AIBU to think a birthday scratch card win was harmless fun?

I think my dad got me them for birthdays since I was about 9/10. It’s very normal in my family so I wouldn’t think twice, but I do see the other side when I think about it. None of us are gambling addicts as adults but I do still indulge in scratch card Sunday with my dad.

It isn't something I'd get worked up about but I wouldn't do it myself just because 99% of the time, you don't win anything so doesn't really feel like a gift.

I've also seen the trouble someone winning a gift one at Christmas etc can cause on here.

Are we the only family (and I actually know we’re not so kind of rhetorical question) that has them on the Christmas dinner table? My mum buys us all one. I used to have a boss that did the same too at the staff Xmas meal.

Just a bit of silly fun.

It’s actually a criminal offence under the Gambling Act in the UK to buy a lottery ticket for a child.

Nobody is likely to prosecute the offence but that doesn’t take away from the fact that it is illegal.

Awesome! Did you buy her some vapes and alcohol too?

Whatever the feelings are on this thread, your friend sounds like she's playing the one up manship parent card and trying to play the "I'm a superior parent to you" game. I had a friend who did this about everything. Ironically she was the one who used to boast about her son's poker winnings.

Your DD's card won a relatively small prize. You did this as a bit of fun. You don't need anyone's permission and you don't need to feel bad about it.
It's not like you are going through scratch cards with her every week and making a big thing about it.

I hate gambling btw... and thankfully my DC aren't into it. My mum used to give me a lottery ticket as a birthday present ( as an adult in my 30s) and it really used to p me off as she'd make a big deal about how she could be giving me a massive amount of money (in lieu of an actual present) and wanted me to be extra grateful for the "opportunity".... That's not what you were doing.

The people I know who are gamblers are either missing something in their lives and think money is the answer, or are looking for an easy leg up, or compare themselves resentfully to others who are more fortunate, and don't bother to consider how they could put the effort in to get the some of the same rewards.

If you are bringing up your DD to be a well rounded person with lots of other interests i think its very unlikely that your DD will fall into the gambling trap, especially as you are aware of it enough to write this post and are keeping an eye on her. if you have worries about it... start educating her about saving and managing her finances and how to build a secure future for herself- there's so little said about this in schools, particularly for girls and that should counteract any of the "evils of gambling" comments you've had.

I didn’t know you could do that!

Although I don’t think I’ve ever bought a scratchcard in my life!

My sister usually buys the whole family one each (kids included) for Xmas and whilst I wouldn’t buy them myself, I think it’s harmless once a year.

My daughter won £5 last Christmas and the scratchcard is still in my handbag actually lol.

I get everyone a scratchcard for the dinner table at Christmas, including the kids, just for a bit of fun.

I made sure it was going to be unlikely.

On the lottery website they list the remaining "big" prizes left against the scratchcards that are currently available to purchase and I just bought the scratchcards where the big prizes had already gone!

When I let my boys know this, it just blew their minds, the talk about gambling being "fixed" was music to my ears! 😆

It was a one off treat. Your friend needs to get a grip!

Obviously the OP would claim the prize. Honestly, IMO it’s fine and a bit of fun

I know. From scratch cards to vibrators and rape. WTF.

The national lottery had not long started and my mum and I got my twin brother and me a ticket each for the next draw as part of our birthday present that year (the deal was that if one of us one anything, we had to split it with the other) was kinda cute and a bit of fun. I’m going to check what the year would have been...1994. Our 9th birthday! Neither of us grew to develop gambling issues!

edit to say, actually at least the National Lottery was only once a week at that point so actually, it maybe was a bit different to a scratchcard…

13? I have to say I wouldn’t buy a scratch card for someone under 18. But I wouldn’t bother having a go at someone else for doing it. I just couldn’t get that worked up about it.

A few years ago in the shop I work in a lady was letting her very young (5/6 year old?) granddaughter choose a scratch card. Having heard the conversation between them, it was very clear the little girl wasn’t just choosing one for granny but the idea was it for her specifically (granny would have her own). We refused the sale as it was literally an attempt at a proxy sale right in front of us and the law is very clear about that. There was a lot of shouting from granny and a couple of other people but there’s a reason the law doesn’t allow children to gamble.

Ah I think its lovely! We traditionally have a scratch card laid out on the Christmas table for young and old. My daughter won £50 when she was 6! I really don't see the issue. And no, no one in the family has a gambling problem!

I'm torn on this tbh. My gut feeling was that 13 is too young / too far off the legal age, but then it's not unusual to let kids of that age have the odd sip of wine with a meal.
I guess, ultimately, it depends on the kid as to whether the win "goes to their head" (terrible expression, but I can't think of a better one) & you know your kids best.
I definitely don't think the other mum's attitude is automatically the right one - isn't it true that often things which are forbidden can seem more appealing to kids.

Not a gift for kids and I am only surprised you did not also give her a starter vape pack and a bacardi breezer too.

That’s awful. Hope the guy managed to break away from gambling and shame on those people putting temptation in his way

Christ it wasn't crack guys

Good point re raffles and tombola although I don’t know the law on those but our primary school certainly did those

I’ve bought them for my kids in the past occasionally- just for fun when I’ve been at the spar. Once they both won £30 in one go - happy days - generally only a quid or two. They’re both adults now and don’t gamble - they haven’t become addicts or descended into depravity. I think it’s completely fine.

What would you have done if they had happened to have won?

Unlikley I know, but it does happen?

OMG "encouraging her to gamble" get a fucking life.

I was a young teen when the lottery first came out, my dad let me and my sister choose the numbers for the ticket he'd buy every week.

As an adult, I've bought maybe five tickets in my lifetime?

Of course, I've also gambled on the school tombola and those penny arcade games, so maybe I'm just a degenerate gambler and don't even know it.

Seriously. Get. A. Grip.

(Not you OP you sound normal).

My lovely mil, now deceased, used to put them in our Christmas crackers. Dcs were young when they first got them. Non of my dcs gamble.

I do the lotto and postcode lottery.

I buy them on purpose. I have gotten scratchcards (only the £1 ones) for my son's (I have two boys) advent calendars for the last couple of years because I want them to see the futility of gambling.

When they saw that over the 25 days that they hardly won anything, (the most they won once was £10) it does take something away from that exciting feeling you get from gambling.

My youngest son (aged 13) worked out that I had spent £50 on these scratch cards and they had only won a measly £10 so we were actually £40 down, his comment "it's just not worth it Mum, is it?" led to a real conversation on the perils of gambling and how the only winners are the lottery, casinos and betting companies.

I am hoping it will be enough.