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To be cringed out by this (re sharing a takeaway)

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Cloudyonasunnyday · 04/06/2026 20:27

When me and partner get a takeaway and share it he is obsessive over making sure we get half each, he will literally count pieces of chicken in a curry for example - how would this make you feel ?

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fashionqueen0123 · 04/06/2026 21:34

Next take away. Open the bag and just take what you fancy. Make sure to take slightly more of something. And less of something else.

See what he does. I want to know if he’d take something off your plate.

And then as posted before, start counting the rice grains if he does.

And say your bank card isn’t working.

AMillionPeopleCheering · 04/06/2026 21:30

Shared some pasta parcels last night with my Dh - the nice big ones- and i counted those out. Maybe I will be served divorce papers tomorrow

lottiegarbanzo · 04/06/2026 21:30

Well at least he’s not eating more than half.

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Cloudyonasunnyday · 04/06/2026 21:28

whitefluffydog · 04/06/2026 21:06

I have always eaten 1 fifth of what any man I have been with, usually eats. So these things would never even happen

ha ok miss skinny

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VIII · 04/06/2026 21:28

Cloudyonasunnyday · 04/06/2026 21:20

Yes bills are split VERY equally

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He sounds like he wants you to be housemates not partners.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 04/06/2026 21:27

ThatCyanCat · 04/06/2026 21:22

I always eat before I attend the takeaway so that I'll be so full I can't eat anything and all the men will think I have such a dainty and delicate birdlike appetite. I need to make sure I'm laced into my stays first though; if I ate before that, the servants couldn't lace me tight enough to fit the dress.

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You, too? The things we do...😁

fashionqueen0123 · 04/06/2026 21:27

What an absolute weirdo. How many dates in did he start this?

BurnoutBee · 04/06/2026 21:26

I always count the chicken in a curry one for him, one for me. He can get to fuck if he thinks he’s eating more chicken than me 🤣🤣. Plus, our Indian is stingy, every piece counts lol.

ThatCyanCat · 04/06/2026 21:25

bronnibro · 04/06/2026 21:24

I think the answer is, what would happen if there 9 bits of chicken in the curry, or another odd number, would he let it slide or cut it in half 😂

Probably get the ruler out...

Protractor when slicing cake?

bronnibro · 04/06/2026 21:24

I think the answer is, what would happen if there 9 bits of chicken in the curry, or another odd number, would he let it slide or cut it in half 😂

ThatCyanCat · 04/06/2026 21:22

OliveHenry · 04/06/2026 21:15

That much?

I just sniff the food and let the man eat it all.

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I always eat before I attend the takeaway so that I'll be so full I can't eat anything and all the men will think I have such a dainty and delicate birdlike appetite. I need to make sure I'm laced into my stays first though; if I ate before that, the servants couldn't lace me tight enough to fit the dress.

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Cloudyonasunnyday · 04/06/2026 21:20

7238SM · 04/06/2026 20:36

Unless he has some sort of mental illness such as OCD, this would be a massive turn off for his pettiness. 'Maybe' he was told off before or someone said something and he thinks this is how to ensure an equal share? Personally, it would drive me nuts and is not normal, adult behaviour.

Does he also calculate shared bills to the penny also? 🤔

Yes bills are split VERY equally

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Morecustardcreams · 04/06/2026 21:19

He sounds like a tight wad. How does paying the normally work? Do you take turns or is it always let's split the bill or do you pay more often than him?

whitefluffydog · 04/06/2026 21:19

Northernlights19 · 04/06/2026 21:16

😂😂😂

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LOL, I feast on bread and tomatoes for lunch, so when the time for dinner comes, I am feeling very full and all I can eat is not much anyway.....may be should put it this way

Northernlights19 · 04/06/2026 21:19

I agree it is strange to actually count the pieces. I do however feel compelled to tell you I once posted about my partner at the time eating a curry I'd prepared for the family which contained 5 chicken breasts and was told I wasn't providing him with enough food which was clearly why he HAD to eat the whole thing 😂😂

Mumtobabyhavoc · 04/06/2026 21:17

OliveHenry · 04/06/2026 21:15

That much?

I just sniff the food and let the man eat it all.

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I do that and spoon feed him. 😁

worcesterpear · 04/06/2026 21:17

I don't think it would bother me that much, unless he took ages doing it. The fairest way would be for him just to do it by eye, then let you choose which portion you wanted, or vice versa.

girljulian · 04/06/2026 21:16

rwalker · 04/06/2026 20:55

I kind of do for ease
if it was a curry with diced chicken 1 big spoonful each (no counting) then even out what’s left by putting say 4 pieces on each plate

same with Sunday roast everyone gets 4 spuds

just find it easier than guessing

but from memory there been plenty of threads about how partner always ends up with bigger portions and he’s called a twat

guess we all do things differently

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I’m with you on this, I can’t eyeball it very accurately and I don’t want someone to end up with six bits of chicken and one person two and a load of sauce or whatever.

bloooooberry · 04/06/2026 21:16

whitefluffydog · 04/06/2026 21:06

I have always eaten 1 fifth of what any man I have been with, usually eats. So these things would never even happen

1 fifth! Bloody hell. Men’s v women’s caloric needs are not that different!

Northernlights19 · 04/06/2026 21:16

whitefluffydog · 04/06/2026 21:06

I have always eaten 1 fifth of what any man I have been with, usually eats. So these things would never even happen

😂😂😂

Littlemisssunshine1982 · 04/06/2026 21:15

So if he spooned out 4 pieces of chicken leaving you with 2, you would be ok with that or would you say something?

bloooooberry · 04/06/2026 21:15

Cloudyonasunnyday · 04/06/2026 20:27

When me and partner get a takeaway and share it he is obsessive over making sure we get half each, he will literally count pieces of chicken in a curry for example - how would this make you feel ?

Hate this attitude towards food it’s so stingy and weird to me.

OliveHenry · 04/06/2026 21:15

whitefluffydog · 04/06/2026 21:06

I have always eaten 1 fifth of what any man I have been with, usually eats. So these things would never even happen

That much?

I just sniff the food and let the man eat it all.

TwinklyRoseTurtle · 04/06/2026 21:14

ShedWithGooglyEyes · 04/06/2026 20:28

Next time start counting out the grains of rice.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

ThatCyanCat · 04/06/2026 21:14

whitefluffydog · 04/06/2026 21:06

I have always eaten 1 fifth of what any man I have been with, usually eats. So these things would never even happen

Congratulations on missing the point. To be fair, there are a few of you. There always are.

It is not actually about calorific requirements, appetite or cubes of chicken.

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