AIBU to object after he assumed he and his daughter would move in?

😂😂😂 Excellent!

Is your user name from the song MY LOVER'S GOT NO MONEY, HE'S GOT HIS @Trombolice ? 🤣

@Gillettegirl you can change your vote. Just click on YANBU and it'll change over.

Well he’s certainly dating you for your assets isn’t he!

Like others, the assumption isn’t criminal for a long term relationship BUT it’s the fact he’s decided without discussion and then had the audacity to sulk at you! The strop in particular is red flag. Oh to live in the heads of men who think they can simply bend the world to their every whim!

Never assume, it makes an Ass out of U and me.

True colours flying at the mast.

Just click the other box, it changes your vote. You can see the tick change.

It wont be the same man, unfortunately, there are millions of chancers

What a surprise. Darling daddy looks for a woman who owns a nice home that is just right for him. And then tells her he is planning on moving in. Seriously boot him out of your life.

He wants a nanny with a fanny. I'm surprised he didn't try to move in after 6 months though, this type usually does.

Yeah, assuming that you would live together at some point isn't an issue, but without even discussing it with you , he's moved himself and his daughter in with you and changed her school.

That's not great is it? We'll never get over the confident entitlement bang average men will we?

This would be the end of my relationship with him. I really cannot stand entitled expectations and this reeks.

I voted wrong sorry!! YANBU, no way be entertaining his idea, and to suggest you’re ‘selfish’ for not sharing what is rightfully yours is ridiculous.

probably to fill OP's house with all his abandoned hobby clutter and junk

He’s certainly made some very audacious assumptions.

But I’m a bit confused about why this wasn’t discussed in the early days of your relationship, where he would have said that he was looking to eventually set up home with someone and you would have said that you didn’t want to live with anyone in the future? Surely everyone has that ‘what are you looking for’ conversation when they meet someone new? Or when you agree that it’s an exclusive relationship, the chat about your futures together? Otherwise how do you know if your futures are compatible?

I do wonder where the mum is and what she'd think about her dc moving school so she could move in with the op, I know not the point of this thread just wondering how that fits in with his plans and if hes hoping to ditch or maybe gain cms aswell

That might be the case sometimes. Here the man has jumped straight to squeals of 'unfair' and hurling verbal abuse after being told no. Being called selfish for not kowtowing to the wishes of the holder of the all important flaccid dick is abuse. If he'd genuinely thought this was the natural step he would have defended his position by saying that rather than throwing a tantrum worthy of a spoilt teenager whining s'not fair wah wah you are so selfish wah wah.

OP @Trombolice
Red flag 1 was assuming, not asking if you should progress to living together and if agreed then discussing how that might be achieved.

Red flag 2 not accepting you may have an input into this decision. Furthermore your house, your choice. Not Billy Big Balls.

Red flag 3 whining that you have too much space. Clearly this outrageous situation has been grinding his gears of jealousy. How dare a single female have more than Daddy dearest! Your property, your time, your peace, your resources should be given up so this sperminator can move himself and the child he sees as a house meal ticket into your home.

Red flag 4. Calling you selfish for daring to want your own space when he is so much more deserving of it (his excuse being he has a child that he sees as a meal ticket).

Screw this loser. Kick his entitled arse so hard it goes into orbit. You can do so much better.

Seems he thought he could slippy slide into your house with DD because that's ''fair'' seeing your house is bigger.
Is that inscrutable masculine logic we can't understand?

He has shown you what his objective is.

It is only downhill from here.

Let him go and enjoy the space.

How very presumptuous of him! And well done you for standing your ground OP! Let him have his strop, would you be bothered if this ended the relationship?

COME BACK OP!

I need much more information!

Obviously don’t let him move in. Enjoy your space and spare bedrooms.

I’d have one as a sewing room. Massive table, ironing board, mirror and a big window.

And I’d leave one completely empty for the sheer hell of it.

Ick. Just Ick.

Men, what's yours should be his and what's his is his but you have to look after, clean and cook for it.

Men are pathetic.

That's quite the presumption he made! Tell him you'll talk when and if the relationship progresses to marriage 😆 - that should shut him up for a bit. In all seriousness what is he offering in exchange for lodgings for himself and his daughter?

Oh dear, your partner certainly has it all worked out in his head, I bet he'd mentally planned which of your spare rooms, would become his daughter's!!

I understand perhaps thinking at some point the relationship might develop into living together. I don't think that's an unusual thought.

However, usually a couple discuss living together, where that might be and if marriage might be on the cards. I sounds as if you hadn't discussed anything with him at all, and he's made a huge amount of assumptions.

You've made it clear that for you, living with him or anyone else isn't on the cards. Your partner doesn't have a God given right to move into your home, just because you're dating, and it's very entitled for him to think that way.

I would be thinking about the future of the relationship to be honest. I'd be wondering if he's been dating me, purely to eventually move into my much bigger home. Not a pleasant thought, that someone could have possibly used you in this way.