AIBU to feel rage over tupperware?

Get rid of the dishwasher?......... or the husband?

They don’t need to stay out all night though. They can also be dried really easily with a cloth.

I agree with PP, plastic things come out of the dishwasher wet, so need to be left on the drainer.

Surely leaving clean things in the DW is more inconvienient for the next round of clearing up, than a few bits on the drainer is?

Why is your stuff so wet out of the dishwasher?

https://theconversation.com/why-do-plastic-containers-always-come-out-wet-from-the-dishwasher-science-has-the-answer-250656

Is your dishwasher different from everyone else's, @outerspacepotato?

Why is your stuff so wet out of the dishwasher?

I have no idea about the science of it, but, just like everyone else on this thread, the tupperware / takeaway pots don't come out dry, so the most efficient thing for me (labour wise) is to leave them on the drainer until they have dried, and put them away then.

Sorry OP, I’m with DH - I have created a separate area (a large firm-sided shopping bag) where I chuck all these sorts of things. No need for any further work, all the stuff just lives in there!

He empties the dishwasher, but doesn't finish the job, in fact stacks the stuff elsewhere and leaves it for his partner to finish. He can't be bothered to take a minute and finish up when he knows it bugs her and yeah, I call that weaponized incompetence. He's hoping she'll do it and stop bugging him. That would make me basket that stuff up and leave it where it would most inconvenience him until he did the whole job.

Why is your stuff so wet out of the dishwasher?

Team DH, but I go a step further as I rinse before I put in drainer. They aren't dry enough to put away, and if not rinsed they eventually go cloudy and chalky from the rinse aid. No lemon scented dishwasher products either.

Came here to say this. Pile them in an area that is his or on top of his stuff.

Cheap plastic storage basket with holes, lined with a clean tea towel.

Husband empties dishwasher and tosses all plastic fiddly bits in the basket to dry.

When dishwasher empty, now full plastic storage basket goes back in dishwasher and door closed.

You're happy as kitchen doesn't look messy.

He's happy as kids are safe from death by dishwasher.

Or LTB😏

Team DH here. If the tupperware is dry when it comes out, I put it away, if not I leave it out to air dry.

I wonder if you do anything that really cheeses him off at all ?
If this is all you have to worry about consider yourself fortunate.

On the one hand I would try not to do something that repeatedly pissed off my spouse. Even if I couldn’t see the point and I fully understand the annoying ‘visual noise’ that this kind of thing creates.

On the other hand I leave all the plastic bits near the sink to dry, I wash them all by hand because we’ve had incidents of staining or becoming misshaped in the DW. My teens empty the DW daily and I actively encourage them to leave all the glass Tupperware bases near the draining board so I can match them with their lids.

Funnily enough my first thought was put it on his side of the bed too!
In response to this, I would simply not remove it for him. I would wait for him to finish the job he started and remind him as many times as necessary. No washing up if the drying rack is full. No cooking if not enough clean utilities due to lack of washing up. I’d try to aim it to creating problems for him and things he wants if possible. I’m seriously so petty I’d rather buy another cup than put this one away for him if I need it for the children (and secretly wash it up and hide it for when I need it next). Eventually he will see a problem and finish his task. As for the ‘Aren’t you lucky if this is the biggest problem’ routine, he’d be torn a new one for that. And I’d be reusing the phrase as often as i could as I stop doing all those things he likes done that don’t bother me. Oh and I’d send him this too. https://www.huffpost.com/entry/she-divorced-me-i-left-dishes-by-the-sink_b_9055288

I thought Anne Summers parties took over from naff Tupperware parties many years ago. 😉

I find weaponized incompetence extremely unattractive.

It's not "weaponised incompetence" though. If you've read through the replies, the majority have pointed out they do the same as it is logical and more efficient.

I always put plastic bits like this to drain as I empty the dishwasher… they are too fiddly to dry up by hand… then about an hour later when it’s drip dried I put it away.

I'm with the pile it on his side of the bed team.

I find weaponized incompetence extremely unattractive.

So now everything he moans about forever you can say 'arent you lucky that's all you have to moan about '

Slightly off topic, but I NEVER put anything made of plastic in the dishwasher. I'm very sensitive to smell and taste and I find that any plastic item that has been put through the dishwasher comes out stinking, and then anything that has been stored in it is disgusting.

When my DH washes up by hand he just stacks everything on top of each other in the drying rack - there is no method at all and it is really difficult for things to dry properly and even more difficult to get things out of the pile without things falling everywhere. I HATE it. I will not, now, ever empty the drying rack of he has stacked it. Therefore I will not, now, ever do the hand washing up unless he has taken off everything that he has stacked on the drying rack first. I can get 3 times the stuff on it that he does, simply by washing up in a logical order and by putting things on there neatly. For instance - I don't wash a big saucepan first and then try to play plastic container Jenga on top of it. I am autistic, and probably have an element of OCD, so this is something that REALLY bothers me!

Don't get me started on the piles of stuff that get left on the kitchen worksurface instead of being put away. I frequently have to ask him if things are clean or dirty because they have just been left in random places!

How is putting it on tea towel different from putting it on the drying rack??
and why do you need to immediately clear it away preventing you from doing anything else?
do you have OCD? You are sounding very rigid

Sorry, OP. I can't relate. I have stacks of plastic on the island, which I let sit for an hour or so, because if I try to put it all up straight from the dishwasher, water trapped in the lids etc goes all over the floor, down the sides of the cabinetry and into the cupboard. Nightmare. I don't want to stand there and dry the gaps of the plastic lids, either. I'd rather drink coffee and let it air dry and come back when nature has done the work for me.

I use the drying rack for plastic too. They can be hard to get properly dry with a towel- water gets caught in the corners and then when you go to use them water drips.

The vote is a bit odd, as most of the comments are agreeing that your dh is the normal one and YABU to get the rage over your dh doing the same thing that we all do.

@westmommy

There I book I picked up from on here called this is how your marriage ends by Mat Fray.

It maybe worth buying him a copy. It’s a good read for a fella