To be cringed out by this (re sharing a takeaway)

It would give me the ick unfortunately.

I think though that I'd have asked quite early on why he is doing this and what it's all about. Being generous perhaps he thinks that is truly the fairest way to do it and doesn't want to take more than his share.

I'd just dish it up myself when it arrived. I agree with you OP that it is the normal thing to do to simply eye half of shared dishes and get on with it, not count pieces for each. Any functioning adult is capable of simply estimating half a portion.

Same! My husband has to do the dishing out as I have to be exactly fair and even.

I would expect to eat my own curry and wouldn't want to share so I'd be annoyed if it was just assumed that I'd share. 😂

It sounds like he's trying to make it fair which is better than so many men on here who are greedy and happily leave their partners with very little.

At least he didn’t insist on penis portions 😂

One divides, the other picks - that’s the law.

It wouldn't bother me as long as he wasn't taking a long time about it and delaying you getting started eating. As he is being fair and not advantaging or disadvantaging either of you, I'd guess he's just not good at making a visual estimate of "half" or isn't confident he can and so does it this way. (He could also just ask you to make the split, though.) But unless it's part of a larger pattern of scorekeeping or tit for tat or being inflexibly precise, I'd probably just snicker and let him count away.

I have always eaten 1 fifth of what any man I have been with, usually eats. So these things would never even happen

The thing is that this behaviour will extend into every area of life, for him. My ex was a bit like this: terrified that I was getting something that he wasn't. Note the 'ex'. This guy is tight, OP. Get rid.

I'd feel right at home 🤪.

Did he also grow up in a family with food issues?

DH is determined to make sure I get half of all “fun” food like takeaways etc. which is slightly ridiculous when due to me being very short and him being very sporty, his calorie intake is about double mine.I regularly have to tell him it’s fine for him to eat more than exactly half of something we are sharing /see him clearly still hungry having demolished his share and waiting to take more until after I’ve finished.

it could be him being tight, but also OP it could be he’s trying really hard to be fair. To not take more than his fair share. Someone taught him to count how much of something there is, how many it’s shared between and only take his share.

I agree i would always give my DH a bigger portion than me, men generally need more calories than women. I cant eat anywhere near as much.

If he’s “very tight” then he won’t make a good partner. These men never do. They’re too busy resenting everything that everyone else has or gets, including their own wives and children.

If there's an odd number of pieces, or some are much bigger, who gets the extra? It feels a bit mean if he's doing this because he's worried you will cheat him. If he's doing it to ensure you're not left with less, then it's sweet. Though usually with takeaways I find there's plenty for everyone to just take what they want.

He seems to be a fair guy. It’s better than being a food hogger, lol.

Being tight is the biggest turn off for me! Eeewww.

What a gimp. Just order one each ffs so he can stop pissing about counting bits of chicken

You thinks it ok for your partner to pick through a dish to count individual, little pieces of chicken??? 😬

I kind of do for ease
if it was a curry with diced chicken 1 big spoonful each (no counting) then even out what’s left by putting say 4 pieces on each plate

same with Sunday roast everyone gets 4 spuds

just find it easier than guessing

but from memory there been plenty of threads about how partner always ends up with bigger portions and he’s called a twat

guess we all do things differently

Hugely icky.

Eh?? Why would they not?

It makes me feel that I’m glad that I do not share food. And that I could never shag a man who “counted pieces of chicken”.

Why would a man and woman have the same amount of food?

Takeaway should always be enough that you have leftovers, order more side dishes.

As PP said it wouldn't bother me if the dish obviously had few of the main ingredient, like prawns. I'd be more bothered if it was randomly split and I got the worse portion.

I did have a bf once who was very careful about splitting but made his portion bigger because men need more food than women. He's not wrong but we were skinny and skint students and I was paying half so nope.

I think most people do just eyeball it and give half roughly, you can normally see if it's fairly shared and someone counting prices of this or other is tiresome! Definitely a Ick