AIBU to think a swearing shopper should have been asked to leave?

I work with some people like this. If the person has two carers with them, it's for a reason. Whilst it can be unpleasant for other people, the support workers should know what they're doing and how to de-escalate the situation. Other people getting involved is usually very unhelpful. Getting someone in a very heightened state out of somewhere safely is not always easy and can be very stressful. This could have been a great way of teaching children about diversity and being non-judgemental to people with disabilities IMHO.

Somebody who requires 2 carers is severely disabled and the op was asking that he be kicked out of the shop so yes shes an ability trying to induce a charity shop to discriminate against him.
Also we dont know what his disability/s are but just tge ops assumption that he has some sort of learning disability

The world seems to be becoming increasingly intolerant of those with struggles. Back in the 80's I grew up near the local Psychiatric Hospital and bumping into residents out and about was very normal. They were all treated by locals with kindness and understanding. Occasionally if someone was causing issues someone might contact the hospital who would respond, but no-one was hostile or blaming them for being the way they were.

Not passing an opinion here, but ime working in charity shops, the carers make a bee-line for those shops - sometimes the only ‘browsing’ places left in high streets.

Also even if he was sent out of the shop the swearing has already been heard at this point.

Well, they'd already heard them.
Well yes, but the OP could use it as a lesson for her kids... If you aren't happy with circumstances, you have the power to leave. Or like others have suggested, use it as a lesson in compassion for learning difficulties.

Swear words are symbolic of anger and sometimes aggression and would be alarming to children (or adults) who weren't used to them. I hate the way they're being normalised and we're all supposed to just shrug and accept it.
Again, nobody has said to shrug and accept it. The OP asked for him to be thrown out and was told no... her option then is to say "I don't want to listen to this, I'm leaving". Plenty of people swear not in anger but in joy or trying to be funny etc. Some people have conditions like tourrettes and can't even contain their use of language.

The man may not be able to control his swearing - OK - but his carers should have quietly taken him out of the shop.
We can all speculate how we would opt to deal with this scenario but realistically the carers are the best placed to know what the safest / most effective way of handling it was. They can't very well remove him from every single public place if this is a constant condition that he maybe doesn't even understand.

We can only control our own actions. The carers didn't remove him, the shop didn't want to remove him, the OP can only remove herself.

As others have said the fact he had two carers suggests he has very high needs. The carers are likely to ignore the swearing as it may be that he can't help it (tourettes) or maybe they need to ignore it as by engaging with it it leads to more challenging behaviour.

If your child is that young they may not have been aware of bad words being said...and if they were old enough and did notice this suggests they have already been exposed to them and also maybe they are old enough to explain that some people may behave differently.

@Hoardasurass
Just because somebody has learning difficulties, doesn’t mean that asking them to stop using foul language in front of children, would constitute discrimination ffs! What world are we living in?! Swearing as a result of ticks (ie: Tourette’s) and telling someone to fuck off are quite noticeably different! Good grief

No she is used to living around people with disabilities

Welcome to the real world. People swear and your child will realise that. Had it been a person without additional needs, yes, ask if they can be turfed out. Someone with additional needs, with 2 carers, obviously doesn’t have the ability to ‘read the room’. The world doesn’t revolve around you I’m afraid.

There's a difference between 'thrown out of the shop', which I don't think anyone is suggesting here, and the carers gently and calmly taking him out when he became sweary. I've seen cases where people with LD do things which wouldn't be acceptable otherwise and the happy medium is surely NOT to scold them but to take them out of the situation calmly and do something else - I suppose as you'd do with a screaming child.

Person with additional needs and you decide to be a busybody no wonder the other person made you aware of the fact.

You acknowledge that he has learning disabilities/mental health disorder yet still want him thrown out of the shop. I appreciate it's not pleasant to hear, however the support staff may well be following his behaviour support plan and are ignoring the behaviour as a defusion technique.

I think it's trickier when the behaviour is potentially intimidating and scary to onlookers.

Well, they'd already heard them.

Swear words are symbolic of anger and sometimes aggression and would be alarming to children (or adults) who weren't used to them. I hate the way they're being normalised and we're all supposed to just shrug and accept it.

The man may not be able to control his swearing - OK - but his carers should have quietly taken him out of the shop.

I was once pushed over by an aggressive man in a shop (no carers, but clearly had learning difficulties). It wasn't his fault on a deep level but it's not OK for anyone, learning difficulties or not, to behave aggressively verbally or physically in public.
(I was in this man's way as he charged into a shop and he just gave me a massive shove and then shouted at me - I hadn't done anything to provoke him, btw).

Some people are living with a disability severe enough that they need 2 carers to help them carry out everyday tasks.

Some people are intolerant arseholes.

I think it's best to assume that there are things you don't know and that people are doing the best they can. One of my children has complex needs - you wouldn't know it to look at him, and it may look like I'm doing nothing about his behaviour, including swearing. But I'm supporting him and managing his needs and doing my best to ensure it doesn't impact other people directly.

You should watch that film I Swear, might be insightful

Instead of using this as a teaching moment for your DD that not everyone is the same, and that some people may need more accomodation because of their disability; you choose to be annoyed that the individual wasnt made to leave.

Your priorities are skewed.

That’s not remotely similar to the OP situation

I had similar on the bus two weeks ago. This older guy came on (with a walker) and started calling the driver an effing cxxt. Over and over again. Everyone was getting annoyed. I turned and spoke to him and told him to zip it and that nobody was interested in hearing his abuse. He shut up. People thanked me for speaking up. When he got off he went back into psycho mode. Clearly disturbed but when should others have to put up with it

People swear in the street, on public transport and in many other places. Not sure why you'd expect a charity shop to be any different. Sometimes your child is going to hear people swear. It's not necessarily pleasant but that's life.

You had an opportunity infront fo DC3 to model empathy and tolerance towards others but instead chose to demonstrate ignorance and entitlement.

2:1 carers and you think he should be asked to leave? Come on now, you could easily have left if you were that bothered. Go back in 20 mins. Problem solved.