ask family to keep vegan takeaway dishes separate?

How is asking you not to dip your spoon on their dahl a “lecture”?

Nobody can genuinely be this self absorbed, surely?

YANBU. I had to take issue with DH recently because he accidentally put sliced meat on my plate instead of his and thought taking it off would be good enough. It’s hard to explain why it matters but it does. Oddly, I can cope with the idea of eating animal products by accident after the event, but once I know, not a chance.

How twatty.

It's unhealthy, in a nutshell. I know you will want to elaborate on how it can be healthy, that's fine. Again, not here to debate. Cannot believe there are so many people here being such a prick to OP because of this, though. Reading through the comments and it's just shocking tbh. Or maybe not, since this is MN.

Exactly. I’m coeliac and react to literally trace amounts of gluten. Shared cutlery, fingers, spreads, toasters etc genuinely make me ill but the amount of people who just don’t think or respect that is mind blowing.

What difference does it make to a meat eater to just use a different fork or spoon? Absolutely none 🙄

Nah I don’t think you’re precious. I wouldn’t share with those folks again.

I have allergies and actually do demand separate utensils if taking some of my food. I will dish it up for people usually to be 100% sure. I’d treat vegan or vegetarian food the same.

Well... I won't debate it with you. I just wondered what there is to "oppose"? 🤔🤔

I'm not here to debate veganism, as I've already done that today and it's draining. My point here is despite disagreeing with it, I don't act like this around people who are vegan when they are otherwise minding their business and being civilised because it is sad. I respect their right to choose what to eat, as is the case for everybody. If I was OP I would not socialise with such people again.

I'm a meat eater but two of my children are vegetarian and a third is vegan. It isn't "smug" to say what you will and will not eat; nor does it constitute lecturing. Vegans and vegetarians have been tarred with this nonsense for too long, usually by people who can't stand anyone who is different to them. I'm afraid you would not be welcome in my home.

She wasn’t lecturing them, she was asking them not to contaminate her food. Sounds like you’d be as dickish as her relatives.

YANBU @TakeawayRow . My extended family have spent the last 30 years taking the piss out of my vegetarianism so I feel you. Just don’t let them try your stuff and rember to do the “JOEY DOESN’T SHARE FOOD!” Line and stab them in the back of the hand with a (non vegan) fork when they reach for your dish.

Totally agree. There are some real twats on here.

Well.... Presumably any vegan side dishes would still mean no meat spoons please and ... They'd be presumably for OP in the main any way???

Yanbu. I had prawns and lamb. I’d insist the same if anyone tried to dip their spoon in my food. But on those sharing occasions I put a spoon per dish so they don’t mix.

Exactly - regardless of whether it’s vegan or not that’s the normal civilised way to share food.

Sorry you’ve got such nasty rude relatives OP.

Why are you opposed to it?

I was referring to the side dishes.

She wasn't.

You're just sounding like you're angry at vegans.... Are you a closet vegan? Insecure in your meat eating habits? Do you mean to project your feelings to others who have the strength of character to say "actually, no, I don't agree with something and I will live my life by that"?

Did it make you feel better today to insult someone for the choice of what goes in their mouth?

Have a good long inward think..

Is there any need to be so rude and ignorant to the OP?

I am very much opposed to veganism but even I make sure to honour my vegan friends requests when it comes to separate utensils, plates, preparation, etc. What they did is so vastly unreasonable and gross. They are the ones who made a fuss and ruined the evening when they could have just said "okay, no problem". Good luck next month, I'd cancel on them tbh.

Id kick up a fuss if they used a beefy curry spoon on a chicken curry dish ... We have serving spoons/tongs for each dish.

So OP is not being precious at all in not wanting meaty spoons in her food.

Why?

I agree with you completely. Next time I’d announce, no one try my food as it’s the only one I can eat.

You did nothing wrong, OP. Your family are very rude.

When they next come round, and if you are paying for the takeaway, I would order exclusively vegan dishes. And tell them why.

I m a meat eater, but would never 1) put a fork which had been in contact with meat onto a vegan/vegetarian's plate or 2) put a fork which had been in my mouth onto anybody's plate or into their food.

I have to say - when I say I’m not a vegan I am someone very far removed from the OP. I eat meat (I am
incredibly fussy about where it comes from etc) and we shoot through the season. We have Gundogs, I prepare game including pheasants/partridge/duck/venison etc. I pluck/skin/butcher etc. so definitely not vegan!

however I am shocked at the comments on here aimed at OP. We have diametrically opposing viewpoints, however I respect anyone’s choice! There is no need for snarky, rude comments.