AIBU to ask my next door neighbours not to smoke indoors?

For goodness sake. Read my original post again. Notice how mild and uncontroversial it was, and how it already allowed for both possibilities. I'd not have thought it worth investing the time trying to pick an argument with me over it.

I think it's ridiculous to think it's a reasonable request to ask somebody to stop doing something legal in the confines of their own home. You know full well if someone has a problem with their neighbour smoking in their own home they will have as much as a problem with them smoking in their garden. Where should the smoker go to smoke then? If you can't see that your perspective is laughable I cant help you....

Also, I don't doubt there are unselfish smokers. Why would being a smoker make someone more or less likely to be selfish or not?

Good job you don't live on my council estate it's a constant smell indoors and outdoors. Also you can't police what other people do in the privacy of their own homes whether they are right or wrong it's none of your business unless they are coming into your house or garden to do it they can do what they like. Live and let live is what I say. You can't control what other people do, what you can control however is how you react to it.

I suppose there's worse things they could be doing like shooting up and leaving dirty needles everywhere like some of the crackheads that live around the corner from me. Weed is not that bad and it's becoming widely accepted now in society soon it will be legal over here like it is in some parts of the USA choose the hill that's what I say.

You're using extremely emotive and overblown language here. It seems insanely exaggerated, and even as someone very sensitive to the smell of cigarette smoke, I have absolutely no idea how you could be so badly affected, literally 24/7, by people smoking in their own homes.

Completely different situation. It's not lawful to burn tyres.

You have a very high protection in law of being able to carryout lawful activities in a private dwelling without there being restrictions. The protection you enjoy are way beyond any protection for commercial activities or activities in common open spaces or shared spaces. Smoking is a legal activity so the only remedy would be if you could prove the Smoking was a nuisance in law that was prejudicial to health. This is a high legal test and as someone who has investigated numerous nuisance complaints, I couldn't envisage any situation where you would succeed in law.

There’s a big gap between burning tyres in a garden and smoking cigarettes in a house. Environmental health wouldn’t have anything to do with the latter.

Yes we can when its affecting every aspect of our lives and making my life a misery. Environmental health backed me up.
You cant burn tyres in your garden just because its your garden either. So tough luck.

You have to be a complete idiot to be a smoker and Im not having that in my house.

It’s not in OP’s house. Fortunately we’re not at the stage of dictating what other people do or don’t do in their house.

Im actually incredibly easy going. I dont care what they do but I will not be stunk out of my own home with filthy cigarettes. Why anyone smokes that much I have no idea. You all know the terrible damage it does not only to your own health but other peoples and smokers stink. You can smell them coming a mile off. I work in the vascular unit at my hospital and spend my days cutting off smokers rotting, necrotic toes and feet and watching as they lose their feet then their legs, get lung disease and cancer and finally their hearts give out and they die in agony.
Yet still they smoke right up to the end when they are not gasping on their oxygen tanks.
You have to be a complete idiot to be a smoker and Im not having that in my house.

Not necessarily, there is a lot of people with medical cannabis now. People think its only oil but flower is prescribed. Police would not be able to do anything.
I've seen police chat to people in town, that were clearly smoking a joint. I doubt, unless it's large scale, police will care.

Thanks for that. Nice to have a bit of name calling on a Saturday morning.

i don’t even care what you think. It’s second hand smoke. It can cause harm. Especially if you have an underlying health condition.

what anyone does about that I don’t care. Just trying to help and educate the people who didn’t know what a f/ing smell was 🙄

edited to add that this was in response to @Hoardasurass

We had this once, when renting one of a pair of adjoining cottages. The smell of next door’s smoke would be quite strong in a bedroom. In that case, after getting someone in to take a look, it was coming in through the floorboards because of the way the houses were constructed. Apparently it can also enter via shared pipework channels, ducts, vents, flues etc. You should first identify the route.

And then, just as you would with fitting better windows to keep out noise or exhaust fumes, get it fixed.

I think you have an issue with your wall for a start, so it may be worth considering looking into that and getting it sorted first.
and no you can’t tell someone to stop smoking in their own house.

It’s not an illegal activity. So no. No different to cooking smells. Your problem to rectify.

In my old house the neighbours cooker hood was vented in to the shared chimney space. And they cooked a lot of very strong smelling food so we always got the smell. Apparently against building regs but I’m hardly going to ask them to redesign their kitchen.

How is the smell getting into your house?

It's a good job your not my neighbour. You would have received very short shift. There would be no neighbourly relations as a f*ck off often offends.

Connected vents in your bathrooms? This can be a great way to catch sickness off them, not to mention being pretty gross if they flush without shutting the lid as this aerosolises poo and you can end up inhaling it. Aerosolised vomit if they have norovirus will be infectious if you inhale it. Similarly covid stays in the gut and if they flush with the lid open you will be inhaling aerosolised viral particles. I'd be sorting out your vents asap to fix this.

There was a case in Spain during lockdowns that showed very clearly that covid spread throughout an apartment building via bathroom vents.

The police will not be interested in someone smoking a couple of joints in their own home.

Of course you can’t. Don’t be so ridiculous.

Poor you I would hate that.

In all honesty, I don’t think it’s reasonable to ask them to smoke outside.

Can you insulate the wall. I know it’s not always practical and you can lose space doing it, but it would be well worth it imo.

Or think about moving.

I feel for you op but you’re onto a loser I’m afraid. Many of my neighbours (terraced, tiny gardens) smoke cigarettes and weed. They don’t want their own houses to smell so they all smoke outside, not caring that it then stinks out everyone’s gardens and homes. As we have to use a PIV we have to have out trickle vents permanently open, and the stench seeps in. Can’t have the windows open, can’t dry washing outside. Have to use the tumble dryer even in 35° heat. On a hot summer’s day or night when there’s no breeze, it just lingers in the air. We run large air purifiers on both floors. My daughter has asthma, and I feel for her. But, you can’t tell people what to do in their own homes.

@5128gap I've met plenty of smokers who are astonishingly selfish and think they have a right to smoke anywhere. I once had to stand and wait for a bus in the rain because an old woman in the bus shelter who was smoking hurled abuse at me when I politely asked her to stop (it counted as an indoor space and had a no smoking sign on it).

A lot of people thoughtless enough to smoke where it affects others will be aggressive or possibly violent when challenged.

The smokers I know bend over backwards not to cause other people any inconvenience. They're embarrassed by their habit and would be mortified to think they were causing the neighbours house to smell.
I didn't suggest for a moment they'd agree to quit if someone knocked the door, so there's no need to exaggerate and be silly about it, is there?
Just making the point that some smokers are very considerate so if OP is lucky, they may look to minimise the nuisance to her in some way.
If you think this so ridiculous, its probably because you've made the mistake of stereotyping all smokers as selfish.

Don't be pathethic.

We can do what we want in our own home.

Smoking? Yes. Weed yes.

Never had anyone complain in 40 years.

Mumsnet is pathethic.