AIBU to object after he assumed he and his daughter would move in?

If he was just having a conversation with you to see if you'd be interested in buying a house together or him moving in at some point, then I'd have some sympathy for him. But the way he has just assumed you'll be having him and his daughter living with you and no prior conversation about how it could work or how you feel about it, would fuck me right off even if I would've been open to the idea. And as for telling his daughter it's happening before even starting that conversation with you and calling you selfish !? Wow

I'd be kicking him to the kerb. The absolute audacity

It's a known internet joke, you can get hoodies and all with TROMBOLICE on them 😎

I'd say that it was nice that he wanted you to live together.

But then ....
is rationale is that I have “so much more space” and much more space than I need and it’s selfish to not want to share it
He’s now gone off on a major strop saying I have too many unused bedrooms and it’s “unfair”
I think he has got his daughter believing they will be moving in to my house too. They live in a two bedroom house.

WHo the fuck does he think he is, judging you for being selfish or unselfish?

Who the fuck does he think he is, tantrumming because you said 'hold on'?

And who the fuck does he think he is that he considers it 'unfair' that you have a bigger house and he has a smaller?

Do not get closer to this man. You've been shown the red flags. He thinks he's entitled to your house and to anything you have.

Look at his character, not his personality, because his character is what makes or breaks the relationship in the long term, and this one has a grudge and a sense of entitlement, and I bet he makes you pay for having anything that you have that he wants, if you go further with him.

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You do realise the lyrics are:
My lovers got no money, he's got his strong beliefs not trombolice 😂😂😂

I'm a woman and I rent - I always have done - and I'm a bit fucked off by the assumption on this thread that all renters are automatically red flags and after your house

Dating a single dad for a year and completely oblivious to the fact that he'd be thinking about the relationship progressing to living together and that it would have to include his child in some capacity? 🙄

Dad not broaching the conversation earlier in the relationship and sliding it in as an assumption? 🙄

I think this relationship has run its course.

Dear god ... not another one 😖 You and your selfish ways with all of those free rooms that could be utilised for him and his DD. If you want to see how that one can go, look at the posts by the absolutely amazing PithyBeaker who was dealing with a pretty similar situation.

There is nothing wrong in assuming that in a relationship you may end up moving in together.

YANBU, OP. Run don’t walk!

This 😅

As an aside , I wonder why so many of us feel the need to live with the person we are seeing ? I wonder might relationships work better if we all had our own space and kept it like that .
OP I do not like the sound of this man. I wonder might the relationship end ? Are you very involved ?

I also live in the middle of nowhere, there are no schools within walking distance.

That just means he assumes you'll do the school run.

Well, he sounds like a certain kind of lodger.....

yes!! but don't they call them 'Man Caves' now ? he has probably been mentally planning where to put his PS5 and the reason he has got stroppy is because he has been rumbled

Bingo you own, he rents. He’s just after free housing & babysitting. Chuck this one back.

He's after your house. If you continue with him and let him move in he will be asking to go on the deeds next "as it's only fair".

He's showing a few red flags including manipulation, I really hope you dump him.

Always interesting seeing the language posters use about men they're involved with. Quite the difference between 'been seeing someone for a year and a half', which keeps it on the more casual end, and 'my partner of three months' that you sometimes see at the other end. FWIW I think you're right to be cautious OP. How dare women want to have any space to themselves? They should be offering it up to any men and children who feel like using it.

Tell him your house wants to break up with him.

He rents. - bingo!
You’re a home owner - bingo!

Bet he wants a game room.

Please break up with him

I voted YANBU but i do have a however.

Just because he is in rented and has a daughter doesnt mean his life is permanently on hold until he catches you up. Maybe he would like to see a future where you do live together which in my eyes there is nothing wrong with as long as you are financially protected and he pays his way accordingly.

To shoot him down and suggest there is no way in hell he and his daughter will ever share a house with you......well dont be surprised if he considers no long term future in it.

From the look of your post you have been together 1.5yrs. If you are still together in 3 or 4 years do you not entertain the thought of living together? If so i think thats a conversation for you to be having.

I think it depends what you are both wanting from the relationship? If you are both young & wanting marriage & more children or if your older and already been there done that ect. Me & DH both rented separately when we ment but I wanted children & marriage so moving in together was inevitable.

it’s not fair on his child if he’s already given hints to moving into your place without discussing it should definitely be a conversation.

love the expression!

Reasonable to assume living together as a possibility, not to assume.