AIBU to ask my next door neighbours not to smoke indoors?

Good lord, you won't find many people more anti-smoking than me (it killed both my parents) but that's one of the most weirdly unhinged things I've ever read.

Only on mumsnet do you read stuff like this 😂. I've read some really batshit stuff on here but this has to be in the top 3 of all time.

You cannot be serious. People who smoke have an addiction. You think if someone knocked on and asked then not to smoke they would say "Sure. Sorry; how horrible and inconsiderate of me to smoke in my own home! Ill smoke outside instead....oh wait...then you'll smell it when you're in the garden or if you open the windows....so I guess I'll quit because I couldn't possibly have you dealing with the smell of smoke. After all that's what lovely obliging people like me do. Thanks for highlighting the issue.'

This thread really highlights the folly of coming on here for legal advice. So much of it is just vibes and "yoy may as well ask."

@jinglejanglescarecat you do realise how insane you sound. The risk from the small amount of cigarette smoke seeping into a home from the neighbours is not a health risk that any government agency will do anything about other than laugh at you

I remember as a child smelling it my bedroom from my next door neighbours. My Mum was aghast it was in my bedroom. I think the plumbing came into my room and I’m guessing air moved around the gaps and it seeped in. We didn’t like it back then.

I think you could mention something along the lines of “just wondering do you smoke as we can smell smoke in our house occasionally and we don’t smoke”. They may decide to smoke somewhere near a window.

believe me I get it, I’d hate it, I think nowadays people maybe more courteous. Even if they smoke outside it seeps through windows and guffs the outside area out. It is becoming more antisocial but smokers will say it’s their own property.

My neighbours sometimes smoke weed outside and I don’t think they realise how pungent it is.

No it means your home is poorly built and your neighbour will have a valid complaint about you harassing them especially going to their door at 4am because you dont like them smoking in their own home

No they cant.
Even if environmental health could detect cigarette smoke (which they wont test for) they would tell you to fix thr firewall between the houses

Nice to hear that there are some decent people around!

Be careful what you wish for, my neighbours smoke outside and the smell completely spoils my time in my small garden. I guess it depends what’s most important to you but I feel for you either way

Um you said there is no risk to cancer from cooking fumes.

I'm surprised you didn't know that there is but I'm delighted to see that you do now know.

Selfish to please yourself in your own home that you pay for? I really have heard it all now.

This is literally the first sentence:

From creating toxic chemicals to an increased risk of lung cancer, the latest evidence suggests that some ways of cooking come with health risks.

Were you trying to be funny or did you just not read it??!

So you wouldn’t even be concerned that they can smell it? How selfish.

Honestly op, I can imagine it must be horrible for you, it would drive me absolutely mad. But unfortunately you can’t ask them to stop. Well you can ask, but they will probably tell you to piss off.

Did you really just respond to a question about fumes reaching your house from elsewhere, the only topic being asked about, with that . . . . . .

If nothing else the risk of the fumes reaching your house being an issue to you from somewhere else, is effectively zero even if the person was cooking at extreme heats with specific oils for years. If you can smell cigarette smoke, it is always poisoning you. And many of the cancer causing fumes that can still reach you, have no smell and can still be impacting you or children even if you cant smell anything from that neighbour smoking.

I didn’t ask about if you were cooking in unventilated spaces with extreme heat with specific oils daily for years could this cause cancer, because that would be changing the topic.

@BeansOnToast41 there’s an issue. Either they can sort it out or you can sort it out. They are entitled to do as they please in their own home, so that rules them out, which leaves it with you to sort. Improve your walls!

This is crazy, mainly because I’m shocked it goes next door. I’m always making curry’s and now I’m worried my neighbours can smell it! I agree is horrible to sneak smoke so not really commenting on but to be fair, I’m just shocked smells go through walls 🥴

The article you have linked does not back up your assertion that cooking fines cause cancer.

I HATE smoking, and it makes my asthma worse but YABU

I lived in an old Victorian flat and had this issue. A new tenant moved in, they'd light up and the smell of cigarettes would instantly fill my flat. It wasn't a faint smell either. So I asked the guy as sweetly as I could if he'd mind smoking outdoors instead. He said yes, and mostly stuck to it. So you never know! Ignore the spluttering indignants and give it a go.

You can’t ask them not to smoke but you could research ways to reduce it coming through to your house and see if there’s anything they can do their side.

I’d rather in the house than in the garden.

Batshit to hoard excitement too 😂

With weed you can, because it's illegal. You could give them the option of knocking it off themselves before you call the police.

Tobacco, sadly no.

OP, you will have to tell us how you get on when you ask.