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Is it cheeky to claim your free drink and not buy anything?

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Sophiehoney · 04/06/2026 14:54

In a cafe with friends
Is it cheeky to go into a cafe you regularly go to with one of those stamp cards, where 10th drink or whatever is free, claim your free drink and not buy anything to go with it?
I say no, because you've effectively paid for the drink by paying for all the previous ones and it's no different to using clubcard vouchers or whatever.
Friend 1 thinks it depends on whether or not you usually order just a drink.
Friend 2 thinks it depends on how busy the cafe is
Friend 3 thinks it's mortifying.

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amraa · 04/06/2026 19:55

All of those friends are weird. Absolutely nothing wrong with claiming just ur free drink, if ur someone that doesn’t usually buy anything other than a drink, why should you on the occasion you collect ur free one?

Solmum1964 · 04/06/2026 19:51

I usually get a medium drink in Costa including for my free drink.
Most of the time they ask if I'd like a large drink instead!

EnidVance · 04/06/2026 19:35

Of course it’s not cheeky.

I always get a Frappe at costa too as my freebie as they’re expensive.

Letsgetreadytorhumble · 04/06/2026 18:13

Today I went my local petrol station with my loyalty card. I did not need petrol however with every 6th carwash you get the next free so I claimed that, my 7th sandwich and 7th distilled drink all same. Had the sambo and drink while getting the car washed and did not spend a penny :)

milkandblackspiders · 04/06/2026 17:19

I get a free drink at cafe nero every week with my vitality health insurance. I go in every week, get my free drink, and rarely do I buy anything else. The staff there are always happy to serve me, its a national chain, its not like I'm taking money from them!
Until now I never even considered that there was anything wrong with this.

latetothefisting · 04/06/2026 17:14

mindutopia · 04/06/2026 14:55

Absolutely fine. You’ve already bought something. The 9 drinks before it. This wouldn’t even occur to me to question.

exactly this! I assumed you meant a scenario like when a shop gives you a free drink if you download their app or something and was going to say even just claiming that and not getting anything else is absolutely fine, so taking advantage of an incentive you've earned by buying multiple versions of whatever they are selling is even more so!

Your friends are weird!

KoalaSquid · 04/06/2026 17:13

It’s never occurred to me not to just take my free drink. The staff have never batted an eyelid when I do it either. I’m more likely to buy a cake as well if I’m sitting in and the drink was free, but I wouldn’t feel bad if I didn’t.

TheCurious0range · 04/06/2026 17:11

I have an m&s credit card and pay off that is free hot drink vouchers in the m&s cafe, 8 per quarter, DH, ds and I have all been in together had two coffees and a hot chocolate and not paid just used the vouchers, that's what they are for!

mcmuffin22 · 04/06/2026 17:08

This reminds me of another bonker thread from a few years ago where some posters felt that if you went into a coffee shop with a toddler you absolutely MUST buy them lunch or else you were contributing to the downturn of the country's economy.

Strawberrycheesecake7 · 04/06/2026 16:30

It’s absolutely fine to just get the free drink. They wouldn’t have the stamp cards if they didn’t want people to use them.

Isobel201 · 04/06/2026 16:29

mindutopia · 04/06/2026 14:55

Absolutely fine. You’ve already bought something. The 9 drinks before it. This wouldn’t even occur to me to question.

This, that's the whole point of it, otherwise what's the point in having a stamp card?

Overworkedandknackered · 04/06/2026 16:28

Mortifying? In what way? Why would I care if someone in a cafe resents giving me a free drink I’ve earned by buying full price drinks previously?

theresnolimits · 04/06/2026 16:25

It’s not free! You’ve paid a surcharge on every one of the cups of coffee you bought. It’s a bonus, keeps you coming back and coffee shop owners wouldn’t offer it if it didn’t make sense to them.

I’m one of those who just pops into Waitrose, gets the free coffee and leaves!

DappledThings · 04/06/2026 16:23

Sophiehoney · 04/06/2026 15:04

Would you think differently if you weren't walking out with it but were taking a table?
I wouldn't, but JW if you would as this is what friend is mortified about?

There is absolutely nothing embarrassing about that. Your friend has a very strange thought process about this.

stichguru · 04/06/2026 16:22

No it's fine. Cafes are used to people coming in for one drink and no food, they wouldn't make the free drink things if they were that unhappy.

DappledThings · 04/06/2026 16:22

All three friends are being weird about it in increasingly levels of weirdness

It's completely normal to use the free drink you've worked up through stamps. Not even vaguely embarrassing, unreasonable or anything that requires any second thought.

ConstanzeMozart · 04/06/2026 16:19

Just did this in my local indie cafe. It didn't occur to me to order something else, but then again I almost always do order just a coffee in there, to take away.
I think it's right to say that you've 'paid' for it by being loyal enough to accrue enough points to earn it.

Ohhhthedrama · 04/06/2026 15:43

Not cheeky at all. I always 'upgrade' in the free drink. I usually just get a small drip coffee but on the free one I go for something fancy.

Ophy83 · 04/06/2026 15:41

They literally want you to do this. And then to get 10 more drinks and do it again!

BauhausOfEliott · 04/06/2026 15:23

It's fine - that's literally what the stamp card is for!

You've already bought ten other things, you just didn't buy them on the same day that you're getting your freebie. I promise you it's fine.

It's no different from buying something in a supermarket or Boots with your clubcard points. It's a loyalty scheme.

tripleginandtonic · 04/06/2026 15:18

I got my free birthday sweet treat at Greggs abd didn't buy a drink to go with it.

Lmnop22 · 04/06/2026 15:16

Sophiehoney · 04/06/2026 15:04

Would you think differently if you weren't walking out with it but were taking a table?
I wouldn't, but JW if you would as this is what friend is mortified about?

Nope not at all!

In fact this morning I used my free drink and sat down for an hour. They give them out as in incentive to use their business consistently and not to buy coffees elsewhere - you are doing THEM the favour with your business!

MyMilchick · 04/06/2026 15:13

Sophiehoney · 04/06/2026 15:04

Would you think differently if you weren't walking out with it but were taking a table?
I wouldn't, but JW if you would as this is what friend is mortified about?

Of course not. The staff do not care either 😂

MyMilchick · 04/06/2026 15:11

of course it's not unreasonable, your earned the free drink by buying a loyal customer to the cafe and I can guarantee the staff wouldn't bat an eyelid or give it a second thought. Your friends are being weird

Groaaan · 04/06/2026 15:09

Of course it’s ok. Your friends are weird, how do they manage with other non-events? 😅

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