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AIBU to think a swearing shopper should have been asked to leave?

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Nofunnybusiness · 04/06/2026 14:11

In a small charity shop with DC3, a man with what appears to be learning /speach difficulties appears agitated and starts repeatedly telling the x2 men he is with (assume his carers) to F Off. The other men do not seem to be doing anything to calm the situation or stop him swearing. A member of staff walks past and appologies to me for his language, I ask if the manager is about and if he can be asked to leave the shop. Another shopper hears this and is absolutely horrified that I have asked if he can leave, her view is that we should just ignore him as he doesn't know what he is saying (I'm not convinced about that). The shop lady did say she was not going to ask him to leave and they did leave quite quickly after that, although not straight away. Generally interested to hear your thoughts!

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Changingplace · 04/06/2026 14:16

So many angles of why no, they shouldn’t be asked to leave by a member of (likely voluntary) staff.

If he did become abusive towards the staff why should they have to deal with it, especially when they’re likely volunteers.

He likely had Tourette’s/mental health issues hence the workers with him.

BotterMon · 04/06/2026 14:15

If it bothered you so much why didn't you leave? The fact that the person had 2 carers with them should tell you everything.

TheSmallAssassin · 04/06/2026 14:13

My thoughts are that you don't sound like a very nice person.