AIBU to expect grown-up children at home to contribute?

Regret not asking mine to contribute. She cooks but doesn't pay anything or do housework. I didn't think she'd be here for long after she graduated, but it's now 2 years and counting. She does save though; and would have money for a deposit so that's a good thing.

Of course they should pay once they are working full time. If they're studying, I wouldn't expect money. even if you keep the money aside for them as a property deposit. This generation of young people are so spoilt, so many have never worked and expect everything handed to them.

Both dc paid rent after uni did their own cooking, room, bathroom and washing. Both saved their money and both bought their own houses (with partners) at 24.

My dd is a young adult. She is a uni student right now but she earns well through her PT job.

We are not struggling financially and I will never ask her to contribute financially, because a)we don't need it and b)I would prefer that she saves it for her future. It would, of course, be different if we needed the money.

As for practical contributions, I don't need to ask her to contribute because she does so automatically - we didn't raise her to expect others to wait on her.

Mine both paid. And did their own washing and cleaned their own rooms.
My daughter did try and rebel and said " I don't see why I should have to pay to live here!".....she used the most water, electricity etc and left a trail of mess behind her....
Now she's got her own place,she finally realises....

They paid but I kept it in savings to help with a deposit when they moved out.

The sooner my DS has saved a deposit, the sooner he can move out, so no, we're not charging him anything. He has just completed his first year in his grad job.
He often cooks the evening meal for us, goes shopping, sometimes does the dishwasher, cuts the grass and does other bits of gardening, and will do other stuff when asked.
Yes, we all drive each other mad. The quicker he can buy his own place, the better it will be for everyone.

I don't think UABU at all. However, having said that, when I let my children know that when they left school and got a job I would expect them to contribute something to the family finances and to do some of the work around the house they both left home at 18. They preferred to live in shared houses, paying everything for themselves, doing all the work for themselves, rather than to stay at home sharing the workload and having more money left over for themselves.

We didnt, and dont, have a difficult relationship and it was only fair, as I was working a full and a part time job just to keep things going, but it was apparently more fun for them to be broke elsewhere. I provided them both with a box of groceries and the basic necessities when they left, but I think the penny dropped pretty quickly after that.

What do you do with your grown up children at home?