AIBU to ask family to keep vegan takeaway dishes separate?

It's very possible to accommodate people's choices and point out that they have nothing to do with a medical condition.

Yes, it's precious and frankly disrespectful to make a comparison with someone who has a medical allergy.

People wouldn't roll their eyes so much if you didn't make such a fuss. Most people don't want to mix serving spoons anyway.

Utter nonsense.

Saying that someone else’s food choice might ‘contaminate’ yours is inherently judgy.

No it isn't. If you don't eat meat or animal products then it isn't judgy, it is a fact. and saying that it is judgy just says more about you and your disrespect of other people with different dietary choices than the vegan.

It is normal to use separate utensils for vegan and vegetarian food. Anyone with half a brain cell understands the issues associated with cross contamination.

People who don’t eat meat, do not want their meal to be cross contaminated with any meat products.

It’s common sense - not a big deal and anyone who thinks it is a big deal is only being difficult and ignorant. Lacking the ability to empathise and see situations from anyone else’s point of view.

I say this as someone who eats anything.

Your relatives sound mad OP. If using a clean spoon ruins their night they must lead very sheltered lives. Order only vegan next time. Fuck em.

It's that level of disrespect to me and what I want of my diet which make me say no thank I dont share my food.

This.

Not only do you not put the chicken spoon in the vegan lentil dish, you don't put the prawn spoon in the chicken, or the extra hot chilli sauce spoon in the butter chicken.

Surely this is common sense - most people want to choose what they eat, not have other people smear bits of other dishes into communal or someone else's food.

If each person has chosen a dish, sharing usually results in a polite person who waits out the initial scramble to serve themselves getting very little of the thing they actually want, and being left with the bean sprouts someone else ordered and didn't fancy after they saw other, better, orders. So I'd say everyone eats what they ordered for themselves!

I am really surprised at some of the comments here. The OP was not smug, did not say “look at me, I’m vegan” she simply asked (quite reasonably!) for separate spoons/forks.

I am in my 50s and have never eaten meat. We often have parties where we cook for a large number of people and leave all the food for everyone to help themselves. I always remind our guests that I would like them to use separate utensils and nobody bats an eyelid.

Or maybe some of my friends are like the few posters who internally eye roll, but I don’t think it’s an unreasonable request.

I hate this stereotype that vegetarians / vegans are smug and lecture others. I have never done this, my food choices are MY food choices. I don’t really care what others eat (unless they put a meat spoon in my food …)

That is gross.

We serve up DS’s GF’s veggie food first, always. We don’t put her veggie main in the same oven with the turkey and we separate her BBQ stuff as well.

Ugh. I’m not vegan but if someone starts mixing the balti spoon in the tikka masala I’d feel sick. Who does that? One spoon for each dish obviously

Saying that someone else’s food choice might ‘contaminate’ yours is inherently judgy. I can see how it wouldn’t have gone down particularly well. Even if you got the tiniest lick of animal protein it would have made zero difference to you or the animal so it’s performative.

You are not even being a teeny bit unreasonable OP. Also, don’t pay for their food ever again. Twunts

I agree with this. People seem to think if you’re veggie or vegan you think you’re superior.

So they attack you to make themselves feel better.

My MIL is veggie and we always make sure to use separate cooking utensils ie tongs for serving food. Isn’t that normal when someone we love has a food allergy/ avoidance?

😂😂😂

What a ridiculous thing to say
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You're not a vegan, so how do you know if you'd be okay with it??? 😂😂😂

I dont get it either
Im an omonivore too i love meat
But i respect other peoples choice ; s not to eat it and not want their food contaminated by animal products.

Why do threads about vegans and vegetarians bring out the monumentally thick, selfish, thoughtless and devoid of critical thinking posters?

I'm an omnivore and don't find it difficult to accommodate someone who doesn't eat meat or animal products.

Sorry but I do think you were a bit over the top.

Sorry, but I do think you are being rather dense here. Do you not realise that vegetarians and vegans don't want their food contaminated by dishes containing meat? What do you find so difficult to understand?

I'm an omnivore and I get it because I'm not stupid or bigoted and have enough social awareness to understand.

The Op isnt being precious at all aa a vegan she doesnt want to eat animal products at all thats her right
I love meat but i respect other peoples principles .

Why would you want to do it again with people who dont care about your views. You sounded very reasonable to me.

It’s certainly the law of Mumsnet, unfortunately.

“Precious” 🙄🙄🙄

I can tell a mile off what sort of person you are.

Not really. My food my choice.
People don't respect boundries? Say no thank you I don't want to share my food.

This. Those people are obnoxious twats OP.

It seems like it’s very acceptable to mock people who don’t eat dead animals. It makes them feel better and they bond over the bullying. Knobs

I agree and I'm definitely not a vegan.

I am not vegan or vegetarian but I would want clean utensils anyway for sharing a large of food.