Whyaretheytalkingaboutchristmasforgodsake ·
04/06/2026 18:33
Dh works Mon-Fri-8 hours
I work part time but do the majority of everything else.
I rarely spend on myself, not being a martyr about it, but any money we have after mortgage, bills, food etc tends to go on Dd, I’ve recently got us all new spring/summer clothes, Dd lots more than us. I don’t have hobbies and rarely drink, don’t do beauty treatments etc, my only spend on myself really is clothes and coffee out sometimes
I earn a bit less than Dh
Last month I worked a lot and was tired, Dh did too and got a bonus of £600.
We are in the middle of doing some things on the car which cost a fair bit.
We were both moaning a bit about it, how we could have had a little break etc, but it’s life. He was complaining that he was spending his bonus on the car when it should be spent on something on him as he worked so hard
I said the car was being paid for out of both of out wages and feel a bit pissed off that he would happily spend it all on himself, but my earned wages just go on everything else.
He spends money on his hobby, drinks and lunches out with friends (more than I do) He recently bought himself a smart watch, trainers etc. I just wouldn’t go out and buy myself a watch, should I just be doing the same? Is this a bit off or is it justified that it was his bonus so to spend as he wishes?