AIBU to ask family to keep vegan takeaway dishes separate?

YNBU but why are you getting takeaways every time your family visit? Is it because they won’t eat vegan food if you cook?

Totally agree with this, its really not hard. They would hate my buffets then, each item has its own serving utensil, not to be mixed with anything. Separate cheese knives, who wants blue cheese on their brie! I could go on.

Jesus wept. Any Indian restaurant or takeaway will cook with oil instead of ghee for vegans.

Not precious at all, totally normal. And I absolutely would not want other people’s forks in my food, but I wouldn’t share my takeaway anyway!

Just to add - I’m pescatarian and whilst I do keep utensils separate at home for our mixed vegetarian/ pescatarian/ omnivore household, wouldn’t be that bothered if a meat spoon went near my food (I mostly eat vegetarian food, but with the odd fish dish when out or sometimes when making it for omnivore DS). I’d be more upset about the saliva-y fork/ spoon tbh!

However, as others have said, I’m not a massive twat and I realise lots of vegetarians/ vegans/ people with religious beliefs about food would be bothered! I definitely wouldn’t need to be told not to contaminate.

Obviously not. Because that would be an actual allergy.

Oh dear, @TakeawayRow you have brought out all the arseholes with your thread. It is really very, very easy not to cross contaminate food by using the specific spoon placed in the takeaway container. I thought everyone does this - a separate spoon per container - who wants meaty sauce going into a fish dish, for example? Anyone poking the fork they are eating with into a communal dish is a gross, dirty pig. Your relatives are being contrarian arseholes, and I don't know why you are entertaining them again if that's their behaviour in your home, eating food you have paid for and insulting their host.

I'd be concerned an Indian restaurant that sells 'vegan' food alongside meat would be cross contaminated anyway. Or they might use ghee etc.

But yeah it's reasonable to use different utensils of course. Especially as it was your food you ordered specifically.

So you paid for the food and they were RUDE to you in your own home! I wouldn’t share or pay for anything again. There really is no room for their criticism. I’m a meat-eater myself, but rude is rude.

You can't share anyone else's, so no they can't taste yours.

Do not understand people calling you precious, etc. I'm not vegan, but it's basic common sense to keep seperate sharing cutlery. Hope none of them work in kitchens.

My sisters family is muslim

Back in the day, when I hosted not just for them but wider family , I was very much aware that I couldn't cross contaminate

So if a BBQ - Id light two, one halal and non pork, one for everyone who wasnt worried . If it was just bog standard roast - I bought halal - didnt bother me , meat tasted the same

Our wedding, I catered vegan/vegetarian/pescatarian and kept meat products purely seperate

But then that is surely good manners? If you are hosting you host for everyone?

Dinner nights are now a thing of the past for us, we do drinks, and yet its the same thing, this one drinks Gordens, that one drinks Bombay - I always have both available , same as slimline or full sugar

To be fair that’s disgusting, without the vegan/ meat issue - putting their used forks into other people’s/ communal food.

Your request was perfectly reasonable! Obviously separate utensils should be used for veggie/ vegan food.

Some people just hate to be told anything, I think. Especially if you’re a younger relative - some people can’t cope with that, as though it puts them in a lower position in some kind of imaginary power play.

OP should be understanding that her relatives don’t care about her?

Well, i dont think it was unreasonable for you to ask. However. i wouldn't have laboured the point if they were all ordered from the same place. I doubt a take away place cares much about mixing spoons, unless they are dealing with allergies. Tbf, most of them dont care even if they were dealing with allergies!

I'm with OP here 👏
OP - just keep your food completely separate from theirs next time, don't let them get near it - that's what I have to do with some of my family members.....
I don't want other people's forks in my food when those forks have been in their food and/or mouths,,,,,

You are eating with meat eaters so meat is in the room. The animals have been born raised and died already. You aren’t actually allergic or intolerant.
I get why you find it unpalatable ( I have a thing about manky old pasteurised milk, as I only drink fresh raw) but essentially it’s in you head.
Be understanding that others don’t care.

I wouldn't mix utensils because it would make the dishes taste weird anyway.

Why? I eat meat, as does my son-in-law. My daughter does not. She cooks it for others and simply asks that they keep the food and utensils separate. There’s nothing precious about that. She’s an adult who has made a choice; we respect that.

@TakeawayRow Seems like you are only responding to the few people not agreeing. Please look at the vote. The majority is on your side. This is why I always take what I want from my vegetarian dish and then let everyone else fight for the rest with their meaty forks 😅

YANBU

I’m not veggie or vegan but have enough savvy to know a vegan wouldn’t want to risk contamination with even a small amount of animal products

Your relatives are the idiots who put the spoon from the salsa in the sour cream at a buffet.
If You really have to host them again, and you order a takeaway, eliminate all risk by only ordering vegan dishes.

I am a meat eater but wouldn't dream of using a fork/spoon I had used for my food in a vegetarian or vegan's food. Not sure why they thought it was a big deal, you shouldn't really even need to ask them to do this! You would have thought it was common sense