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To question if I should continue to out with my DH

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Pinkbasketcase · 04/06/2026 22:02

Im curious to see what anyone else would do.

So Everytime we go on a night out or especially to a wedding, I'm left on my own. Family weddings are the worst because I'm left to be with his family whilst he heads off or again sitting on my own. It seems the more drink he gets the less he wants me around. I love to dance.. and when I go on the hunt for him.. he is on the dance floor or at the bar enjoying the fun with others..
Is this weird?

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SwatTheTwit · 04/06/2026 22:39

Pinkbasketcase · 04/06/2026 22:18

New behavior.. he wasn't always like this.

I love fun and the chats. I love to dance. Im not sure how I could be boring.. I wouldn't be big into drinking but then again I don't need to drink have fun..

Drugs? Does he disappear to the toilets a lot?

00K · 04/06/2026 22:36

I’d find it annoying if I knew dh was sat waiting for me all the time, he can chat and dance too. God we spend enough time together already

CypressGrove · 04/06/2026 22:36

Find an attractive man to dance with instead of him.

changingofthenameagain · 04/06/2026 22:35

I’m not sure it’s a problem. He’s having a good time at an event you’ve gone to together, in order to have a good time?

If you love to dance, get up and dance with him! If you love to chat, then chat!

You don’t need to be joined at the hip, but if you go out to have fun then do just that - have fun! Don’t sit on the sidelines and complain when he gets bored of it.

if you’re not sociable or interested in going out then you don’t have to go. But I don’t think this is a DH problem I’m afraid. I also don’t think he’s going off for drugs either.

00K · 04/06/2026 22:35

This is probably me too, why don’t you just go and talk to people and have a nice time? Why do you need him to chaperone you?

almostfalling · 04/06/2026 22:31

Next time an event comes up for his family say I’m going to give this one a miss. When he asks why explain.

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Pinkbasketcase · 04/06/2026 22:31

LetsSkipToNextChapter · 04/06/2026 22:27

Does he get very sociable the more he drinks? Sounds like he wants to be off the leash from everyday life.

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This would make sense..

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LetsSkipToNextChapter · 04/06/2026 22:27

Pinkbasketcase · 04/06/2026 22:18

New behavior.. he wasn't always like this.

I love fun and the chats. I love to dance. Im not sure how I could be boring.. I wouldn't be big into drinking but then again I don't need to drink have fun..

Does he get very sociable the more he drinks? Sounds like he wants to be off the leash from everyday life.

Lastofthesummerwines · 04/06/2026 22:22

He's not going off to find ❄ is he? My previous partner had a drug problem and he would be in the loo or off with his mates every chance he got..

I hope that's not the case for you.

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Pinkbasketcase · 04/06/2026 22:18

New behavior.. he wasn't always like this.

I love fun and the chats. I love to dance. Im not sure how I could be boring.. I wouldn't be big into drinking but then again I don't need to drink have fun..

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LetsSkipToNextChapter · 04/06/2026 22:14

Pinkbasketcase · 04/06/2026 22:12

Mine isn't a social butterfly which is why I find it odd..
It does seem really pointless going.

Not drip feed. I just find it odd

Do you drink OP and on the same scale as your DH? Perhaps he feels you’re a little boring when out and he likes to party, party, party?

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Pinkbasketcase · 04/06/2026 22:12

Mine isn't a social butterfly which is why I find it odd..
It does seem really pointless going.

Not drip feed. I just find it odd

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LetsSkipToNextChapter · 04/06/2026 22:11

Yes this is odd behaviour. You’re supposed to be out together. Has he always been this way?

Malinia · 04/06/2026 22:10

My DH does this, he even did it at our wedding reception! He didn't do it before we were married, interestingly. I hate it, seems pointless going out with him if he's just going to bugger off and leave me the whole night.

SnappyUmberLion · 04/06/2026 22:09

Surely anyone else would ask him what he’s playing at, and to cut it out? Is there a drip feed coming about how awful he is generally?

troothfairy · 04/06/2026 22:07

My husband is a social butterfly, much more than I am. At a recent family wedding I barely saw him! But we see each other for hours every day, so when we’re out it’s fine to spend time with other people, no?

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Pinkbasketcase · 04/06/2026 22:07

Im told he is going to get a drink. Or we are talking to someone and he disappears.

I head to the dancefloor and I could find him there.. he will avoid me on the dancefloor which is I find odd..

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notthatoldchestnut · 04/06/2026 22:03

Why aren’t you going with him?

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