To be cringed out by this (re sharing a takeaway)

I haven’t heard someone say, “what a gimp,” for so long that reading this made me laugh. Completely agree though.

If any of my friends or a partner did something like OP’s partner, I wouldn’t be able to not take the piss out of them over it and it would be brought up from time to time.
In fact I’d probably make a point of doing something like pretending I was counting out the chips/grains of rice.

I'd probably find it a bit odd by not cringey. When I am dividing up meat/fish dishes (that I have made), I make sure the meat eaters have equal portions and will count pieces of meat (and cut them into a dividable number first).

I'd have to dump him.
Very petty.

I did not see this was almost 10 pages in, im sure my questions have already been asked whoops

Is he worried about taking too much, or worried about not having enough?

I would always give the person I'm cooking / eating with the bigger portion if it was an obvious bigger portion, or say, I'd always give someone the nicer piece of salmon (unless it was something I had picked and was mostly for me, yano?)

I'd never go as far as counting chicken and it's funny because the sauce is the nicest bit so I'd rather forgo any meat and have extra sauce, i guess it's probably best just to ask 'why you counting?' it can be jokey if needs be, good luck!

Massive ick. Sounds like my brother when we were children, measuring out our shared can of coke we were allowed twice a week!

I do it because it seems logical to me

It's the kind of thing I'd do, but I think I have undiagnosed autism and adhd.

This wouldn't bother me either but maybe it's because last time I got a curry I'm sure there was only about 6 or 7 lumps of actual chicken in it. So maybe he's divvying it up so that you both get a decent portion of the meat instead of one person spooning "half" onto their plate with all the good stuff and the other person getting nothing but sauce and onions. My DH's a bit like this and I'd rather that than the sort that always serves themselves the good stuff first for virtue of being a bloke who needs more calories (even though you split the bill)

If he's actually tight in other ways like doing rounds at a pub and him getting weird if you're ordering drinks a bit more expensive then his or insisting on itemised splitting of dinner bills, especially if you've decided to be in a committed relationship and no longer just dating.

This isn’t he “eyeballed it”, this is greed on his behalf and a complete disrespect for you. Any decent DH/partner wouldn’t do this and you shouldn’t need to point it out to him. It’s got nothing to do with attention to detail, it’s rude of any DH/DW/partner to take the lions share of a meal and he knows exactly what he’s doing if he does this continually. Personally I wouldn’t be taking food he’d already put on his plate, I’d be making a point of ordering a fresh new dish to be delivered. What a pathetic excuse for a husband leaving you with just the sauce and you have to ask him for some of the food he’s already served himself.

DH is generous to a fault and always at massively over orders anyway, so the likelihood of counting bits of chicken out is non existent
I love a man who eats like a horse but is extravagant and generous in body and spirit
Any whiff of tightness or grabbiness is the most unattractive quality going in a man to me. Luckily DH is neither !!
Honestly, counting bits of chicken lol- does he do the last dribble in a wine bottle thing-eeking a smidge from glass to glass , head down low eyeing the levels ??
When I see this in restaurants or with friends I’m screaming inside -order/ open another bottle you tight buggers!!

I do this 😕. I'm trying to be fair. I didn't realise it was so frowned upon.

I don't know that it is, it's just that I say something and he's less food motivated than me. He probably wouldn't say anything.

Thats right, he'll be accused of having a penis portion.

I would count it out too, to make sure its fair.

What do you actually think happens in Indian takeaways? The pieces of chicken are counted

You had to make sure he paid for things for his own child? Oh dear. I know you meant this as a light hearted post but I think there are more issues here than the number of chicken pieces in a takeaway.

it really wouldn’t bother me. I mean why are you sharing a take out meal? Cost? Or got loads of other bits / starters and not that hungry? I suppose the problem would be if it’s a cash constraints would he fancy sharing your favourite dish haha or would he want his 🤪

I could count the pieces only because I wouldn’t want half of it as my husband is significantly bigger and taller so I’d want less than half and for him to take the majority well 60:40 etc) and he would generally try to give me half or more and he needs more calories than me as he’s bigger.

So it depends on his reasoning! ND / Asd? or maybe he wants to make sure you have the same as him to look after your baby

Absolutely 🤣. It just wouldn't happen here. Sometimes when we eat out, the dishes they've served and I just look at his face and he looks like he is devastated.

I’d definitely do this to make sure he got the same as me rather than making sure I got more. I’d want it to be equal.

I'm only speaking from my experience as an only child. I don't share food because it would stress me out if I thought i was taking more than my share so I get what I want from the takeaway and DH gets what he wants. No counting chicken or rice grains required and we always have leftovers 😁

Ugh… just no. My local Chinese does massive portions. If my husband and I order a few dishes, there’s absolutely no way I could eat exactly half of everything, I physically just can’t. I take whatever I fancy, and the rest is for him. 🤷‍♀️

I think a lot of it comes down to communication as well. But if someone genuinely feels hard done by because they got one less prawn toast than their partner, then there are probably bigger issues at play… 😬

I actually know a couple who divorced and got so petty by the end that they literally split everything right down the middle, but that was very much driven by him. Even cutlery! They even divided the Wii controllers, they took one each!!!!! 🫣😂😂

I could imagine my DH actually crying if he was expected to share half a Chinese dish.

I would too, counting bits of meat would give me the ick if anyone did it.

I’m another one who eats less than my DH, it’s not a flex or an under eating boast before anyone starts, I just have a smaller appetite. We open the containers, I take what I’ll eat, he takes what he wants and there’s always plenty left if we want more, we never order just one dish though.

It depends whether he's doing it in a scrupulously unselfish "I mustn't accidentally take more than my fair share" way or a selfish "I must secure my rights to each last bit of paneer I can reasonably claim" way. In an ideal world enough takeaway is ordered that neither of you could eat another bite and there's plenty left over, but if you order on a budget and that's not going to happen you presumably both want ti be reasonably equally fed?

Yeah I also cook more for him when I'm cooking, but only because he eats more. When he cooks we have leftovers because he cooks as much for me as he does for himself.